I am thirteen and just broke up with my sixteen year old boyfriend people think I slept with him but I didn't now I'm dating one of my friends who is thirteen and he wants me to put-out because he thinks I'm not a virgin anymore. what should I do? HELP
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Tell your boyfriend the truth and also tell him if he can not wait for you to be ready then you dont want to be with him! You are only 13 and very few relationships at 13yo last long and if he can not wait then he is not worth being with in the first place!
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Relationships among teenagers are difficult. Probably the truth is the best policy to handle certain matters. If virginity is an issue for your friend this relationship is not convenient for you.
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Dump him! It sounds like the only reason he's with you is because he thinks you're going to have sex with him. Don't let him pressure you, I'm sure there are plenty of DUMB girls out there who will let him have his way. Don't be one of the dumb girls, please.
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You tell that little boy that he can get some when he has a job, a college degree, and you are married. remember sex is for making Babies and if you think you can have sex and not be at risk of getting pregnant you are WRONG. The minute you are pregnant I garuntee you that 13 year old boy will be no where to be found. Trust me, you have sex and eventually you will get pregnant. So the questions is, is this the "kid" you want to have a kid with and is this "kid" ready to be a daddy. If the logic I have explained to you doesnt work, tell that little boy he should go take a cold shower or date another girl. By the way, he doesnt love you no matter what he says cause thirteen year olds dont know what love is, they just know what emotions and feelings are and those do not equal love.
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Tell them all to go take a long walk off a short pier. Then break up with your pushy barely-teen boyfriend who clearly isn't about loving you, but is using you. Then hold off on all pushy boys and dating until YOU are ready, and then find someone who is interested in you, not their genitalia and give the whole thing another try. Rumors, you can do nothing but deny, and they may be unpleasant, but if you refuse to date, maybe people will not only start to believe you, but start to respect you, too.
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Screw him! Definetly not is the verb sense, but in the sense of forgetting him. You should leave him, because I would expect him to only be dating you because of your false "reputation."
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I don't mean to be harsh or any thing but that's probably the only reason he's with you if he's going to be like that!
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Well, its really none of his business if you are or not, but even if you were not, that doesnt mean you have to have sex with him. Who you sleep with is your choice. Any guy who doesn't take no for an answer the first time, only wants to get laid. Dump him and find a guy who respects you.
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dump him. he is only with you because he thinks he can get some. do you really want to be with a horndog like that? however a name like ghetto girl doesn't indicate the highest morals. you might want to see how you protray yourself. to you present yourself as not wanting sex or are you partisipating in really dirty jokes, dressing slutty, and consider dry-sex dancing? be proud of your morals and let people know you have them.
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Just to put this in the proper language for a thirteen-year-old ... tell him to go f*ck himself, and then dump him. By the way, if he's making such assumptions about you, he's not your friend, either.
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I would dump that boy who just wants to use you.
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You are not required to 'put out' to any guy you date even if you're not a virgin. This guy is obviously having problems respecting your boundaries. I'd say tell him to shut up about it. If it were me, I'd curb his ass.
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You're to young to be worried about this. YOu should be out playing with your friends and worrying about your education. I know it's hard sometime to talk to our parents but this is a good time to start. You'll be happy you did. Good luck and be safe.
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Do not put it out. Not only should you not be having sex at your age but the fact that this guy thinks just because you're a virgin no more, you should do the business with him - talk about wanting to take advantage of you for sex, not for wanting to be with you. Carry on having partners like this, you will BE PREGNANT and bang goes what's left of your childhood including fellas, who won't be interested for a while. Tell him to go and play with himself.
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Dump him! Let him know how immature he is acting and that when you are ready to have sex it will be with a man who understands and is willing to go at your pace. Only a child or a child minded individual would resort to pressure instead of romance to have sex with someone.
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Well, think about this: You can always "give it up" to anyone, probably at any time. But, the girls in your class who are not virgins anymore...they can never go back to what you are now. Sex is very special, and is something that should NEVER - even when you're 20 or 30 - should be taken lightly. Not just with the diseases out there. I won't tell you what you should or shouldn't do...but just think before you take that leap. You can never go back to being a virgin, but you can control what and who touches your body now.
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You shouldn't be with someone who doesn't believe.. he isn't a very good friend if he doesn't trust you. If that's his main concern, then he doesn't deserve you. You have nothing to prove to anyone. My best friend who is also my boyfriend made it a big deal whether if I was truly a virgin or not. For nearly a year he questioned whether if I was a virgin. It was his main concern. His concern wasn't our relationship. It broke my heart and now I know better. Save yourself some drama and heartache.. and don't concern yourself with the likes of him. I know his type all too well and if he can't trust you now with something like this.. then I know it will escalate further down your relationship.
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1.Be an individual. 2.Think for yourself. 3.Don't be easily coerced 4.Respect yourself 5.Enjoy being 13 - thirteen year olds should be having fun at slumber parties, laughing and joking with friends. Not engaging in the one of the intimate acts known to people and reserved for those emotionally ready for it. Do these and tell your guy friend to kiss your arse.
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Be direct. Tell him you're still a virgin. If he doesn't believe you, dump him. He probably just wants to use you, for sex.
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Do your homework !. Not yet time to have sex. You are still baby.Oh Goshhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh
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If you didn't sleep with your ex, you need to stop that rumor from perpetuating asap lest you end up with the reputation that will follow you all through out high school. This includes mitigating whatever rumors your ex is spreading. Second figure out if your current boyfriend is only with you to sleep with you or is actually interested in you.
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dump his ass... and ditch him as a friend!!! if he assumes you have had sex and will put out then he isn't worth your time.. it sounds like sex is the only reason he is with you..
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How exactly does a 13 y.o. "date", where are your parents.......you are 13 and your legacy here is that people might think you slept with a 16 y.o......nice....
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Explain that you are actually a virgin. Then tell the little sh*t that even if you weren't, he has no right to expect it from you or to try and pressure you. If he wants to be with you, he needs to learn some respect for women in general and you specifically.
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He is immature and you will be one if you think that you have to prove to him or anyone else that you are virgin or not... If that is what he wants, you are dealing with a bad boy who wants something from you that is not right, something that is not attention or love... Most like he will tell all his friend that he did you even if you didn't. Go girl, be strong and don't let anyone take advantage from you... you are A+.
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To be honest, don't give him what he wants or you may soon lose him. It's a male thing. Protect your body and don't give it away to someone just because they want it. Give your body only when YOU are ready and prepared to, and to someone really really special, whom you know will not abuse or just use it for their own pleasure. Be careful. Remain a virgin for now.
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tell the little fucker to screw himself, and find someone else too keep his bed warm, no offence but 13? has his balls even dropped yet!
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I've been reading these comments and it looks like all of you girls interpreted the 13 year old dude as a guy who just wants to get laid. It may be right, but it may be wrong. I say he is up front and open with his sexuality and his sexual needs and doesn't see the pressure on you because he thinks that you have already had sex before, also presuming more than once. I think you should tell him that you're a virgin. I don't know what your stance on sex is. To tell you the truth, I was trying to get some at 13, too, but I wasn't in it just for the pussy, if he's really boyfriend material then I don't see what the problem is. Get to know him better, leave him, keep dating him, and/or sleep with him. It's your life. Just be careful, you don't wanna get pregnant this early on in life.
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Get a new boyfriend. He's only dating your image, not you. He only wants what he thinks your ex got.
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Sleep with him and when he gets into bed, KNOCK HIM OUT (or kill him). heh heh heh heh.
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Ask him if he is really ready to be a daddy yet? take it from a teenage mom sweetie...I didn't think it could happen to me and it did...NO GUY IS WORTH IT! you can take precautions ..I did..but I still ended up preg. It's not worth the risk..and if he cannot understand that..then he doesn't love you OR himself. I would take a break from dating if I were you...if the roumor is out that you put out...there is going to be a long string of guys wanting to date you for just that reason. Stop dating for a while...go have fun and forget about guys...you have your whole life to try and figure them out...
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Tell your new BF I did'nt do what you think I did and if you don't believe me you can't claim you love me.SO....i'll have to look for a more mature guy.
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tell him your not ready
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tell him youre still a virgin and you wont put out. if he throws a fit tell him BYE BYE if he cares about you, he will understand. but again, you guys are only 13... you shouldnt even be worrying about putting out
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Just tell him one last time that you didn't sleep with him and tell him if he keeps pressuring you into it you'll break up with him. If he's not going to show you respect then he's not worth it.
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kick him to the curb!
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Nothing!
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tell him to jerk off because your not ready to loose your virginity
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Dump him. He is a young man with no character. Help him to grow some.
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DUMP HIM. Your 13 years old, too young to be having sex with anyone... and too young to have to deal with a stupid little horn dog like that. If he can't respect that your not ready to lose your virginity he isn't worth your time.
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Have ur ex tell him you guys didn't sleep together. and just be honest forever don't do anything but that
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tell him you are 13, and if he thinks you will do anything like that he is sadly mistaken.
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Sit down and have a good talk with your current boyfriend, make sure he knows that you are being completely honest with him about what happened. For the other kid, well just ignore him and what he says, fighting back only encourages. Also, at your age you should try to stick with someone who is maybe a year older than you, 2 at the most... Kids at the age of 15+ go through a huge change and see things very differently... But seeing as you are probably 15 or 16 by now, you probably already know... But try to stick with a 1-2 year max difference until you are out of High School, the relationship will be much more affective then and longer.
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Tell him the truth and if cannot respect your wishes ; DUMP him and find yourself a guy who will ..... 13 is WAY too young to be sexually active ! What if pregnacy were to happen ?? Has this horney little jerk thought of that ? You CAN do BETTER !! +5
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you shouldn't be with this guy if he's putting pressure on you... he's probably only after ine thing hun and dont do anything you dont want to!!
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Rule #1 in life: NEVER give up, give in, or let go of something you believe in or cherish, just to please someone else. YOU, are what's most important, not him. Even if you HAD slept with the 16 year old guy, that does not mean your future boyfriends have the right to expect you to have sex with them. That's your decision, and only yours, to make.
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He might be with you just because he thinks you put out. Tell him that your 16 year old bf dumped you because you wouldn't put out....and then get that idiot out of your life.
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Tell him " I am a virgin" and I want to stay that way so, I can't date you anymore either.
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Sugar dont take any crap from guys who have one motive! And you know what that motive is.
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YOU SHOULD NOT HAVE SEX ANYWAY YOU KNOW WHAT YOU DID AND DON'T HAVE TO EXPLAIN YOUR SELF THEN THAT MEAN HE DON'T TRUST YOU AND YOUR RELATIONSHIP GO, GO DOWN THE DRAIN. SO YOU TALK TO HIM AND IF HE DON'T WANT TO BELIEVE YOU TELL HIM TO KISS YOU BUT.!!!!!!!!!!!
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i would dump him, youre too young to get pregnant
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just tell him not, youre too young to be having sex
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i would dump him, youre too young to have sex
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