A friend? THey may not be very talkative in my presence and then I'd know something was wrong but not witohut a word would one of them just stop, no reason given.

It happens all the time, people like change and adaptation, unless this person has told you they no longer wish to be friends, chances are they still think of you as one. Peace. ~RyaN~

Yes and it sucks because you get so worried that you might done something wrong and you have the need for an explanation but believe me some times its better to stay in the dark if you know what i mean

My best friend through most of my childhood was a girl who played power/mind games. She would stop talking to me because I had done something minor or disagreed with her opinion - I think she did it because she knew I was right and didn't or couldn't back down, and because she wanted me to stay under her control - she'd take away her friendship until I admitted I was wrong. Also, sometimes she'd just suddenly be my friend again. I could never read her moods at all. Finally, she decided she hated me one time too many and I went and got new friends. Because of that experience with her, I have also become a friend that stops talking. It usually happens when I am mentally unwell. I will have done something minor and embarrassed myself in front of my friends (in the past, it has also been something major such as sleeping around), and I become afraid that they are judging me for my actions, so I leave contacting them for a couple of days, and those couple of days become a couple of weeks, and as the days go by the harder it is to talk to them. I then feel they mustn't like me at all after all that time, so I just give up on them. Maybe something like one of those examples are going on.

Yes, unfortunately. My best friend of 15 years just stopped returning my calls, when there was no incident or anything that brought us to that point as far as I could see. It was very painful. One month later, she sent me a nasty email insulting me and calling me names and tellling me to never contact her again. Then she would not pick up my calls to discuss the mean email. It was the most bizzare friendship experience I've had. We were 30 years old and I thought we could talk about anything and handle our problems like adults, so it was very torturous. It felt worse than being dumped, because men may come and go but best friends are for life. We didn't speak for 4 years until one day I decided to take a chance and call her on her birthday because no matter what she had done, I couldn't change the person I was by not being a kind, forgiving, open person that I try to be. She took the call and we spoke for the first time in years. Today we have a casual friendship, but I can never trust or rely on her as a deep friend ever again. Sad, because this was someone I had thought we would raise our kids together and be in eachother's lives forever.

My best friend of about 10years has stopped tlking to me because her partner has a problem with me and has said it's either me are them.They have only been together for a 1year and i know that she has really stong feeling for him. Me and her partner havn't really got on from the start of their relationship, but my friend asked me to make the effort, which i did but she doesn't try at all. I have just moved away and dnt talk as much as we used to just the odd catch up now and again on the phone. Which i think he should be able to deal with as it makes her happy. Should i suport her decision and stop all contect or should i tell her my opinion on the matter whilst risk giving her an actual reason to blam me instead of him ??

You just get tired of people sometimes. I just did this to a freind. SHe changed and I know her enough to understand she wont reason, she's just gonna talk shit and Its gonna annoy the bejesus out of me cause we're still in school together for the next 5 months.

this happened to me ten years ago. my roommate and i had a falling out. when she was out of town her boyfriend said he left his wallet at the apartment. when he came over we chatted for a bit, and then he wouldn't leave, he tried to put the moves on me. so gross. when i told my roommate she didn't believe me. a mutual friend of ours remained friends with both of us, which i am sure was hard for her. i met my boyfriend (who is now my husband) and we were spending a lot of time together. then he returned overseas, my grandfather died and a bunch of other crap. (the roommate;s dad died during this time, and even though she was still mad at me because her boyfriend was slimey - I went to her dad's funeral). one night my roommate left (at this point we were not talking, and getting ready to move our own separate places). i called the mutual friend to see what was happening - an other person answered the phone - she said that the roommate was coming - the mutual friend refused to speak to me, and she never spoke to me again. it still makes me sad sometimes, but then i also realize that she really wasn't a friend or a good person if she couldn't atleast communicte her concerns with me. my only concilation now is that i'm happily married with a lovely 2 year old daughter, and i know that both of them are unmarried, with no prospects.

Yes, for some reason, EVERYONE that I normally talk to on a regular basis has stopped talking to me. I don't care to know why because half of these people don't even know each other, so it can't be for the same reason. Anyway, I don't care, I'm an adult and if these people can't grow up and tell me what the problem is instead of acting like a baby and shutting me out then to hell with them. I'm much, much happier without friends anyway, this lessens the chances of this ever happening to me again.

yes. she transfered to a different uni and stopped picking up my phone calls. but she talked to everyone else around me. i just wanna know why she did that after 4 years of being friends. on some occasions, she told one of our friends that she misses me but that just doesn't make sense. she sent me a drunk message on night that i refused to reply to saying that she needs me. then she proceeded to push me to the bottom of her top friends on facebook. shortly afterwards, she simply deleted me. there were plenty of ups and downs as with any friendship but i don't know why now. it's been 8 months now and i just want to get over her. i keep having dreams of what i would say to her but they're all just end in an awkward way. i've even gone for counseling thinking it was my fault but now i'm just tired and would like to get over her. 4 years are hard to get over like that. i don't know what to do to get over her....

Yes , Because they owe me money and every month when they get paid they just gamble their paycheck. I presume the lack of communication is embarrassment but I will not enquire.

Yeah! for no reason what so ever,she got friendly with a new crowd and obviously they have more axciting thins for her to enjoy than what i had to offer.At first it bothered me then i realised true friends don't do that and i knew she would need me before i needed her.I had other friends to associate with i know she knows where i am if she needed me.

Yes. And I have done this to people as well. One in particular was a girl I was friends with for 8 years, we grew apart and became very different. I no longer agreed with her ways and she was really pissing me off so I just stopped talking to her. Apparently she has a theory as to why I stopped talking to her, its that I didn't want my boyfriend who is now my husband lusting after her. She doesn't know this but he really depises her :P In all honesty the jokes on her.

Yes, unfortunately. She got married, and her new husband is a jerk to me (and makes fun of my dog). I called him an asshole, haven't spoken to each other since.

A few times actually. Strangely enough it's happened mostly with a few of my uni friends. One of them in particular was someone who started around the same time as me and we had very quickly become friends. This lasted for the first 2 years. Then, suddenly in 3rd year uni she started hanging out with other people who I didn't know very well. She seemed to be avoiding talking to me, and whenever she did bother to acknowledge me it was mostly just superficial small talk. Then we worked together on a group project for one of our units and she became very controlling, not seeming to care for my contribution nor my feelings for that matter. We didn't exactly see eye to eye on things. After this incident she didn't speak to me much at all...although she did invite me to her 21st birthday, which is the last time I saw her, so I guess we didn't leave on entirely bad terms.) A different friend from uni ceased any contact with me after we worked together on a group uni assignment of all things! She seemed to think that I wasn't organised enough or was slacking off with the task I'd been assigned, which was completely not the case and the end result was very good anyway...not that she ever really acknowledged or thanked me for it! This sort of behaviour is something which I have come to expect from high school students, not 20 year old intellectual undergrads.

Yes. Not only did she stop talking to me, she betrayed me. Some people never grow up, some people are never able to take criticism, some people always have to have everything their way. Do you have any idea why your friend stopped talking to you?

Yeah. She got pregnant, and i was trying to support her by buying her prenatals. She took it the wrong way I guess...

Yes, for no rhyme or reason and for causes known only to them

Not a friend. But my brother 10 years older to me has stopped talking to me all on sudden. I have asked why. But he moves away silently. Any idea why he should be behaving this way?

I've stopped talking to a lot of people all of a sudden. Maybe there are people who have stopped talking to me all of a sudden, too, but if I really cared about them, I would talk to them sooner or later.

Yeah. I still wonder why. Really bugs me.

Yes, my buddy just all of the sudden stopped talking to me. I asked his girlfriend why this was, and she told me that he thinks she cheated on him...WITH ME! I REALLY didnt do anything with this girl and never would do that to him. I do know, however, that he has been unfaithful to her. Maybe HE is the one with a guilty consience.

only once after a split with an ex. he was angry that i left him and talked smack about me to our mutual friends. i never bothered to defend myself ~ i figured if theyre my true blue buddies, theyll stick with me and all but one couple did. they chose their relationship with him over me ~ it happens. but getting dropped suddenly usually never happens to me because i like to keep on good terms with all my close friends, and if theres a problematic issue, i clear the air immediately. im afraid i was the friend that dropped the ball a few times growing up though. i was a military brat traveling to a new state/home every couple of years, and it became too difficult to juggle my new & old friends, write letters all the time, etc. so i eventually stopped writing to a few of them. i still think of the childhood friends i had to leave behind fondly though and i wish them well.

yes. it is actually happening right now. i kinda know why but still there is no point to just stop talking to me. it'll be ok. i will make him talk to me sooner or later. it isnt hard to do really

Yes, and visa versa. Speaking for myself, when I've had enough and I find that the friendship is more grief than enjoyment, or is just one sided, I cease the friendship.

my friend josh dosent talk to me around this punck cody, his other best friend, but thats just to avoid being made fun of. we agreed on this. but not really i chose my friends carefully.

yeah a few different time. some have been guys that i was mates with and then more than mates with and then nothing really happened and you never heard from them again. Also had girl friends stop talking to me as well... god knows why but usually something to do in the bitchy world of women!!

i did this to someone recently. someone I'd been friends with since the 5th or 6th grade... that's about 13 years. before you judge me, hear me out. i was depressed this year. as in suicidal depressed... she didn't abandon me. she was here for me.. but somehow, the things she said made me feel worse. she even went as far to cal me pathetic. there were some other things but i won't get into specifics. point is, i feel like she betrayed me. i feel like i can't trust her. i tried talkin it out with her & i would think everything was all fine and dandy til i started having dreams wherein the symbolism meant i was gonna be lied to or betrayed and i would automatically think of her. i couldn't handle having a friend i didn't trust so i just stopped talking to her. and now whenever she tries to talk to me i get annoyed because when someone did that to me at the start of the year, she would just tell me to be stronger, have some pride and all that hooplah. eat your words, biatch.

Yes, but only once did the friend stay silent. Everyone deserves an explanation at the very least. I see now that I use the term friend too loosely. Others don't respect it the way I do, so I'm more guarded.

yes its terrible u just feel so used and its hard 2 trust some 1 else

Yes, and I don't think it's a proper thing to do. I can understand if you don't want to come out and say, "you know, I just really don't like you anymore." I mean, most people really don't want to hurt someone, especially an old friend, like that. But I think people should give some hints as to why you're not friends anymore. Maybe offer to talk about your differences at least. I think if you've had a close friendship in the past, you owe it to that person to give some sort of explanation as to why it's not working out. And those, "I'll call you/we'll do something later" comments really just make the whole situation worse when they're not followed up on.

Yes I had a girlfriend who stopped talking to me all of a sudden for no reason I could figure. She wouldnt return phone calls or come to the door. One day I saw her at the store and confronted her and the best I could get out of her was that she thought her new b/f thought I was attractive so she was trying to avoid me. Geez

Yes. Eons ago, when I was in middle school my best friend then stop talking to me, and did not even give me a reason. Later I found out that her boyfriend had been asking questions about me, and she was just jealous.

Yes! It was I never existed.

Yes last year I was so hurt I could not even sleep..we were good frineds and all of a sudden she and my other best frineds ignored me.I do not know the reason till this very day but to be honest I do not care anymore for me these persons are dead long ago

Yeah. I think it means that they are mad at you but they don't want to give you the chance to defend yourself and they don't want to let you know what makes them mad.