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by saint nist on June 6th, 2007

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Why do gay men & lesbian women want to get married?

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  • by Penny The Wise on June 6th, 2007

    Penny The Wise

    We want the same rights as the straight couples- to be able to marry the one we love. Plain and simple.

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  • by El Soupy spanish for the soupy on June 6th, 2007

    El Soupy spanish for the soupy

    for the same reason straight men and women want to get married..

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  • by PipHalsey on June 6th, 2008

    PipHalsey

    I'll answer your question, with another question. Why are we treated like we're another species?

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  • by Jeffers on June 6th, 2007

    Jeffers

    As many have said, for the same reason straight people marry...

    Some of the specific reasons include:
    To express a commitment to another person to family and society. To realize all the automatic legal benefits that come to a straight couple. To have a socially and legally supportive framework for our relationship in times of relational-stress.

    My relationship with my partner is entering it's 17th year... that's longer than the majority of heterosexual marriages last... why shouldn't I be allowed to marry?

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  • by Squirrel Face on August 14th, 2008

    Squirrel Face

    Why do people want to stop them from getting married?

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  • by redcatt63 is around here somewhere...... on March 13th, 2008

    redcatt63 is around here somewhere......

    for the same reasons straight people want to get married. I am in a committed, monogamous relationship, and I think I should have the same right to marry as any other couple.

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  • by Sweet T on March 13th, 2008

    Sweet T

    Because they're in love. Although love shouldn't be the only reason to marry, it's an important ingredient in the most successful relationships.

    To make a commitment. They've decided that they want to be together forever, knowing each other's faults and failings.

    It's part of your culture. The ceremony of marriage is an integral part of your cultural or religious beliefs and an essential part of your core value system.

    To start a family. They've both enjoyed a secure and committed relationship for some time and feel marriage is the best environment in which to bring up children.

    To celebrate. Because they want their family and friends to share with them in your happiness and commitment as a couple.

    It's the right time. They have a solid and secure relationship and it feels like the logical next step.

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  • by Nathan Explosion on March 13th, 2008

    Nathan Explosion

    same reason anyone else does...

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  • by Old School on June 6th, 2007

    Old School

    There are legal consequences to marriage that are not available to non-married people, no matter how close and committed they may be.

    For example, in the absence of a will, property from one married partner automatically transfers to the surviving spouse.

    Another is health care coverage. Not all health insurance plans explicitly cover "domestic partners" (although many do).

    The list of such benefits is fairly lengthy.

    While it is true that most of these benefits can be contractually arranged, not all of them can (e.g. tax benefits) and it would be immensely easier for the same-sex couple to just be legally married so that all of those benefits are automatically granted.

    My prediction is that, eventually, we will have something called 'civil partnership' or 'domestic partnership' wherein two people can be recognized as "married" for legal purposes, but we won't call it "marriage" so as not to offend people who think God cares who marries whom.

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  • by lovesuck on June 6th, 2007

    lovesuck

    well then you could ask the question why do straight people want 2 get married

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  • by DiSTurBiA on March 13th, 2008

    DiSTurBiA

    the same reason any two str8 people would want to, for love.

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  • by Seraphim Shinobi on June 6th, 2007

    Seraphim Shinobi

    why do straight men and women want to get married???

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  • by Inspector Javert on June 6th, 2007

    Inspector Javert

    Why ever not?! Why do staright people want to get married? Because they love eachtoher and want to be together forever - why can't homosexuals have the same rights!?

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  • by NightTripper on August 14th, 2008

    NightTripper

    because they want to form official alliances through their marriages and eventually take over the world and make us all be gay!

    But seriously, why do straight people want to get married? I imagine the reason is the same or pretty similar

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  • by buxtonite ..slowly losing my mind on June 5th, 2008

    buxtonite ..slowly losing my mind

    for one reason and one reason only ...love!, we ALL fall in love at some stage of our lives whether straight/gay/lesbian its the same emotions and feelings for everyone and this is a beautiful thing to most logical people , the only ones who want to make it dirty are backward thinking religious hypocrites who would rather pry into other peoples private lives instead of looking at their own and fixing up their problems....its easier to throw stones at other happiness

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  • by tamarakh is ready for a vacation on June 6th, 2007

    tamarakh is ready for a vacation

    Why do heterosexual men and women want to get married? To have the chance to spend the rest of your life with the one you love, to prove your love and devotion to another person, tax breaks, weddings are fun...

    The homosexual community wants the right to marry for the same reasons the heterosexual community wants it.

    Why wouldn't they?

    I'm still trying to figure out why some people have a problem with letting gays and lesbians marry; it's not like they're asking to marry YOU. And seriously...who would it hurt? And if I see one thing about the "sanctity of marriage..." Well, you probably won't like what I'll have to say, lol.

    Here are a couple of interesting articles written on gay marriage by a gay man (with whom I am good friends, forgive my bias, lol). They're really interesting to read, and worth the time to check out, so please do :)

    http://patrickletellier.com/articles/apocalypse.html

    http://patrickletellier.com/articles/spouses.html

    They're both a couple of years old, but still very relevant to today's issues with gay marriage.

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  • by Shelby on June 6th, 2007

    Shelby

    Just because they are gay, doesn't make their relationships any different than straight people. They want to get married for the same reasons as everyone else.

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  • by mekare on June 6th, 2007

    mekare

    (i'm not the first to say this but ....) for the same reasons straight people want to get married.

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  • by Captain Murphy on June 6th, 2008

    Captain Murphy

    Why do straight people want to get married? Gay men and women love each other too.

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  • by macdjug-Paxvobiscum on March 13th, 2008

    macdjug-Paxvobiscum

    I would imagine because they love one another and want to make a commitment to each other, just like other people.

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  • by jin jang on March 13th, 2008

    jin jang

    The same reason that straight men and woman want to marry,social pressure from the bible community as if it was a sin to live together,for love,and for imagined security.

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  • by Kandace on March 13th, 2008

    Kandace

    IM A LESIBIAN IVE BEEN WITH NY PARTNER FOR 5 YRS AND I LOVE EVERY BIT OF IT.ITS SO MUCH BETTER BEING GAY YOUR MORE HAPPY.WE WANT TO GET MARRIED AND ADOPT.YOU CANT HELP WHO U FALL IN LOVE WITH SO WHY ARE THESE PEOPLE HATING ON GAYS????????

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  • by TREMendo on March 11th, 2009

    TREMendo

    all I have to say, that people protesting such rights have been using the religion cover for the whole thing; I ask, if it's such a thing of religious reason that people get married, then why do atheists marry?

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  • by ashbash on March 5th, 2009

    ashbash

    i agree, its for the same reason straight people get married. you dont choose to love a person, love chooses the person for you.

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  • by Ali on March 5th, 2009

    Ali

    I would thing it is the same reason other people get married. They want to make the emotional connection they already have legally recognized. If something happens to my husband that makes him unable to make decisions for himself that responsibility falls to me, his wife. It would be difficult for others to interfere. Basically the law is on my side. If you are unable to marry the person you trust the most that person may not be the one who makes decisions for you. That is just one reason. I'm sure each couple would have their own specific reasons that is just one idea that comes to mind.

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  • by Anonymous on March 5th, 2009

    Anonymous

    For the same reason everyone else does--to declare their commitment to one another and to have the legal rights that come with marriage--including hospital visitations. I think we should let them marry. After all, most straight people don't seem very interested in marriage anymore, so why not extend the privilege to someone who wants it?

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  • by Anonymous on June 6th, 2008

    Anonymous

    Because they are seeking equal rights. If you love someone and want them, then you should be allowed to marry them.

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  • by Jaded on June 5th, 2008

    Jaded

    For the same reason heterosexuals want to get married - to have a legally recognized bond and to share their love.

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  • by 23Skidoo on June 5th, 2008

    23Skidoo

    I don't want to be intentionally rude or anything, but this is a silly question.

    Why would any two people want to get married? For their own reasons.

    Think of Brittany and Whats-his-face who were hitched for like 14 hours.

    Everyone has the right to do it - it hurts no one.

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  • by anonymous on March 13th, 2008

    anonymous

    Why? Because we love our partners just like straight couples love each other.

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  • by Kizz miazz on March 13th, 2008

    Kizz miazz

    In the USA it is advantageous for 2 people to get married for many reasons.

    One is health insurance and the other is having someone you can trust to make decisions for you if you cannot.

    But the bottom line is when 2 people are in love and they want to make a life together, they want to get married.

    Love is love no matter if it's a man and woman or a man and man or woman and woman.

    Sharing things as simple as car insurance can help save money.

    To put your head in the sand and make believe it's not there is ignorant. People deserve the same rights as anybody else.

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  • by Saturnalia on March 5th, 2009

    Saturnalia

    I want the option to get married just like everyone other straight person, my sisters, my friends my colleagues.

    I want full protection for my children if or when i have them.

    I want my relationship to be properly recognised and respected just like other relationships...marriage is equated with a special status in Irish society,there is just more acknowledgement and credibility with your r'ship if you say you're married (stupid i know)

    I want to wear a nice dress and do the hokey pokey with my beautiful partner. :)

    I want to experience a loving marriage, use all the lessons from my parents failed marriage to create a strong bind with my partner.

    I want to see my friends relationship as a married couple (theyve been together 27 yrs) celebrated and cherished by mainstream society just as straight couple would receive well wishes and praise.


    I want equality.

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  • by Tocxica on August 31st, 2008

    Tocxica

    They want to be miserable like the rest of us. Or at least, that's what my dad always said, and I figure I'll listen to him since he's been through it 4 times.

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  • by MrsConrad on August 14th, 2008

    MrsConrad

    there is no difference in the love that ppl share wether they are man and woman or woman and woman or man and man. And how dare you downsize that.

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  • by female charlie on August 14th, 2008

    female charlie

    The same reason str8 people do: Love!
    are u that dense!??!

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  • by Bea on June 6th, 2008

    Bea

    Because they are trying to find some other way to rebel more.

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  • by Jo on June 6th, 2008

    Jo

    Why does anyone want to get married? Really, they have the same reasons as everyone else, seriously, why wouldn't they?

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  • by Carson_S on December 16th, 2010

    Carson_S

    It's important for straight people to get married if they're going to raise children. It's the very foundation of every society. It keeps men in check and protects the rights of women who can't work with young children at home. It also guarantees that neither partner can just walk away without painful legal consequences. We all know that divorce is at an all time high and yes, many straight couples are ruining the whole thing for everybody. I don't think it's a bad idea to allow gay marriage at all, if you’re in love, if you plan to raise children and want to be together forever. I only question the whole idea of Why Gay Men would Want to get married in the first place? We can't logically say, "for the same reasons straight people want to." Marriage is serious business for most couples because it means absolute monogamy. Straight marriages have “Rules” that can’t be broken. They know any extramarital sex will be a fatal mistake, and they must work very hard to keep their relationships alive. On the flip side, Lesbians may value the institution of marriage “til death do they part” but men are making the whole thing up. I've never met a gay man who was monogamous no matter what they tell you. I could count on one finger the number of straight men I see who are happily married, they only do it because women insist on it. Women dream of getting married, men dream of having sex every night. Are we so delusional that we can't see that a married gay man has no intention of living with the same limitations as a married straight man? Why then the mad fervor to call a civil union a "marriage?" Why are so many men who can't even get a date on the verge of tears because they can't get married? Please, go ahead and take your solemn marriage vows for all eternity... just don't get mad at me when we see the astronomical numbers for gay divorce. I am a gay man and I know how this works. Falling in love is easy... living with one human being for the rest of your life is another story. Having the option to leave when it’s over, without tedious legal consequences seems a whole lot smarter to me. I’ll vote for your right to get married my friend, but don’t be surprised if nobody ever asks you to marry them, or if they change their mind shortly down the road. Gay men will soon discover marriage is more than a fun ceremony… and divorce is a real bugar.

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  • by Vykie4XENAresLove4ev on December 12th, 2010

    Vykie4XENAresLove4ev

    every person can have dreams to fulfill, plans to work through, and admitting it or not somebody to go home to after work, somebody they love, and somebody who loves them above everything else. Some couples decide to get married, others don't. Gay and lesbian couples are just like all other couples. And those who decide to marry, would like to have the right to do so.
    They deserve the right, because sexual identity is just a slice of the whole person, and they are human beings just as anyone else.

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  • by catydid on December 3rd, 2010

    catydid

    Because they love each other. Why else? Not because they want to be dehumanized, like they are. Why does any couple in love want to be legal and spiritual partners? The bigger question is why do some groups feel so threatened by it?

    Religion, or the bigger question. Inheritance? That is how marriage started. Money, honey. I don't care what the sex of some one's partner is anymore. The feelings that they espouse and feel for one another should be the preeminent.

    Having been through a divorce in the past and a second marriage of more then 30 years. I feel that "anyone" who is willing to stay the course, good and bad years, deserves the benefits that I enjoy. God knows we so-called heteros are not leaving a good example for our children. A 50% divorce rate?

    This country lauds itself for having a division between church and state. Bull Puckies! This country, in spite of the founding fathers, still condemns and persecutes anyone who does not enjoy their prejudices.

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  • by kuntrygurl87 on November 22nd, 2010

    kuntrygurl87

    so we can be happy & be w/our soulmate. it's not f*cking rocket science!! wat ever happened 2 the pursuit of happiness that's listed in our constitution?

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  • by AsILayDying on January 31st, 2011

    AsILayDying

    why do you want to get married????

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  • by kuntrygurl87 on November 22nd, 2010

    kuntrygurl87

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  • by Ruby21103 on August 14th, 2008

    Ruby21103

    Why does anyone wanna get married? That's what I don't understand.

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  • by yellowcat16 on August 14th, 2008

    yellowcat16

    Looks like your question has been answered.

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  • by happydance on March 5th, 2009

    happydance

    it doesnt make sense...the real reson shud be bcuz they are in love and wnna hav sexbut its a sin to do it outside of marrige....wuts the point of gays marryin each ther if its still a sin..if they want to be commited b commited

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  • by hallagan on January 23rd, 2010

    hallagan

    So they can divorce each other later and one can take all the alimony money from the other plus half there retirement income as well as house depending on who has custody of the kids also get a check every month for child support.

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  • by InsomniacAthiest on March 11th, 2009

    InsomniacAthiest

    because it would strike a humiliating blow against thos christian bastards, hehe

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