If I were you, I'd just let it go. It won't make you feel any better afterwards and it won't have the effect you want it to have on the other side. If you sue for the car accident which, earlier you deemed not worthy of a court case, then you're behaviour would be the same as their's. Rise above it and get shot of them. Even if you got some extra cash, it will not make this feel better and it will not fix things and take away the hurt caused. It will prolong it though and turn it into a huge bun fight which is to be avoided if possible. This is difficult enough as it is, so get it over with as soon as possible. Take heart from the fact that a man still control by his mother makes for a miserable marriage. The wife will never be the only woman in his life unless she makes him choose. His mother would interfere in your marriage until the day she died and he, would let her. This is hard, but try to ask yourself why he gave in when he could have found a way to stay married - you two could have even moved away so you could not be found. Why did his Mother have the papers? Nobody makes anybody do anything they really do not want to do I'm afraid. It seems that he was never yours and until she died, wouldn't be. This, is no reflection on you what-so-ever - he was like this long before you arrived, your only mistake was not spotting it sooner. I'm sorry to say this, because it is hurtful, but better the truth than a lie. Use your energy to care and heal yourself, do not waste it trying to wound them - you are more important because you have to live with how you feel. Walk away with your head held high and you will feel proud of yourself for doing so. Let it go.

His mother cannot "fill out" all the divorce papers. HE had to have been there to talk to the lawyer at sometime. I've gone through three divorces already, I know all about them. Maybe he's just telling YOU that.

How could she blackmail him? If he did it, he did so because he wanted to, or he was too weak to argue with Mommy. If he owes her money, and it is on paper somewhere, then he has to abide by that contract, if he owes her money and has nothing on paper, then she could spit into the wind as easy as prove it. The money owed is not a blackmail item. So I would let it go through.

W~O~W Sounds like you got yourself a "Mommys Boy"! I would take a few steps back and reevaluate this "marriage" you're a part of if I were you. Ask yourself a few questions like - Do I want to stay married to someone who allows his own mother to control even his own marriage? What's to happen in the next 5 years or more? Back to your question - You can contest the divorce and prolong it - but all in all if he (his mom) wants a divorce he'll (she'll) get it eventually if he does not stop it himself. Something to ponder on: With a mother-in-law like that - I would head for the hills and let the divorce flow like running water.

I'm not sure if you can "stop" it, however, you will have substantial grounds to have the judgement set aside on appeal.

Your mother-in-law wanting her money especially from a car accident as a resource is just dispicable........You need to divorce your mother-in-law hopefully with your husbands blessing. (which isn't likely)

Just how weak IS this Mama's boy? Unless she's a lawyer, she could NOT have "filled out all the papers", because a lawyer has to put it all into legalize, and make sure it conforms to all local laws. Why they hell would you WANT to stop the divorce? She/They will just pull the same thing any time she feels threatened by you, and it SOUNDS like she feels threatened that you have a modicum of control over her son. You can ARGUE about clauses in the divorce papers (and get a good lawyer for that), and it MIGHT be possible to "stop it", but again, why would you want to. YOU will gain custody of any children (mothers usually have priority), and some of his assets, I'm sure. AND you will NOT have to deal with this type of blackmail against YOU (which it sounds like it is/was) in the future.

Every state in the US has different laws regarding contesting a divorce. I suggest you type "contest a divorce + (your state)" in the google or yahoo search box.