Does he have court ordered visitation? If not, then you don't have to send her to see him.

Children wishing to refuse to see father http://tinyurl.com/ChildRefusingVisit All Children Deserve Two Parents Georgia Supreme Court Chief Justice Leah Ward Sears has noted, children born to unmarried women and to those in cohabiting relationships “must often overcome increased risks of poverty, education failure, child abuse, delinquency, emotional distress and mental illness.”…….the lack of a father’s guidance in children’s lives is a major cause of their suffering. “Marriage is the best child welfare, crime prevention, anti-poverty program we have,” http://tinyurl.com/ChildrenDeserve2Parents Fortune Magazine - Fatherless Families & Crime “Ominously, the most reliable predictor of crime is neither poverty nor race but growing up fatherless.” http://tinyurl.com/FatherlessFamiliesCrime Stanford University - Divorce, Nontraditional Families, and Its Consequences For Children "We know that children of divorced parents have more emotional and behavioral problems and do less well in school than children who live with both their Parent." http://www.stanford.edu/~rmahony/Divorce.html Joint Custody "My parents divorced when I was 2 years old. Because I was so young, I cannot remember anything of how the divorce actually felt at the time. But 12 years later, I am quite content with my life and my parents. Unlike many divorced couples with children, neither parent has primary custody of me, but rather, I switch between my parents' houses every other day, spending roughly equal time with my mother and my father." Equal Time - A Teen’s Views On Joint Custody Charlotte Juerge Newsweek - Dec 15, 2008 http://tinyurl.com/TeenView-JointCustody http://tinyurl.com/TeenView-JointCustody-Video Father Makes Two - James Cook (Deceased 03/09), Joint Custody Assoc. By Margot Roosevelt, Nov. 11, 2003, Time Magazine http://tinyurl.com/FatherMakesTwo Single mothers and the baby boom For some, the growth of single-mother families is a sign of female empowerment. If children without fathers fare worse than children in two-parent families, say defenders of single mothers, the answer is better pay for women and better social programs. Yet even in Sweden with its generous welfare state, a major 2003 study found that children raised in single-parent homes were at significantly higher risk for addictions and serious psychiatric problems. Single mothers and the baby boom By Cathy Young - Boston Globe May 26, 2009 /26/single_mothers_and_the_baby_boom/ http://tinyurl.com/SingleMothersBabyBoom Mom Loses Custody For Alienating Dad Ruling a 'wake-up call' for parents who use kids to punish ex-partners http://www.thestar.com/article/576619 http://tinyurl.com/AlienatingDad When Moms Are Gatekeepers http://www.time.com/time/nation/article/0,8599,1219962,00.html

My sister went through/is going through a similar situation. She is 17 now though, so she stopped seeing her dad im pretty sure. Good luck, either way.