Your thoughts please, I am going in two weeks to see my 1st and only granddaughter for the first time. My in-laws have decided that they are going with. This is bothering me for I want to see her first. Am I being selfish or what?
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Yes!!! You are being incredibly selfish. A new grandchild is a joy that everyone is equally entitled to see.
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Honestly, I think so yeah, I don't see how it matters who sees the new baby first.
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A little bit. They will see her sooner or later. it should be fun to be able to share such a little thing with so many people.
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You are being selfish but this desire is perfectly natural. I wouldn't feel too bad about it. Just realize that they feel exactly the same way.
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Just a little. We had the same problem with my mom when my kids were born. She actually sulked when she found out my mother-in-law was going to be there. You need to lighten up and understand that this is everyone's baby, not just your's.
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I think how you feel is perfectly natural, and I wouldn't say it is selfish. Maybe you could tell the baby's parents how you feel, and ask that they arrange for you to spend some time alone with them and your granddaughter, the in laws are probably feeling much the same way as you are, and it'd be a relief if they were allowed some time alone with the baby and they probably won't mind affording the same courtesy to you. The only thing that isn't good is if you cause a bad atmosphere, which isn't what new parents need, they have enough to deal with! If you're polite and understanding about the whole thing I think they will be too.
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Yeah, that's super-selfish, but understandable. It's a human urge to want to do certain things before other people because they think they have some sort of right to it.
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It may be a little selfish, but it is completely natural. This is your grandbaby, your first time being a grandparent, whereas your inlaws have already had their turn at being first time grandparents. Is this their first Great Grandbaby? That's just as much a milestone (if not a greater one) than being a new Grandparent. I know the feelings are very strong in this, but the way I always seen it was starting with the parents first, since it is their child, then if the grand parents and great grandparents are both there, I would defer to the Great Grandparents out of respect for the oldest in the generation, they may stick around for less time, and may also be more affected by the trip there, then the grand parents as they have a tendency to hang around more. Everyone wishes to be able to witness as many generations being born as they can, this is a very special occassion for them as well.
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sorta, but i dont blame you. that would be cool!!
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