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by P. W. Pasobrio loves Marines on May 11th, 2007
Not on your life from my partner. The second time and my hand would have touched face. Hard. You're not overreacting. He's a verbal abuser and is using the joke excuse so you'll put up with it. And once you're used to it Wham! out come the big guns and possibly fists. Get out now.
by Spyder on May 15th, 2007
LEAVE!
Easier said than done, yeah, but... aarrghh.... just LEAVE!!!
by Glenn Blaylock on February 1st, 2008
First of all, does he say these things in a mean way? If so, then I don't think that you are overreacting. However, if he truly is joking or trying to use them as terms of endearment, then you would be overreacting.
That written, I don't know that it really matters one way or the other. If you don't like being called these names then you should tell your boyfriend that you don't like it. If he truly cares about you, he should be concerned with your feelings and stop this. If he is really joking, then this should not be a very big thing and he should be willing to give it up in the interest of the relationship.
If, after talking about it with him, he does not show any effort to stop it, then you have ask yourself a question. Do you want to put up with that for the rest of your life. If not then it is time to end the relationship.
by vivabelle on May 21st, 2008
hes a looser, its abuse and eventually you will realise you need to get out of this situation, hes undermining your confidence and by telling you its a joke he thinks gets away with it.
by Lee-san on May 15th, 2007
there's nothing funny about demeaning a woman. you should find another person that can at least spell the word respect and let him prove it to you through his actions. this guy you're with now? if he thinks he's being funny, then tell him to go find a bitch, slut, whore, ugly, fat, skank, smelly, or trampy girl and let him enjoy what he deserves.
by International Goverment Family Relations on August 12th, 2007
I Know This Is Very Drastick
But I Am Sorry But You Have NO Choioce To
!DUMP HIM!
He Is Not The One for You If You Can't Take His SO CALLED JOKES
He Will Find Someone That Can Take Them But You Can't So
DUMP HIM
Ryan x
by lemonFresh on May 18th, 2008
I think you are not as mad as you should be
A man is supposed to have respect for a woman. you should talk to him about it because i tell you if you let it continue to happen hes going to be perfectly okay with calling you these names unless you stand up for yourself.
Personally I wouldnt be with a man like that joke or no joke everybody still has feelings and if someone chooses to stay withm someone like that then they belong together.
If someone disrespects you and your okay with it then you are disrespecting yourself aswell.
by Over and Out on November 6th, 2008
You need to dump that guy FAST. There is NO future with someone who speaks to you like that.
by UnkownUser on August 18th, 2008
Slut? whore? ugly? fat? And he calls you his girlfriend? If you were those things, why would he be with you in the first place? He obviously isn't as mature as you thought.
This isn't love this isn't even a relationship. Get out of it as soon as possible, and that goes for anyone who is having problems in there relationships.
Need anymore relationship advice?
Just ask me!
-Jessica Edgell soon to be Zeidler.
by Hans Schecter on August 19th, 2008
Unless you are any of the above, then it's completely wrong.
There is no room for any man to call a woman those names, it's not funny or a joke.
I would say make your choice but to call a woman any of those names (unless it would be true) - and let me explain that before I feel the heat.
I tried to help a crack whore once (that is what she was) and it was genuine help - no love and sex attached with the exception of the type of love of caring for a person.
Having said that: abuse can and does become a repetitous cycle and if it's starting with words, I would seriously consider avoiding going any further and then getting trapped in the relationship.
by vi_bound on May 17th, 2008
Anyone that "loves" someone would never act the way your boyfriend does. Hold your head high and dump the bum. Keeping him around is but the first step in a life of misery. Change the direction your life is headed and find someone that respects who you are.
by MarissaBabee14 on July 8th, 2008
i was pissed off as soon as i heard that question your not overreacting you should break up with him if he calls you all that even if it is a joke boyfriends shouldnt even joke around with you they hopefully know that girls are sensitive and take things serious and get crushed easily i would fricken break up with mine if he said that next time i see him id hit him across the face dont put up with this even if he makes you feel guilty and go back out with him dont date any guy that says that dumb that son of a bitches dirty mouth fucken ass NOW! and i wouldnt take it ass a joke
by Gonzo on February 1st, 2008
Have you told him you dont like it?? I suggest you do. There's nothing more important in a relationship than communication.
by njaeanna on August 12th, 2007
Everybody here is right, you need to get rid, but if you decide NOT to, then buy him a dictionary and a thesaurus and ask him to at least start using different names if he's that desperate to 'have fun'.
by lisa28 on October 22nd, 2009
AGREED with marines.... VERBAL and EMOTIONAL abuse
emotional abuse is the hardest to detect but the most hurtful... my mom divorced my dad becuase of his emotional and verbal abuse.
by bwflorance on July 7th, 2008
ummmm.... no its not funny and no joking matter. get rid of that loser!!!
by Anonymous on July 4th, 2008
Absolutely NOT. As a father of two daughters, I would want any man to treat my duaghter first and formost as a lady. Seriously this is a prelude to a deeper issue of self respect your boyfriend needs to face on his own before distroying any true feelings with you. Ask yourself do I deserve better? If your answer was yes, then you need to tell him how it makes you feel and make him understnad how it undermines all further development of your relationship. Self confidence is a requirement in todays society, his lack of respect may not directly effect you but it will have a profound effect the self worth of any children in your future.
by Audiotron on April 26th, 2008
EDIT: this was posted to another question that was ripping this one off. I had to get onto them for it. Then that question was rejected as duplicate, and my answer was moved to this question. Since then, I have been DRd so many times, even though it was shown right under my answer that it was posted to the question that was ripping off this one. Since the people DR'n me for that are obviously too stupid to see that I was trying to get onto the copycat, and not the person who asked this question my answer has been removed.
Ever since AB changed its rules so much in the past few months, too many morons are on here.This site is turning into yahoo answers...
by Wide Awake @ has closing date woo hoo on February 1st, 2008
If you don't like it, you need to tell HIM, not us. Then, see if his behavior changes, and act accordingly.
by Ladyfox on January 6th, 2008
No, you are not overreacting. He is showing a complete lack of respect. He thinks this funny and to you it is not. You are good person and you do not have to tolerate this. I had man do that to me and he ended up trying to be abusive to me towards the end of our relationship. It didn't work and here I am single again and loving every minute of it because I can breathe and no one cam do those hurtful things to me anymore.
by Anonymous on December 1st, 2007
I don't know how old you are but that is not joking. He is abusive. Don't allow anyone in your life that will abuse you in any way! You are special...you deserve love, respect and kindness and don't settle for anything less!! Your boyfriend has a problem. Get away from him!! There will be someone that will treat you like you should be treated.
by Drunken Sailor on March 8th, 2009
For anyone in this situation, get out! I'm a guy, so I know how the male mind thinks. When a guy says that stuff to you, it's because deep down that's what he really thinks. A girlfriend is a treasure, not just some object to have sex with and play games with her mind. Any woman who loves a man is not to be taken for granted. If a guy disrespects you while you're dating, it's only going to get worse later on. I can tell you that as a man, the best moments of my life are those in which I tell my girlfriend how much I love her and what she means to me, and how much I am happy to have her. If you're scared of getting beat up, find some guy friends for protection, and tell him it's over. Find a guy that will be overjoyed being with someone that loves him.
by Anonymous on July 4th, 2008
id ditch him he sounds horrible. i wouldnt take any of it. you oviously like him or youd have ditched him already. it will hurt but go with your gut coz sometimes your heart wont let it go. get some tissues ready and ditch him. email me wen its sorted pleaz at samandjennybffl@hotmail.com kk. jen
by Compersionist on July 3rd, 2008
I see you posted this question a long time ago. I sure hope you're not still with him.
If you are, is he still doing this?
by Anonymous on July 2nd, 2008
Get rid of him, he doesn't respect you and you don't respect yourself - that's why you're taking it. I'd rather be without a boyfriend then to allow him or anyone else to disrepect me.
by Bartman on March 16th, 2008
He is pretty creative!
by The Special One on February 1st, 2008
I haven't heard of any of these names...what's "pipe face" supposed to signify?
Anyways, yea - I suggest what Phoenix said.
by pagan-babe on November 20th, 2007
And i thought i had problems !!!
by Tiffany16 on June 29th, 2007
i had a boyfriend like that once and you need to notify him that it bothers you and if he doesnt listen and keeps doing that then he is totally inconsiderate of your feelings.that is one thing that can hurt and it is not very good in a relationship either to be called ugly and fat and stuff. another reason that guys seem to do that is to make you feel unwanted so you dont feel confident enough to flirt or anything like that. but you have to watch because those ones get overprotective and jealous and i know 2 men like that.
by NikonRob Goodbye on June 7th, 2007
I think you are overreacting after all there are always two sides to every story and perhaps you've given him reasons to call you these things.
by debzie on October 24th, 2009
It doesn't matter if it's a joke or not.What matters is how it makes you feel and it seems to make you feel very bad. You have two choices.Either put up with it or confront him. If he takes your feelings seriously and he really loves you he will make it his point to stop. If he takes it lightly and the verbal insults go on then you know you're in a bad relationship and you deserve better!
Keep Shining!
Deborah
Counsellor
by AngelMhadz on October 24th, 2009
You are not overreacting for me when you really loved by the guy he should respect you as her girlfriend or let say not as her girlfriend but as a human with dignity and a child of God..Remember that if you want to build a good foundation of family with him respect each other is really important..So talk to him and tell him your feelings everytime that he call you a bitch,slum, etc..After you talk to him and nothing change then its time to think if this guy is really deserving for your love and if you realized that he is not then its time to give up..
Remember: "There are fishes in the ocean"
by jimberly on October 22nd, 2009
There are funnier jokes than that. You are in a passive aggresive relationship on both ends. He says he's joking and rather than deal with the way you really feal you rationalize it with overreacting. I don't have control over my husband but just out of respect we don't curse at all when we argue. Get going...you don't need this in your life. Whether we realize now or later, men come and go so send this one packing. If you need to talk further, feel free to contact me: wkimberly29@hotmail.com or by phone: 443-477-1977
by ELLYBBY on October 22nd, 2009
Well..for a FACT! i know that you are not what so ever over reacting! yeah he might be saying it as a joke but he doesnt know how it feels! i bet you if you called him an asshole or say fuck you etc, he wouldnt like that!! i know that i would get upset! he has no reason to make you feel bad and say things to hurt you!
by skijett on October 6th, 2009
If he is a real man, he would feel no need to put down someone he cares for.
You in no way are overreacting with your anger. It is very justifiable, personally i don't know how you could put up with that for too much longer.
It is not a joking matter by any means. If he is going to call you that now in your relationship, this is the time in your life where you are supposed to be the most kind to your bf/gf. Showing them that you are a good match for them, not showing them am evil side to you. If he is calling you that now, what will he be possibly calling you if you take the relationship to the next level and get married? If you think the comments will stop, well then you are sadly mistaken. This act of name calling will just intensify and drive you to the breaking point.
DON'T PUT UP WITH THAT. YOU DESERVE BETTER.
by cspringhart on August 7th, 2009
Either he is kidding and you can't read him very well or his borderline (which is enough) serious.
In which case, the first I would say please let me know you're kidding or something along those lines. But in the second scenario, I would say that your emotional security should be pretty high in his priorities in which you should sit down and seriously talk to him about it.
by Anonymous on March 8th, 2009
Words can be cheap, like I love you's and I'm sorry. And words can be very powerful and can leave a scar in your heart and mind forever. Verbal abuse will change how you feel about yourself. It's just a matter of time and you will be second-guessing yourself while he slowly takes away your dignity.
No matter what you do, you will never be able to do right enough or be good enough to him. He sounds like a controller who is trying to break you down. Names are just the beginning, sweetheart. And he's gonna throw all the I love you's and I'm sorry's at you but you are gonna be left with all the names he's called you for life, even in the quiet moments of your life.
Don't let him steal those moments from your life. Don't waste anymore of your life with him and tell yourself you are a wonderful person with a good heart and forget him. It may take awhile til you have the desire to leave but you will know when you have had enough. When your heart has had a beaten, beaten into a pulp, instead of your physical body. Verbal abuse is real and it comes from someone who has no self-esteem, who is extremely insecure, who was probably abused, too, at some point in his life.
Trust me, I've lived it. And,I'm better for having gotten out! Don't let him belittle you for not taking it as a joke, by the way. Cause he will.
by gammerstang on October 14th, 2008
You need therapy to define your personal boundarie, Dearie.
That would be like me, as a black woman, sleeping with some white man who wears a hood, calls me a N*****, tells me each night he's going to lynch me, beats me up, and I wonder if all in "my" head.
You must think you are deserving of those names to stick with such a person as this.
Run! Run to your nearest clinic and get some professional help.
by D.J. on September 5th, 2008
My opinion is that if someone is calling you those names, and you still identify that person as your boyfriend, then you are NOT taking it very seriously. If you tolerate name calling, then you will get more name calling. Whatever you call this person, he is NOT your friend. I recommend you move on.
by maddy1303 on August 31st, 2008
im just gonna give you advice from experince, no one should be calling you anything like that.
you are definitly not overreacting, please think seriously about staying in this relationship, verbal abuse can leade to mental and physical abuse and i dont wish to see anyone in that situation. my ex started by verbal abuse and it kept getting worse and worse untill it led to mental and physical abuse! he had me so mentally messed up at one point i thought i was the person who needed to be in a straight jacket! so please take this seriously! u need respect and love not to feel like crap all the time
by hhhttt on August 28th, 2008
Dump the creep. Find someone who has an ounce of self respect for you and your body.
by daniel bonfield on August 25th, 2008
its simple tell him he has a little penis and always try and inderectly call things small it will get under his skin. Trust me a guy can get jumped by 50 people and be half dead, but being told he has a small penis will make him feel 10x worse then that beating.
by Toobad for you. on August 24th, 2008
Your "boyfriend" (I use the title with a liberal amount of chagrin) is offically fired. You can tell him I said so, too. Go out there, find a guy with a sense of respect and honor - someone who's ego and testosterone are NOT the deciding factor in his behavior. Tell your "boyfriend" that his piggish behavior is making us decent guys look bad - and we are very tired of looking bad.
by Sheepingly needs no handy men only hugs on August 19th, 2008
not at all and i hope u dumped his sorry butt
by cupcakes on August 13th, 2008
I don't think your over reacting at all. How long have you been with this guy? Because any time a man thinks its ok to disrespect a woman rather it be his girlfriend, mom, sister, wife, fiance' or friend. He has no respect for himself and has low self esteem. U would need to get rid of him and regain your self respect and dignity. He trying to strip you of all your pride, dignity and self-esteem. You should want better and tell your self you deserve better. Not only should you tell your self that go after someone better. There are to many good guys out there to be dealing with this.
by Answers101 on July 31st, 2008
Anyone who calls you degrading names, clearly, has serious issues of their own. There's nothing amusing about any of those names.
Words have power and yes, words do hurt.
I'd recommend that he seek therapy because he has a low self-esteem.
You need to realize that you're better than that and find someone else.
No one deserves to be ridiculed and degraded. You are a human-being created by God and as such, you need to realize that your self-worth as a human-being is immeasurable.
Go out there and find someone who will respect you for you and not call you names.
There's nothing amusing about being called such degrading names and no one should tolerate that form of behavior.
You've taken the mature approach by telling him that you don't appreciate it and he refuses to change, so it's time that you made a change for yourself--a change in the right direction, which is to seek someone else!
Good luck and let's hope that he gets therapy because he needs it!
by vasvaS on July 21st, 2008
If it bothers you then dont take it as a joke, sit him down and tell him "look buddy, calm down with the insults or theres gunna be consiquences!"
Explain to him that it hurts you and and when you tell him to stop and he doesnt that proves that he doesnt care much about the relationship or about your feelings.
by umm on July 19th, 2008
no body deserves to be mentally abused and that is what he is doing to you. mate you don't have to put up with it. i used to and now i am with some one who treats me like a queen, i was alone for a long time but i would rather be alone then be mentally abused all the time.
by eric on July 18th, 2008
Your bf calls you smelly? I'm no Dr. Phil, but you need another boyfriend, honey.
by YourFutureEx is Textually Active on July 17th, 2008
Those are very disrespectful things he's saying to you and if he really loved you and he knows it bothers you he would stop, and if he doesnt stop just leave him alone...your in a mentally abusive relationship..I was in the same type of situation a few years ago and trust me if you hear those things about yourself enough you will start to believe them and your self esteem will lower
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You're reading My boyfriend calls me names like bitch,slut,whore,ugly,fat,skank,smelly,tramp,etc.But he says that he is just joking and he doesnt mean it.Well I dont take it as a joke,and I take very seriously.Do you think that Im overreacting?Would you take it as joke?
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Women shouldn't hit men the same as men should not hit women.
by Cowboy-Matter of Fact on May 11th, 2007
In most cases, no. When someone crosses the line this bad you can hit. And that goes both ways. If she were a guy I'd be backing her up for the slap. And with guys like her's the punch to her face is the next step.
by P. W. Pasobrio loves Marines on May 11th, 2007
totally agree w/ pasobrio on this one! My bf called me the "c" word once during an argument and ended up with a black eye. He never spoke to me like that again....
by Anonymous on June 7th, 2007
Good for you. My ex called me a "b" during sex once. I told him get off the rides over. And my last boyfreind thought he could say or do what ever he wanted and I would just roll over. I got right up in his face and told him say it agian and you just might get to meet my loser hilljack buddies. They'll be holding you while I jack boot some sense into you. Or I'd threaten to call Jay and have him deal with it. Nothing like knowing your bf's best friend has your back more then his.
by P. W. Pasobrio loves Marines on June 7th, 2007
Many Times these insane ,sick,maniac guys do a lot of things to offend their betterhalves in some way or other and get pleasure out of it.Finally when its there time to face the music they get offstage saying "I was just kidding Honey".Thats the time girls shouldnt get liberal and give them a bitter dose of their own medicine.One should never bow herself before any individual if he is wrong, no matter whatever his excuses are.Its your life and nobody should ever dare in dreams to mess up with that.
by engineer is Terminator on July 28th, 2008
words like that do not bother me .the one that do are the seven words you can not say on tv that are being used
by oursong24 on June 22nd, 2009
Some of the remarks on this answer coming from women sound as though a man wrote them. There's nothing feminine about breaking a relationship with had words and ultimatums.
by patpatroney on August 27th, 2009
I recognize this behavior... been there done that.. Listen to Marines 64. I stayed long enough to become insecure doubt my ability to work he had me all messed up in the head. He started hitting me 2 yrs into relationship I stayed from 92-2000. I finally got out I had finally realized it was better to be alone.. I refuse to be in that kinda relationship again.
by Texg1rl on September 20th, 2009
This is verbal abuse . how would he like it if you said the same about him ?! would he take it as a joke ?! i dont think so . your relationship is abusive & you shouldnt put up with it .
by QUEENA on October 4th, 2009
The joke will be on him when you leave him because that is all he deserves.
by Anonymous on October 18th, 2009
AGREED with marines.... VERBAL and EMOTIONAL abuse
emotional abuse is the hardest to detect but the most hurtful... my mom divorced my dad becuase of his emotional and verbal abuse.
by lisa28 on October 22nd, 2009
My questions is... Why is she still with him?
by SO.CAL on October 31st, 2009
damn girl?! whats wrong you need to leave that crazy kid...
by Anonymous on November 20th, 2009
I agree completely, don't put up with someone who will treat you like crap. The longer you put up with it the more he will think it's ok. There is no justification for him treating you like that and you should't take that behaviour from any man, especially the man you're sharing your heart and body with. You're not overeacting; remember the words of Eleanor Roosevelt "No one can make you feel inferior without your consent." Don't give it to anyone, especially one you love.
by Echo141 on January 14th, 2010
Great comment Lonely Boy. And to the person who thought that a slapin the face was a proper response: your slap in his face will only lead to his punch in your mouth. Better think that violent act through before your perform it.
by patpatroney on January 24th, 2010
GET THE HELL OUT OF THIS RELATIONSHIP HES GONNA HURT YOU AND YOU DONT DESERVE THIS NOONE DOES
by ivabiggan on December 5th, 2010
My partner does the same! We fight allot, over everything little thing. He calls me a bitch, slut, whore, tells me he will kill himself if i leave him. He yells at me. Gets angry very fast. Tells me to go fuck myself, or he'll say fuck you. what should I do????
by mommyoftwo1985 on November 8th, 2011