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  • I can understand why parents might not be thrilled becasue it makes you wonder about his maturity that he has so much in common with a teenager who is barely of driving age. Maybe your parents know more than you do about this, as they have had far greater experience and know you very well. It wouldn't be such a difference if you were both older, then the difference isn't so marked but a 30 yr ld dating a teen isn't very good and make me question him more than you.
  • more times than not, parents know more than we give them credit for. If they dont like it, maybe they know things. Maybe they just dont like the age difference. I would have to question the motive of a 31 year old man that is dating a 17 year old girl. Listen to your parents, I dont know any that would tell you something wrong and hurt you.
  • great minds think alike. when more than one person see the same thing, maybe its true.
  • Biggest age gap I've had was 16 years. It was great, because he was mature for a change, and didn't play around with your heart like those stupid kids your age. The think I'd be the msot worried about if I were your parents would be the fact that you're not over 18.
  • If you love him and have been dating, then this relationship must have started some time ago. I would strongly suggest you need to consider the mental make-up of a man who would, at best, date someone with whom he has basically nothing in common and at worst is committing statuatory rape. If this is a teacher of yours (I read your profile), then you seriously need to consider his ethics, morals and integrity.
  • A 31 year old is way to old for a 17 year old. A 17 year old should be into school work and deciding on what they want to do with their life. A 31 year old should already be earning a living and well established in their career. Two completely different periods of a persons life. Not a good idea and makes one wonder about the maturity of the 31 year old.
  • Sis, Ditch him. If you were to get married, he will end up seeing you as someone he can dominate. In his mind, you will not be his mental equal until 6 months before you are changing his diaper. You will be 50. At your supposed sexual prime (30 - 35?) your mate will be pushing 50, and while still able to perform, probably not as interested in it as you are. As a father of a 17 year old girl, I can tell you that your parents are being very patient. I would have already monkey stomped him.
  • Well, you said you love him, right? As long as he is good to you and loves you back, I'd say yes.
  • This man has many years more life experience than you and you have many years to go before catching up to his maturity and life experience level. You need to consider these things and how they will affect you, your partner and your relationship now and in the future. If you genuinely love each other then separating will not make either of you happy. This is your life and your love and your relationship and as hard as it is for your parents to accept - they really need to respect your right to decide and choose for yourself who you wish to spend your time with.
  • Your only 17 and that's very young. Some might say you don't know what you're feeling and too immature to deal with the emotions you are feeling. If this guy is good to you and you're not living in a fantasy world and you both look at your relationship realistically in terms of your future, kids, age gap etc. then i quess it could work. Just be careful - you still have alot to learn. Don't get yourself into a situation that you'll regret later in life.
  • To be honest, That's a mad! age dif! Though, who is anyone to question what love is for someone else? Do some thinking and get an Idea of what lies ahead if you go through with this decision. However, you are young and your parents do have a right. I reiterate...that's a huge gap! what would be the inverese of this? young man and an older woman? any thoughts?
  • The difference in the ages, sends up a red flag. you are still a minor and he is an adult. if this were my daughters situation, i would not agree, as your parents. i will say this, in a short while, you will be 18 and responsible for your own actions. My main concern is pregnancy. Your parents would not be good parents, if they did not disagree with this arrangement. you are and will also be, their child. you will understand this, one day, when you have a child of your own. Give things a rest, until you turn 18.
  • well, ur just going tro have to use what u know about this guy, ur brain, and ur heart on this one Yes, this is illigal. But if u love him... BUT the age difference is more than a "couple" of years, its more than 10. And Why isnt he going for women his own age? Think about that. Is he trying to get something? have u gave him anything? would he leave you if you didnt do anything? Just ask yourself those questions and you should be able to get your answer :DD
  • : - 0 How did this relationship start out?
  • If you can't see anything negative coming of the relationship, then don't change anything. Breaking up because you feel you have to will only screw things up more.
  • Leave him for a while, no datings, no phonecalls and even no hellos via internet or other ways and transfer your energy and concentration to your study or something else. You will be amazed that your life still goes on wonderfully without him. Conclusion: What you're feeling is NOT LOVE but a schoolgirl crush.
  • As you get older a 14 year age difference isn't as wide of a gap but when one of them is in their teens that makes me question the relationship. That is why you are getting questions and concerns from your parents. It's perfectly natural to enjoy being outside of the intense pressures of high school with someone more mature. He would be many things guys your age are not just as you would be many things women his age would not. Life experience is a factor but I must say in no relationship do both people have identical experiences. There may be factors which have made you a mature 17. The important thing is he treats you well and both of you are happy, but don't forget to keep looking at the big picture! What are each of your immediate goals in life and how do you want to live your life? Make sure he doesn't become too big a factor, that would be my main concern for you as a person and a parent. You have so much of your life still ahead of you, don't let yourself feel unfulfilled and if he really loves you he will want the same thing. Good luck, remember most parents want the best for their children.
  • Believe it or not, I am a 17 year old girl dating a 31 year old guy. Stop for a second and think to yourself, does it REALLY matter what people think? This relationship you are taking part in concerns the two of you. If he is supportive, clean, a genuinely nice guy, and wants to show your parents and you that he truely cares about you..then there is no problem. It was very hard for my parents to accept this, but it happend after a while. You also have to realize that if you were a parent and your child was dating someone who was 14 years older, wouldnt you freak out? Yes, its kind of out of the ordinary but it happens. People fall in love with age differences. Bottom line: Make sure hes a good guy, make sure you think this is going to be a long term thing, and do what YOU want to do. This is your life. YOU only live once. :D
  • Well, you're a minor. That's the only concern I have. I'm 23 and my boyfriend is 38, but then again I'm legally an adult...
  • first i have to say my parents had a heart attack when i told them my bf is 16 and im 13 but when i explained how i felt they were okay with it so try to explain it why you love him ( i love my bf)
  • Imagine that....your parents aren't thrilled about you dating a 31 yr old... ...this guy is risking jail for you. If you love him you might want to cool it until you're 18. Give yourself a chance to try out some guys who weren't driving for 15 years before you were born...
  • Age ain't nuthin' but a number.
  • he is older than you, and maybe he is playing around, because you still a kid, leave him he is not good for you, and you can find someone with your age and can understand. the one you are dating, he sees you as a kid, and have no experience with your life, so he knows how to control you and play with your feelings, so i think you should leave for your sake. You still a kid and you have time to find someone, and apprecaite you.
  • YES YOU SHOULD AGE IS JUST A NUMBER AND IF YOU LOVE HIM DNT LET OTHER PEOPLE STAND IN YOUR WAY
  • Well I think you should. It doesn't matter what anyone else thinks. When I was 17 I went out with 27 and 28 year olds. I am 18 now, I have a husband and two boyfriends. My husband is 22, one boyfriend is 28 and the other is 29. My most recent exboyfriends are 27 and 31. Plus when you turn 18 they can't say a darn thing. And for the record they all know about each other, me and my husband and my 29 year old bf live together along with my two kids.
  • No offense to anyone, but I do think it is a little creepy myself.
  • He should not be dating you,you are a minor,I'm sorry but I have to question what's up with a man of 31 who would date a minor...
  • 2 be honest im in the same boat as u! am 17, neary 18 in 3 months and im sooo madly in love with a guy that is also 31 years of age! i realy dont know wat 2 do? I havnt yet revealed this 2 my parents this guy has proposed to me i would love 2 marry him however im afraid what my friends, family and peeple will think. Shall i just leve him and ditch him? however that would be awfully impossible for me 2 doo so. im stuck!
  • I dated someone 14 years older than me for two years. He was incredibly immature but always said i was the immature one; i suppose becuase I was drastically younger than he. Just something to consider; If you want children, when your ready for them; Will he be alive to watch their graduation from College? Ask yourself; Why is he comfortable dating somebody SO MUCH younger than himself? Probably because he's having trouble finding someone his own age (bad sign) Maybe he just wants a taste of young-blooded nature again? Who knows. But with the incredible difference, if you're serious ESPECIALLY; comes tremendous issues and difficulties. You should think about what you want WAY AHEAD OF NOW, and decide based on that if it all works out.
  • If you truly love him, then I do not see what the problem is. You need to make sure he is not the type of guy who just wants to date or get married so he can have someone to do all the housework for him. I am in love with someone who is 12 years older than me. It is not just a "Schoolgirl crush". He is the kindest person I have ever known. I will go ahead and say this: I do not love him because he is cute. If you wanted my opinion, I think since he got a haircut, he is just about the ugliest person on the planet. He is kind though. If you both really love each other, and neither one of you is using the other, then you should explain to your parents.
  • Look bbz ... Im 15 but WOW!! The most age gap i would consider is 8 years MAX !! and cumon, think about the future...YOUR future.

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