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by MIA on June 11th, 2007

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Can you give me your reasons for divorce being justifiable or are you against divorce in any circumstances?

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  • by Anonymous on June 11th, 2007

    Anonymous

    I can think of 2 justifiable reasons: Cheating or if the relationship is abusive and risking your (or your kids) safety.

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  • by radiantradha on December 28th, 2008

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    as a child of divorce, i went through alot because of my parent's inability to work together. I am all for divorce, but it is important to establish some sort of SYSTEM between the parents. One for a schedule for where the kids will go, and a system for how the parents will communicate to eachother.
    My parents were unable to communicate, and that made my teenage days a living hell since i was the interpreter.

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  • by Gingerminx on December 28th, 2008

    Gingerminx

    If two people no longer wish to be married then its justified. And who do they have to justify it to? Its their lives why can't they live it there way?

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  • by PT girl 08 on January 28th, 2008

    PT girl 08

    Divorce is only an option if there is abuse (in some form) or infidelity.

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  • by aydeology on January 28th, 2008

    aydeology

    If the partner is abusive (mentally or physically), cheating/lying, self-destructive, or you do not think they are a suitable parent for your kids. No divorce is, as AntigoneRising put it, cruel. Being stuck in a relationship would be terrible. And knowing that you could never be happy again is a prison sentence.

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  • by UneFille on January 28th, 2008

    UneFille

    Divorce is very serious. I would explore all measures of alternative before making such a leap that you may regret. Why not try taking a year of separation to think first? If you find at the end of that year that you continue to feel an aversion toward that person, an aversion that you believe cannot be altered...then perhaps you can begin to move forward with such a breech. Good luck.

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  • by AntigoneRising on January 28th, 2008

    AntigoneRising

    My divorce was justifiable. Most divorces are. People don't go through that money and expense for no reason. The fact that you aren't privy to the reasons doesn't give anyone the right to judge the divorce as unjustifiable. No one has any obligation whatsoever to prove to anyone but the judge that their divorce is necessary. It is absolutely none of anyone else's business.

    A stance against divorce under any circumstances is just unethical and cruel. That says that no matter how badly someone treats you, you have to stay married to him/her and can never have a second chance at marital happiness. That's cruel and inhumane.

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  • by Disarming Alice on June 11th, 2007

    Disarming Alice

    The only reason you should get a divorce is because you are positively sure you are no longer in love, why should you cheat yourself out of feeling loved and understood and CHEATING there is nothing to justify that once a cheater always a cheater!

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  • by Jessica on December 28th, 2008

    Jessica

    If you are truly miserable and you have tried repeatedly to repair your marriage, or if you are physically or mentally abused.

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  • by Chrissy on December 28th, 2008

    Chrissy

    If your partner is cruel and selfish, then if you divorce him, he may turn the kids against you by mixing truth with lies, using emotional blackmail, etc. The court will allow the kids to choose which parent they wish to live with, and, by dramatic displays of his emotional pain, he may lead them to believe that he needs them more than you do, and it is their duty to stay with him. If your partner is more used to getting his way, and more ruthless than you, then he is probably more likely to win the custody battle. Check out parental alienation on the website MATCH (mothers apart from their children). Some of the women on this website have no contact at all with their children. If you think you could be a victim of parental alienation, then consider either taking your children to a woman's sanctuary where he will be unable to contact them. If you cannot get into a sanctuary, maybe consider staying until they leave home, particularly if you think your partner is capable of doing severe long term damage to your children's mental health if he does succeed in alien ating them from you.

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  • by asweetguy4u2know saya R.I.P Nelson on February 1st, 2008

    asweetguy4u2know saya R.I.P Nelson

    Cheating or any kind of physical or mental abuse. No one should be forced to stay in a relationship where their partner is either a cheater or abusive in any way.

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  • by BigDaddyBS on February 1st, 2008

    BigDaddyBS

    There are a lot of reasons for divorce, but one where it seems it should be mandatory are abuse (spiritual, verbal, intellectual, monitary, physical). Especially the last one - It's NOT love when there's abuse. Abuse can escellate(sp?) to physical and WORSE (death).

    AND, kids who grow up in abusive situations, usually end up as abusers themselves.

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  • by Nice Guy In Bay Area on June 18th, 2009

    Nice Guy In Bay Area

    OK, my second wife divorced me. Her grounds were the generic "irreconcilable differences." Biblically, there is only one justifiable grounds for divorce and that is unfaithfulness. I also think that if the one spouse is abusive to the other, that divorce is justified. This abuse could be physical, emotional or verbal. But, none of those three are Biblical.

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  • by Joseph on February 1st, 2008

    Joseph

    There is only one justifiable reason for divorce- infidility. even with that if you are still in love you can still stay together. All other rasons such as abuse both physical, emotional, etc could be dealt with. eg if a partner is abusive, you can talk to him to stop if not talk to a counselor, a pastor, or his/her good friend. It may be due to the fact that the 2 doesn't understand each other.

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  • by I love my baby on January 28th, 2008

    I love my baby

    If two people are not happy and it shows (normally it does) Or if the two argue and fight, it is time to end it! The kids are going to have a hard time being happy. I am speaking from experience I witnessed many fights between my mom and dad and I can tell you, it is not good for a kid to see it!

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  • by Tweety on June 18th, 2009

    Tweety

    Divorce is a necessary action in some cases. I believe that infidelity (cheating), mental or physical abuse (spouse and/or kids) and drug use/abuse are all legitimate reasons for divorce.

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  • by KelJo85 on June 18th, 2009

    KelJo85

    I think the only time divorce should come into play is if their is infidelity or both people are extremely unhappy. I hate when people get married and then get divorced not even a year later. Marriage is WORK...when times get tough, don't bail...work on it!

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  • by boogysplit on June 18th, 2009

    boogysplit

    infidelity...that can certainly be a relationship killer...and yes, it is justifiable if you can no longer trust the person...that is backed up by law as a matter of fact.

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  • by MRABSOLUTE on June 18th, 2009

    MRABSOLUTE

    Being married is a choice, if either partner at any point 100% does not want to be married anymore then it is completely justified. What would be unjustified is having the expectation that someone should be prisoner to a loveless marriage. Of course they shouldn't have taken the vows in the first place if they didn't truly love each other but as most of you probably know its hard to hold any type of measuring stick up to love. Most people on here probably know that from their first love (the one that seemed it would last forever) that we can often misjudge things in this world. Especially love.

    Peace

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  • by JustCurious on January 28th, 2008

    JustCurious

    I don't think anyone should be married to someone they don't want to be married to anymore. What's the point in staying married?

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