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  • One more thing is, my mom works night shift at HSBC and she is at home(awake)only for a couple of hours.In that time,she expects me to be with her and do something like shape her eyebrowes.But that isnt much of a problem because I am the only one at home who can do that perfectly.I mean without the pain.The problem is that she says "You can go as soon as I fall asleep" and so I do that but she behaves as if she is hurt and angry because I didnt help her.She thinks that I dont care for her even though she has done lots for me.So,I need advice on this too.
  • ...so I can burn the fat. But my mom doesnt agree with that and doesnt let me go out. She thinks something might happen to me. I know she is just trying to keep me safe but does that mean I have to stay at home all the time? I am getting sick of this place. She scolds me for staying in front of the computer for long. But what can I do? This is my only source of friendship. I mean online friends. Recently, she said that she was going to stop even my so called friends from school to come over to my place. She thinks they are bad influence because they go out and play. Which is exactly what they should be doing. Oh yeah, my age is 13. And yes, my mind is not 13. It must be 24 or something considering I have an IQ of 140. Another problem is my sister. Recently, she got a boy friend and ever since, she ignored our so-called family (We dont live with my Dad. Mom stopped living with him ever since she came to know he has an extra marital affair.But he loves me and my sisters.The eldest one out of three lives in another state so right now, theres only me, my mom and my elder sister). She studies Physiotherapy and so whenever my weak right knee hurts, I ask her to massage it and she used to do it. But since she got her bf, she thinks of it as a time waste and makes excuses like "My arm hurts" or "I am too tired from studying" or anything.Bottomline is she has kinda started hating me for disturbing her.She is constantly on the pone with,you guessed it,her bf.And whenever I ask her for the massage,she just looks at me and says"Buzz off, cant you see I am on a call?" and pushes,PUSHES,me out her room and slams the door.And I think her bf is poisoning her mind.She wants everything done her way,gets angry too easily and is apparently irritated when I try to hug her(she is 19).I also think she plans to run away.The worst thing is,I think she has lost her virginity.This is so not like her.At least not like how I knew her.My eldest sister is very kind,compassionate and warm but unfortunately,she lives in a hostel,studying,in another state.Our only means of contact is the telephone.Coming back to the topic of my Mom,theres one more problem.She asks me to help her in doing stuff and then complains on how bad I am at doing it,she actually scolds me.Thats so irritating.Sometimes I think of running away but then realise I cant survive on my own.Then came the idea of suicide but that would be too cowardly.Then I thought of the worst thing,tell my family how I really feel.But that would most probably break my mother's heart and I am afraid of losing her.So what should I do?Should I live like this forever?Is it a good idea to press all the sadness,anger and frustration with life deep within my heart and appear to be happy on the outside?Please,PLEASE tell me what to do?Sometimes,due to this anger built inside of me,I hurt(Punched)one of my friends and he started crying and his nose was bleeding.I was terribly sorry and didnt know how I could tell him that.But he was the understanding kind and didnt have any hard feelings.But now,he is changing schools and I am once again lonely.Please advice,I am desperate for an answer.
  • sorry only got thru like 1/3 of that. Anyway from what I read, talk to a school counselor and maybe have them talk to your mom and tell her that this is a very important age for you to be socializing with friends outside of class, not to mention getting fresh air and playing sports like you want to be doing...
  • T: Your a good, smart person and I want to help you. Do you walk to school or ride? Perhaps if you are on a city bus, you can get off a stop or 2 earlier and walk a bit more. Then you can also tell your mom that you are exercising more, since you decided to walk more for your health. She will be happier and its not a lie, and she will get off your back,hopefully, for awhile. Parents really don't realize how they torment their kids. I would like to try to address all your points but dont know if you are open to a discussion with me. I emailed you - answer at your leisure!

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