Is it ok that my 2 month old needs so much attention at bedtime to fall asleep and will this change in time or have I developed a bad sleeping habit already and how do I change it if so?
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mrsamemak
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Don't worry, at two months old your baby is too young to have developed a permanent attachment to your bedtime routine. A newborn needs pretty constant contact with Mom or Dad in order to feel safe. When he (or she) is ready to be a bit more independent, you'll know!
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It's very normal, as doobie said, at 2 months it's very important for baby to spend lots of time with you, and bedtime is no exception. You can develop a consistant bedtime routine now and slowly but surely your child will be ready to be put down easier. It can take months for some, years for others. But it WILL change. Just a side note, in case you were considering it, in my opinon your child is FAR to young for the "cry it out" meathod.
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A baby won't start developing a specific bedtime routine until they are between 4-6 months. So you needn't worry yet. I would start your routine now but I wouldn't be too "strict" about it. Like Mini said I think your baby is probably too young for the "cry it out" method. You could, however, try laying the baby down and if she crys let her cry for 1 minute, go in to her room if she doesn't stop and comfort her *don't pick her up though*, then leave again and let her cry for 2 minutes, continue this (increasing time between returning to the bedroom 1 minute each time) until she goes to sleep. This shouldn't take very long but if you get uncomfortable with the time amount you are letting her cry always trust your motherly instinct and go to her.
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The child is still developing that trust in you that they need at that age. Two months is way too young to ignore them after you put them to bed. Wait until about five or six months to start letting them cry it out.
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Don't worry. 2 months is very young. They are learning how to fall asleep and how to trust you to get them there at this age. It's a great time to develop a nighttime bed-putting ritual that will become familiar and trustworthy to your baby. Time tested techniques include lowering the lights, soft music (use the same music each evening if you can like some soft harp music so it builds an association), rocking and feeding in a rocking chair, patting on the back or butt, singing, wearing in a sling. Things like that used in conjunction really do the trick for most babies. Be patient. Your baby had your tummy to sleep in for 9 months. It was warm and above all noisy and you were always there. You are asking him or her to sleep alone in a silent and stationary crib and he or she is not happy with the change. Your baby is not crying to manipulate you though it may feel like that sometimes. He or she is crying because they need your love and attention. Great book is the Dr Sears Baby Sleep Book which has more detail on different techniques.
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