because he feels hurt and you have broke his trust. (even though you didnt do anything) you are just going to have to give him time and not give him anything for him to be suspicious about.

wait you were just talking to the guy? i think that means your guy is a little over reacting. are you sure there isnt something else you could tell us. like the guy you were talking to, is he your ex? did your man ask you not to talk to the guy? more information is needed.

I agree with Coreen.. either there is something else you're not saying or he is a little uptight.

Just be yourself. Without knowing him, my guess is that if what you say is true, he's being unreasonable or the over-jealous type. If you're sincere and he doesn't see that, he's acting in an immature fashion or in the worst case, blowing this out of proportion as an excuse to distance himself from you.

We're living in the 21st century now, and it's no longer legal for a man to own a woman like a car or house. You have the right to talk to other men, but it sounds like you're in a situation where you're not standing up for your own rights. If you did nothing wrong, you should tell him that and let him have whatever reaction he's having. His jealousy and insecurity isn't your fault: you can have compassion for him without letting him tie you up into knots with unreasonable expectations. This is his problem. It sounds like he's able to get away with this kind of controlling and oppressive behavior because you need him so much. This is something you need to work out with yourself: no man can make you whole, you need to be your own person. To be obsessed with his opinions and jealousy is to cut yourself off from your own development into a stable, mature individual. Work on that, don't worry so much about him. He'll either come around or he won't, but you don't need that kind of smothering. Nobody does.

Humm tricky thing. Dont try to explain it because he might think you are trying to cover something up. Just let him breath and see how much you care for him. Then when you feel its ok talk to him about your relationship with others why it would upset him to see you talking to another man. that sort of thing.

You can do nothing. He has his own trust issues that need to be worked with and acknowledged. If he can do that you can choose to accept where he is at. Howeevr you have done nothing wrong, so with good communication you could try and help him to see it is him that has an issue. Alternatively some counselling or psychotherapy may help to resolve the issues he has.

Sounds like your "man" is a CONTROL FREAK! He's no man, he's a whiny little boy in my book...(and women come in this mode too...so don't take it too hard guys) Mentally abusive people come in all colors, shapes, intellects, genders, and financial levels. They MANIPULATE because it is what they need/want to do. Ok...because you felt fearful of what his reaction would/might be...you lied. Wrong for you to lie, but you obviously felt compelled to do so, or why would you have done it? Could it be you simply didn't want to hear him RANT FOR HOURS if you had just told him the truth up front? If this description fits your relationship with this guy, perhaps you ENJOY living in chaos? Often times when we live in chaos, with a control freak, we become not only USED to living that way, we also can become ADDICTED to the chaos...it's exciting! We can begin to feel that living this way validates our being WANTED, APPRECIATED, DESIRED by the person we also are fearful of. He only screams, threatens and sometimes hits me BECAUSE HE LOVES ME SO MUCH, he can't stand to think I might leave him if I speak to other males and maybe become attracted to them, that's ALL IT IS! BULLCHIT! This is warped thinking...it's not healthy, it's not right minded. Choosing to stay and as you say "I want him more than anything.." if he is THIS controlling means that you have come to believe that your value is dependent upon HIS controlling behaviors! Personally I think you could both benefit from some private, individual counseling and then some couple counseling as well. Unless, of course, you are truly happy in all ways with your situation. You need to discus WHY you lied with him (and a good counselor) and if he is unwilling to discuss it rationally, then you have a bigger problem than gaining the trust of someone who is LOOKING for problems to blame you for.

You both need to sit down and talk to one another. Explain to him that you are telling the truth, and that you would never want to hurt him in any way (in a calm voice) and by proving to him, just show him that you care about only him This has happened to me. But I was the one that cheated. I proved to him by showing I deeply care about him and that hes the only man I love. He will trust you again. It just takes time. Don't pressure him and get all mad at him for not. It takes alot of time and patience. Good luck to you and I wish you both the best:)

he is the guilty one. he has been bad. now he is just trying to cover it up by being bad to you.

Looks like you guy got trust issues, if he doesn't trust you why are you with him? He is the one who suppose to know you better than Anybody on this planet! and believe in you no matter what situation. you might not have to give a credible answer cause you didn't even mess around with the guy. bab you don't have to apologize, its just talking! so every time someone tries to talk to you and he is watching you would just turn your sight down and ignore every body? where is your individuality?

You can't. He's a jealous guy. Nothing you can do really as they rarely seem to come out of their delusions.

Have a break. Have a kit-kat. O sorry back to the Question Well how about telling him heees not being funny

Well its been in my exprience that when one doesn't trust the other when nothing was ever done its because they are doing sometnig they shouldn't be. Digg around maybe he has some skelotons in his closet.

Sweet Heart, He's insecure!!! Imagine what he would think if he knew you put this question on here? I think it's time to re evaluate before you get hurt. He already has issues, Don't make his mistakes become your problems. Chances are you both are not right for each other and you are starting to see the differences between the both of you. Read up on co dependant relationships it may explain some things to you that sound familiar. Good Luck And some guy will see you as a treasure and feel lucky when other guys want what he has..wink TC

Perhaps I misunderstood but I'm gonna to ask anyways when you say this "what can I do to ever make him trust me AGAIN"? why again? Did you cheated on him before all of this happened, is that why he's having a hard time believing you when you say you were only talking?...

dont claim tht u dint do anything. just dont answer,

There is no such thing as friends among different sex, and your man knows that. 99.9% of men have sex on their minds, so when your boyfriend caught you, and that was the word you use not seen, but "caught" he became upset because he knows that that guy wants to do you, and if you stood their talking to him, you were enjoying the conversation, and after a few more chats he would get what he wants..it does not make a difference like one guy said here that it is the 21st century. Real men, are real men, and they would always be the hunters of prey, and women. Women use the excuse of "we are just friends" or he is gay, but smart guys know what's up..