My son is 14 and dating a 14 year old girl. The girl's mother lies for bith of these kids so they can be together. I just found out that her daughter gave my son a BJ. How should I handle the mother?
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ANSWERS: 13
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Give her hubby a BJ see how they like them apples!
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Honestly i think you should let it be and just tell your son to use protection. this is coming from a 16 year old and i know how annoying and horrible it is to have parents invade ones personal life. so put it in the back of your head and continue on with your life
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uh ... how about SEPARATING the 2 CHILDREN at least until they are 18 ... before the girl gets herself pregnant and you then get STUCK helping pay out money and time and blood / sweat / tears RAISING the child YOURSELF because neither the girl (and obviously not her mother) are seemingly CAPABLE of responsibly raising another child, let alone in raising the child's mother ????? Also, you DO realize that in THIS "day and age" that BOTH of you parents (the mother of the boy AND especially the mother of the girl) ARE BOTH going to be seen by Child Protective Services as being LIABLE for allowing their children to become like "delinquent" and THE BOTH OF you DO risk having your children taken away into foster care by our KGB-like Government CPS social workers!!!! These days people are losing ALL of their rights, especially as parents! Why would you even allow this to continue when BOTH of you RISK never seeing your son or even your (possible future) grand-baby/son/daughter EVER AGAIN ?? GEEZUS !!
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You are irresponsible if you allow a 14 year old child to date. Act like a responsible person. DON'T ALLOW 14 YR OLD CHILDREN TO DATE. PERIOD.
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When parents find that they are losing control of their children, it is time to seek professional help. Find a counselor to help the child and parents.
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There is not much you can do about the mother. She is not right by enabling this but your son is more at fault than she is. If anything you need to do something with your son. If you can't discipline him yourself then send him to a military school. Blaming somebody else for your son's problems is not the way to handle this.
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Alright, first, your sons sexual relations are really none of your business, its kinda wierd that you know. and whats this lying so they can be together?
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I don't think you can stop it. I would teach your son about safe sex and hope that prevents his small mistake from turning into a big one. Unless you have a realistic way to get the other mom out of the picture so you have better control of their relationship I think that's the best move.
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why does she lie? do you not want them together? let them explore their sexuality in a SAFE, protected way. be sure to talk to your son.
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I think there isnt much you can do. I guess you could try sperating them like others suggest but he is likely to rebel and sneak around and see her anyways. I would communicate with him. Educate him on safe sex and the importance of wearing protection. I might also continue allowing them to see each other....but only at my own house under my supervision. I just noticed that this question was posted almost a year ago. How did things work?
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One of the thing that confuses parents are comments like the above that talk about "violating the trust" you have with your kids...or it being "none of your business"? If you got a new puppy, would you not keep it from wandering in the road? Kids are kids and they need parental guidance, rules,limitations. If a kid is trustworthy, you should not violate trust but until they are on their own...you can set limits, take away privileges. and stick your nose where ever it belongs not only to keep them safe but to set standards. Doing it with the right intentions and not getting overly emotional might help the kid accept it with less trouble but even if they fight you every step of the way...if they need the rules, intrusiveness...it is your job to do it!
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call her a bad parent in the middle of town in front of people :P she's acting wrong and people should know.
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i think a bj is not suitable before 15-16...ok lets say 16 yeah 16 but they are 14 so you should ask the mother this question: ''what kind of an adult are you?''
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