ANSWERS: 2
  • If you don't mind him lying to you and not respecting your needs or feelings, I guess you are a good match. If I wanted to spend time with someone and all they did is SAY that they wanted to but didn't step up and make it a priority, then I'd think he wasn't genuine in his feelings for me. My feelings for him would wane till they were gone, unless he was already gone.
  • Then again, is he looking to spend time with you *his* way? As in trying to get you to do things with him that are his interests? A lot of people naturally tend to stay in their comfort zone and only really want to 'spend time' with their other doing what they like. It's often uncomfortable and difficult to make yourself get involved in your partner's world. Yes, it could just be empty promises, but it could also be a miscommunication. Ask him *what* his idea of spending time with you involves. Find out what he means - what activities he has in mind. I could venture a guess his activities wouldn't include sitting on a lounge and watching 'how to lose a guy in 10 days' with you. (Just an example...) He may have tried in his own way, but because it's not your way, you may not recognise it. Getting dragged along to the weekend car races may be his idea of spending time with you, but doesn't even register on your 'intimate-meter'. If he's done nothing, then maybe he's lazy. However it may be just not speaking the same 'languages'. Just my thoughts

Copyright 2023, Wired Ivy, LLC

Answerbag | Terms of Service | Privacy Policy