My best friend is cheating on her boyfriend, i decided to tell him. am i doing the right thing
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calivar
ANSWERS: 32
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Yes, I know I would like my best friend meddling in my affairs.
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If you're not friends with the boyfriend I don't think it's your business to tell him, but I wouldn't call it wrong.
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there is no definite right or wrong, but personally, i would have stayed out of it! for one, i'm not sure if it's your place to tell. if your friend doesn't beleive you, she might resent you. plus, if she doesn't break up with him, it will probably be awkward.
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Yes. Well, unless you happen to have a crush on her boyfriend... I am definate that you and your best friend will have issues after this.. Hopefully she is not the type to not talk to you but talk to him. :) good luck!
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It's a hard one to be honest, but I think it is a bit of a betrayal of your best friend. It is immoral what she is doing, but she is your best friend and best friends stick together
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Yes, I'd say that this fellow deserves to know if his girlfriend is cheating on him. Although I must warn you, you're probably going to have some issues with both of them after this, and unless you want to lose both of them as friends, simply tell him and then *Do Not* take a side in the matter, allow them to work it out for themselves. And if there's any way to inform him anonymously or let him find out on his own, then that's the best way to go about it.
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I honestly don't know. I would have talked to my friend first to try to find out the reason for her cheating. I'm not one to meddle in other people's business, generally. If I saw my best friend's girlfriend/boyfriend cheating I most probably would tell them, though.
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yes you are in time she may forgive you
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she is your bestfriend and u gonna snitch on her... damn for friends like that i rather have enemies... but be real do u like her bf??? cuz maybe thats why its bothering you so much????? think about it
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That's a tough one. I guess I'd start by asking you why you did it? Do you really have that big of a moral highground, or are you doing it because you secretly feel for this guy?
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Think: who do you owe more to? To your friend or to her boyfriend?
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you are most likely crossing the line. He will find out soon enough and you will be the center of their attacks. Its too bad, but it will look like you are trying to cause trouble. I would just let it go because it will all "come out in the wash".
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I despise cheaters. Personally, if I had a good friend who was cheating on a partner, I'm not sure I could keep that person as a friend. I think you are doing the right thing. But be prepared to possibly lose as friend over it.
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Yes, you're doing the right thing. Put yourself in his shoes.
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Well you can just kiss your Best friend good bye now. What you did was betray your best friend. Boyfriends come and go but best friends are for life and you just smashed that right into the dirt. It wasn't your place to go and tell him anything. Did you tell him because you felt sorry for him or did you tell him because you feel you would make a better girlfriend to him than your friend? If she wanted him to know she would have told him herself. You can bet it's over between the two of you and 9 times outta 10 the boyfriend will take her side and you'll be out of both their lives all because you thought telling on her would be a great idea. I'm not trying to belittle you or make you feel bad BUT - I know from my own experience that betraying a friend is worse than telling on one.
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Stop Snitchin'! you suck as a friend. Your loyalty is supposed to be to your friend. If you feel she is wrong go to HER and set her straight. Earning brownie points with her man just makes it seem like you are trying to get him for yourself by backstabbing your friend. With friends like you, who needs enemies!
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If you have talked it over with her and asked her to tell him herself and she refuses, and you have said that if she doesn't within a reasonable amount of time, then you do it in a tactful way.
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What are your MOTIVES for telling him? Are YOU trying to "holla at him?" If not, then why are you geting into THEIR business? It seems as though you are showing more loyalty to the BOY friend--than to the BEST friend!!!
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NO...you are being a terrible friend...sometimes honesty is NOT the best policy... and even if it was, would it be better hearing form his girlfriend, how the hell would you feel?? to be honest you sound like a complete bitch!
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I think you are doing the right thing overall, since she is wronging him. I mean, if your intentions are innocent, and you aren't trying to get with him, this is 100% okay. Cheaters are the scum of the world. If your friend doesn't understand this, she isn't worth your friendship and loyalty. You are the better person, just be prepared to face rocky times ahead between you and your friend. Best of luck.
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First of all even thinking about it takes you out of the classification of being her "best friend". It is not your business. You can tell her what you think but you have no right to interfere especially when she trusts you to be her friend.
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Ouch! Bad idea!! Why would you do that? Is her boyfriend your brother or something??? That is your BEST friend. She trusted you. It doesnt make what she did right by any means, but it kind of makes what you did just as bad, if not worse. You should have never gotten involved in that.
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yes because youre helping out the guy, and teaching the girl a good lesson. Even if its youre bestfriend, she might get a little mad, but if youre friendship is true, then shell come around in no time.
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Depends on if you value your friendship.
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When you say cheating are to talking about having sex with or texting? Different people at different ages define cheating differently. But, it doesn't really matter. It's not your concern. Keep your mouth shut-it's none of your damned business.
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stay out and stay away from your PUNK ass friend
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I would stay out of it. You're not the one in the relationship, you may not have all the details. Telling him could lead to regrets. Let them figure this out themselves.
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it depends on why and who your asking honestly i would do the same but if your doing it just to have a chance at him its just Conniving, low, and petty
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You are doing the right thing and I agree with you. You are doing it out of concern for the both of them. However you need to be tactful in your approach to him, otherwise a matter like this can get out of hand. Just be careful, okay?
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Best friends do not rat on each other. Not much of a friend if you do.
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Yes this is the right thing... your bestfriend is doing something amoral, and there is an innocent bystander involved.
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off course you did the right thing, just hope she dong go back to him than she will make you look bad.
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