Everyone always says that "things will get better," but my depression grows worse every year. Do you think they're still right?
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G'day Indigo, Thank you for your question. It is sad to hear that you have depression. However, you will find that once you find an effective treatment, you will feel better about things. There are things that happen that cause you to feel sad but you generally find that the hurt is reduced over time. There are also things which will give you pleasure and I hope some of those come your way. Regards
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It is not very often that I can say I know exactly how a person feels, but in this case I do. I struggle with this question all the time and fight like hell to keep hope alive. Will things get better? I think the only way they will is through therapy and medication (if necessary) and the strength not to give up when the going gets unbearably tough. It's a constant process of challenging the negative "tapes" in your head. I find it crucial to have someone to help walk me through this. There's no way I can do it alone. Some days it's excruciating just to get out of the house. Other days are easier. But where there is life, there is hope. Get good help. Try to take care of your physical health. Get whatever support you can from family and friends. And no matter what, don't give up. If you want to talk, my e-mail address is posted on my profile page. I will be thinking about you and wish you all the best.
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They usually are right, but generally, people who say that have very little way of telling whether they are or not. Look at it this way, there *Was* a time, however long ago, when you weren't depressed, when things were better, correct? Well then there's always a possibility of happiness becoming reality again. The way I figure it, as long as you can imagine something even halfway possible that *Would* be better, there is always potential for it to get better. The best you can do for now is to get as much help and support as you need to make it as easy and painless as possible for you, and in the meantime just try to remember that hope isn't something that just "Is", it's something we make for ourselves.
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They are still right because an optimistic approach mostly helps. If things are bad, they normally get better after a time. A true depressive illness is when they don't. But if you have this illness, there are some possibilities to get better mit external help. It depends on the gravity: light psychotherapy, change of habits, long walks in the countryside. But you must want to do it and ponder the risks. (There are bad therapies, too)
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I think you need to ask youself why you are depressed? What is making you feel like this? What changes can be made and what windows are open for you at the moment. I am currently on anti depressants, and my mood goes up and down all the time. At the moment im trying to find out what it is im looking and longing for in life. Im only 20, and know i have a lot ahead of me. I think you need to focus on the possitives, and find out what it is thats making you feel this bad. I know you think its easy for me to say, but honestly i think this is the best way to start feeling better.
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I don't know. It's not as bad as saying 'Just snap out of it', it is actually a more positive and supportive statement. When some ignorant jerk tells me to snap out of it, I just want to... reach out and touch someone - like him, and very hard. I posted some of my experiences in another thread here, http://www.answerbag.com/q_view/184254
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Sometimes it takes years for things to get better. I'm 43, have been experiencing depression symptoms since I was 6, and things are starting to get better in my life. It's been a long struggle, but it's worth the effort when things finally do start to lift.
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Just remember, there will be better days/
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Read your Bible. Things will turn around. Read it.
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It is wrong to say that things will get better. They have the possibilty of getting better, but action needs to be taken for that effect to occur. You can take some action that may help. I suggest going to a doctor and explaining the situation. They may put you on antidepressants. DON'T be ashamed of them. I take them and they don't "mess with your mind" as some people believe. Actually, they are just like any other drug for other conditions; they correct what is physiologically wrong. Right now, it is possible that you have a chemical imbalance. Antidepressants fix this. They don't do anything to your brain but restore it to normal functioning. Would you be ashamed to take medication for a heart condition? No. The same beliefs should be held about antidepressants.
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Things CAN get better, but, when you are in the middle of chemical depression, it is hard to see the sunshine in the middle of field. Sometimes it is necessary to get medical help, even for a time. It is not a sin, nor is it a cop out. I am a Christian. I see my depression meds as necessary as my husband's heart meds. I would not say to him "kick the meds and have faith". God has provided men and women with great wisdom to develop meds to help us. I do believe, honey, that things can get better, but, if they haven't and it has been a long while, then don't soldier on alone. Go to your doctor and get help. I will pray that the meds help you quickly and you will be able to see your way clear.
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Wow! Such great answers! A former co-worker suffered from mild depression. The company I had worked for asked for volunteeers for local charities. A few other co workers got her to go to some of the homeless shelters. She said after going there for a few days a week things actually looked better for her. I guess it's because she saw people so much worse off then she was.
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be strong. never give up. and want it to get better.
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i don't think things ever get better, you kind of just have to try to put it aside, for a while. It's hard, but i htink that's all that can be done.
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Some of them say that, to cover that they are depressed. Depression is actually quite common. Those who say it and truly feel it probably don't know what real depression feels like.
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"Things CAN get better", but depression doesn't cure itself. You to do the hardest part, you have to GET UP off of your butt and get pissed-off and say, "ENOUGH". There are things you can do, free things, like exercise everyday, not inside, outside, in the sun. Light, be it artificial or natural is a good combatant of depression. While you are inside, open the curtains, turn on the lights, don't sit in a dark house. Get yourself an "outside" hobby, like gardening, bicycling, photography, etc. Stay away from things and people, whenever possible, that bring you down and don't adopt other people's problems. As great as it would be, you are not responsible for saving the world. Don't sit and wait for this to go away, because it won't! GET UP! NOTHING CHANGES UNTIL YOU GET UP! May the sunshine bring you happiness ...... again
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"Things CAN get better", but depression doesn't cure itself. You to do the hardest part, you have to GET UP off of your butt and get pissed-off and say, "ENOUGH". There are things you can do, free things, like exercise everyday, not inside, outside, in the sun. Light, be it artificial or natural is a good combatant of depression. While you are inside, open the curtains, turn on the lights, don't sit in a dark house. Get yourself an "outside" hobby, like gardening, bicycling, photography, etc. Stay away from things and people, whenever possible, that bring you down and don't adopt other people's problems. As great as it would be, you are not responsible for saving the world. Don't sit and wait for this to go away, because it won't! GET UP! NOTHING CHANGES UNTIL YOU GET UP! May the sunshine bring you happiness ...... again
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Yes, I most certainly do think that things will get better. If you are seriously depressed please go for help. YOu may need to be on medication and in therapy. Remember this: when a person is depressed they are looking through gray colored glasses, not a clear crip view. Things 'FEEL' worse then they really are. There is plenty of hope for you. You will get better but please go for help asp!
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well i could say they are right cuz i use to have depression but time to time it got worse but finaly it all got better
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I had a deep deep depression and took different meds. I felt it like a real pain. After a while I went to a counselore and discussed amny things. It was good to find the root of it and bring it out. I realized one day...I felt a little better. Don't give up.
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yea you can only hit rock bottom once you have no choice but things to get better
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Have you told talked to your doctor about it? I know it was hard for to see one, but it has helped alot. They got me on lexapro, and it does work. I don't feel like crying and hiding in my room as much as I did. I don't cry, but I still rather hang in my room.
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What are you doing to change things? When you look at the way people used to live compared to the way we live now, it is no wonder depression is rampant. There is a reason God commanded us to take a sabbath. We aren't meant to be slaves that work seven days a week. We need one day a week to rest, worship and be with extended family. We need family and community around us. We need friends. We need neighbors. It is not good for us to be alone. We need to be needed. Volunteering is a good way to be needed, even if we don't have family or friends that need us. We need to contribute.
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