What should I do when my boyfriend wants to live his past (alcohol and drugs) when he knows I don't like those things but he still wants to do them again?
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Penguins_Rule
ANSWERS: 12
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you can do better than to babysit an oldgrownass mf.just move-on with your life solo for now.
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I would dump him. You are ready to move on to bigger and better things and he wants to drag you into a pit. You deserve better and maybe if you leave him he'll realize that.
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Dump the chump and move on !! Life is just way too short to let some loser drag you down into the gutter with them.
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Only remain with him if you can salvage and help him stray from that path... maybe even moreso for him than yourself... also, try and have him remember the reason why he cut away the habbits... might spark a feeling of motivation in him...
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He is obviously going to do what he wants and you can't change that. So take care of your self and be true to you. Leave him. If you don't like it or want it then leave. If he gets busted so will you.
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Let him do them....alone. Let him know that you may not be there for him when he gets ready to live his present.
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Take it from someone that has not only been there, but has a child by a guy that sounds terribly familiar: Leave him. He's going to do them no matter what you or anyone else wants. He'll keep doing it and in the end you're the one that's going to be dragged into his mess (they all make messes when it comes to drugs) and hurt. Just let him go, it's not going to be easy, but if you want any sort of chance at a normal life, you'll let him and his drama (he will attract it.....) out the door. If you want to talk privately my e-mail is Duckie64209@yahoo.com
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He and you have to choose. If he'd rather get high, he's chosen drugs over you. If you don't want him to do them, you have chosen that those things are deal breakers. If he's going to do drugs and that's a deal breaker, break up with him. If you don't, and always complain about it, he'll just think your word means nothing and won't ever stop.
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You have to decide what is more important to you, having a good relationship with a healthy person who is capable of reciprocating your love or continuing a relationship with someone who is too selfish to stop his destructive lifestyle. There isn't much room in his life for you if he is determined to harm himself like this. I know the first feelings is you can try to save them, pull them out. But very often it's the other person who gets pulled in and no one is helped then. ALl I can add is that maybe, if you break off with him, it would be enough for him to snap out of his selfish ways and change, think of you instead. But he will never change in the near future if you keep the status quo.
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Only he can stop this. No persuasion at any levele from you is going to do it. It is hell/ I have been there. Go back. Absolutely never. For any one bad thing there is in this World there are 9 wonderful. You are one of them . Maybe that will make him listen.
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if your not important enough to him for him to give that stuff up then your obviously not nearly as important to him as you should be. talk to him and tell him that if he does that you will break up with him. he doesnt deserve you if he wont make sacrifices for you.
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if your not important enough to him for him to give that stuff up then your obviously not nearly as important to him as you should be. talk to him and tell him that if he does that you will break up with him. he doesnt deserve you if he wont make sacrifices for you.
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