I have Pagan religious beliefs. My husband is Christian. I want to go to some Pagan groups in a town close to mine, but I don't know what to tell him. What should I do? He still thinks I am Christian.
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ketra1416
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You cannot keep such an important change in your life from your husband. No matter the consequences, you have to discuss this with him.
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If he is a non practicing christian I see no problems in confronting him.Also if your marriage is strong the both of you can agree that it is your choice.
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Hey cool, Paganism is at least a lot closer to the truth. I would either A) Consider telling him the truth, or B) Come up with a white lie.. something about a club of some sort, this really only works if you're that type of person though. Okay, okay... I'm not advocating lying to the spouse... I'd say the best thing to do is tell the truth, BUT if you are forced to keep this a secret then you don't really have any other choice but to lie do you? Spare me the crap about honesty being the best policy, people! Lying is a human thing, it happens everyday... sometimes lying is necessary, though not always the best thing to do.
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You better tell him now. I don't know what you thought you were doing by keeping that from him, but it was a bad idea. Especially if he's one of those born again types...
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So, let me get this straight- you married this man under the false pretenses that you are christian? What a HORRIBLE thing to do. Why did you marry this man if he wouldn't accept your religious beliefs? You need to come clean to him, because of your lie- and tell him flat out what you believe and that you lied to him all this time. If he leaves you, I would understand- no one likes to be lied to, especially someone who is not supposed to keep any secrets like that. Then, you go to your groups, and be happy that you can finally stop lying about your beliefs.
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Oh boy. You painted yourself into a corner with this one. Lies of ommission are as bad as outright lies, and you have to deal with the consequences of your choice. I DO NOT recommend that you continue hiding your beliefs from him. Trust him enough to have an honest conversation with him about your beliefs and your desire to research it. Don't attack his beliefs, but don't appoligize for yours either. However, do apploogize for not being straight with him all along.
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OK you need to tell him the truth and apologize, and if he is a TRUE Christian he will forgive you (if you are sorry) and won't leave you, but there is the fact that Jesus says not to be unequally yoked with unbelievers, and even though we Christians are against divorce he may take that to heart and leave you. I hope not though! I will pray for you :D
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Hello sister, you need God's mercy. You cannot leave your Christian faith and your Christian husband and start attending pagan meetings, that is a sad situation. What happened to your relationship with the Lord Jesus Christ if you had any? If you have been a true Christian, you should be worried about drifting to paganism because that means you are embracing the way of the devil and you are condemning yourself to eternal death. Choose life, choose love, choose Jesus Christ and choose to keep your marriage intact. I pray God will bring light your way and wait to hear a good testimony from you. Don't be deceived by cheap devilish advices, you are definitely going astray. Lots of brotherly and godly love to you.
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I'm really hoping that you have recently converted, or something to that extent. If you married him, with him thinking your Christian, your marriage has some major flaws. You need to talk to him about your beliefs. He can choose to accept them or not. Have you given any thought to how you plan to raise your children? Go to your group. I'll even say you can go once, and not tell him where your going. If you hate the group, then you can procrastinate a bit longer on having this discussion with him. Points to bear in mind. Religion is a personal choice. He is not wrong for not being Pagan. You are not right becuase you are Pagan. You need to see where he stands on the issue. Some people are so into their beilefs that they can not be with someone who doesn't share there beliefs. That is something you may have to face. Don't forget you can ask for help. She is always there to guide you. Best of luck!
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Why in the world does your HUSBAND think you are Christian? I have yet to hear of a Pagan path that encourages lies, deceit, and manipulation. Perhaps your next year and a day of study (or equivalent) should be in ethics. You should tell this man the truth. He has a right to make decisions based upon knowledge and reality. Oh, and this post comes from a practicing Wiccan.
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lol, What church did you two get married in? In the future you may wish to be a little more open with your man.
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Most of the posts are harsh. It all depends on if your husband is interested in talking about it. It saddens my husband that I am interested in paganism while he is a Christian because he wants me and our children to go to heaven. We teach our children to explore spirituality. I do not think you are a liar or horrible or any of those things. You are interested in something he does not know about. I think reading, learning and exploring is what all human beings are obilgated to do, including Christians. I do not think my husband would want me to go to meetings with other pagans until I educated myself so I would not be drawn in by false information. I do think your husband may be supportive if he witnesses positive growth in you due to the teachings of paganism. Small discussions may lead to the chance to meet like minded individuals
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You need to tell him the truth. You can't have a long-term, close, loving relationship without being truthful with one another.
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Oh my... Well, hopefully he's open to these things. I would tell him soon. Think of what you're going to say and how you phrase it before you have "That Talk" with him. Make sure you let him know that you respect his beliefs, but don't lose any ground either. Your beliefs are your own, don't let him change you. He needs to understand that these things are as they are and aren't going to change. Don't be surprised if he gets upset. Let him cool down and get used to the idea.
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If you were a pagan and lied about it when you married your husband, he has every right to be upset and you do owe it to him to tell him the truth. That said, you still have the right to practice your pagan religious beliefs. If your paganism developed after you were married, you also have every right to practice your religious beliefs and attend pagan events. Bottom line, tell him the truth unless you're literally afraid to do so, in which case, you should leave him. It's also his right to be upset if you deceived him. It sounds like you could benefit from marriage counseling. If you're afraid to discuss something so important, your marriage is in trouble.
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If he can't love you for who you are then he probably isn't the kind of person you want to be with. If he truly loves you he should respect and honor your beliefs. That's the beuty of freethinking.
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You should be honest with him. A relationship is built on honesty and communication, and if he thinks you're something you're not, then it's built on a lie. If he cannot accept you for who you are and what you believe, then you have to ask yourself why you would want to be with someone like that anyway.
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