There are lotions and lubes out there that contain mild desensitizers like benzocaine. It won't feel numb or change too much of the feeling... he'll just last longer. And once that confidence begins to build, cut back and he'll naturally last longer.

This is coming from a male point of view. If a man masturbates about 20 minutes or so before haveing sex, it takes much longer for him to "Go" during sex

try different positions like you on top... i dont recommend doggy or missionary.. doggy you get deeper penetration and he will go faster..

Prolong Cream, or a product like that. Slightly numbing, just make sure it's absorbed or you use a condom, or you may end up a little numb too. Creimer's idea is probably the best natural solution. Then there's always thinking about baseball and nuns.

Make him think of things that don't turn him on:

Switch positions often, go slow, tell him to think about other things. Most men are quick to come, don't let them fool you. I've never been with a man who could last more than 15 minutes, unless he was on something.

Trogan makes a condom in a black box that is used to make you last longer. I do know this, it has alot to do with him mentally. I have had woman I could NOT cum with and I have had woman I could not go but a minute or two with. The ones that make me cum fast are the ones that I am really into. The ones that you know are just too good to be doin the things that I am doin with them. Its 75% mental in my book. I can usually last awhile, except for 1 or 2 that just WOW me. You could also get him off during foreplay, allowing him to perform longer on the next round

I usually do better in doggie style,providing i dont look down at her(looking down too long will mke for a short nite)My worst position is missonary.That provides too much stimulous;felling her,seeing how what im doing is effecting her,and hearing her.DEFINATELY A SHORT NITE.If he can turn off one of those then he may start doing better.

There is a standard treatment of premature ejaculation known as the "squeeze technique." Look it up on Google.

There are many books on the subject of "male sexuality" that discuss this. Stress can be an issue. B/f can try to master taoist sexual techniques: http://www.sexuality.org/mantak.html -- if he can master this, he can have dry orgasms whenever he wants, and never worry about prolonging again. Also -- Korean Ginseng Tea (also known as red ginseng tea) taken 15-30 minutes before sex will help. You can also help -- learn to feel his progress towards orgasm, then take pro-active measures to "turn the heat down" before it happens.

... try learning the Taoist Secrets of Love, there is such a thing as the multi orgasmic man, have him learn how and you will both be much happier. http://www.pacifictao.com/ In Tai Chi, and a few other martial arts, self control extends to the control of internal organs, body temperature, and of course, self control during sex.

Get him a cock ring.

there is such a thing as male keggls. look it up, under taoist sex secrets.

there is such a thing as male keggls. look it up, under taoist sex secrets.

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