yes i would i couldnt live with myself if i didnt.

ABSOLUTELY!

Its complicated, I would cut off ties with the person, ensure none of my family are vunerable to him, ensure that noone else is either. That is to say I would ensure this person is not in contact with people he could abuse, if he is, I would ensure his actions are monitored by myself or someone trustworthy. As for informing an authority, I would be tempted to do so, but if this person is you brother/father, Im sure other family memebers would rather you didn't.

I would talk to them personally and ask them to go for help. If they refuse then it's up to me to safeguard the rest of the family if they don't know yet. I'd bring it up to some other responsible member of the family and then find a calm way to contact the authorities. I've seen families where it's hidden or they try to ignore 'the incidence' and feelings are ignored. It doesn't work. THe ones who get hurt, never heal or take so long that the healing is incomplete and leaves scares that are too big.

In a heart beat..

In a heart beat..

You could bet your very last cent on it. I'd turn them in so fast, it would make your head spin and I'd sleep like a baby after doing it.

Its all very easy said and done what you would do, "in a heart beat" but it would take a very strong person to do so. Because you love your family members alot, and thinking the consequences of their actions because of you reporting them would hurt you deeply. But if they are harming a child, then yes I would.

If I knew he/she molested somebody.

If I were just a kid, I'd tell and adult. Otherwise, I'd let the authorities know. But, I can't think of any reason to keep this secret, you then become an accomplice to the crimes.

MIRAGE RF, The post a comment system doesnt seem to be working from my end. Also there is the fear, that you would be blamed for what has happened, that you'd be blamed for leading the peado on, so many reasons why you dont say a word. You dont want to cause tension in your family, you start to believe maybe this is normality, or you hope this is the last time they wont do it again, so just try and forget. You think the peado is old, maybe he will die soon and just leave you alone, in my case, my uncle saw what was happening and said and did nothing, so i thought maybe this is normality. As for my anonymity on answerbag, it's because I reveal my past to very few of my friends, I dont want to broadcast who I am and what happened to me to the whole world. I originally joined ab because I had other questions, which I also wanted to ask anonymously.

id just smack the living daylights out of them and remove their genitalia.

Dear CardShanks, Apologies I cant seem to post a comment from my end :-S I down rated it because like I've said its easier said and done, and you dont know till your in that persons shoes. I found your answer useless, no justification nothing, no offence CardShank, its my personal opinion. Obviously some people like yourself would tell the authorities 'in a heart beat', but some other people cant do that. I know of a paedo, family memeber, never shopped him in, because it would have hurt the rest of the family. Ive debated it with them and myself. He's in his own personal hell, and like my answer somewhere on this page, Ive ensured that not a single person is vunerable to him, Ive isolated him so only his friends and one family memeber see him. I dont allow children near him.

Dear CardShanks, Apologies I cant seem to post a comment from my end :-S I down rated it because like I've said its easier said and done, and you dont know till your in that persons shoes. I found your answer useless, no justification nothing, no offence CardShank, its my personal opinion. Obviously some people like yourself would tell the authorities 'in a heart beat', but some other people cant do that. I know of a paedo, family memeber, never shopped him in, because it would have hurt the rest of the family. Ive debated it with them and myself. He's in his own personal hell, and like my answer somewhere on this page, Ive ensured that not a single person is vunerable to him, Ive isolated him so only his friends and one family memeber see him. I dont allow children near him.

Sorry singwell, I didnt realise you were the one who asked the question in the first place. Im the one who posted that comment to CardShanks, Ive tried posting a comment back to you but its not working. Can I stress firstly most importantly, each situation is different. I dont know what you situation is. Personally I feel that there isnt a punishment enough for people who abuse children in any way out there. The reason my mum hasn't done anything and continues to see this man is because she feels he will be punished when he meets god. I dont feel the same way, my faith was destroyed by this man If there truly is a god, ye this peado will have to answer him. I didnt inform the authorities then because it would have hurt my mother, I was abused from the age of 8 till about 12/13yrs old. I told my mum when I was 19. In one sense I thought it was normality, but innately I knew that something was wrong, either myself or him. Had i lead him on? Would I cause a war if I voiced my pain? things like this held me back, I wish someone had known and alerted the authorities. Someone found out when I was 10yrs and turned a blind eye. In my eyes he was just as complicit in the act for doing so. Had I been older when intially abused, things would not have escalated as far as they did, had he tried the same vulgarity with my siblings, I swear to you I would have left him on a life support machine. Each situation is different, Im moving on, this man knows he will never see me, I'll see him to dance on his grave. In regards to your relative, it depends on his actions, has he doen something, will he do something, can he be 'cured'? Often the answer is no, can he be controlled? Just please make sure no child is abused. If the only way to ensure that is, by telling the police, then do so.

Hard to report a relative to the police, but having this knowledge and a criminal act takes place involving your relative, you could be charged as an accessory. If your relative raped or killed a child, could you live knowing you possibly could have prevented it? This is the key answer to your question.

Yes. I would talk to that person and urge them to turn themselves in. I would give them a limited amount of time and if they didn't--I would turn them in. How could I not? He could hurt a child...even my own child! I am not willing to let that happen.

YES. I would hate myself either way so I'm better off doing the right thing, and hating myself ,than doing the wrong thing, and hating myself.

sorry CARD SHANKS post system not working again, -->By the way Im a 20yr old Indian girl, so there's stigma attached to this by outting the paedo. I'll be deemed tainted, unjust but its an unfortunate fact. I dont blame my mother at all, she suffers from depression so I chose not to rock the boat when I finally did tell her a few years ago. Initially I was angry, I wanted the bastard to go to court, rot in jail and die. But I could see that would not be good for my mothers health, he is her father after all, she has no mother, no uncles or aunts. She feels guilt, he is old, about 80yrs old, he'll die soon and she cant see him die alone. Its ok, I forgive her for this because guilt is a human emotion that she cant help, yes it cuts me like a knife when he calls the house to ask when she is coming to see him, but I let it go. I just hold onto the fact that he will die soon, and If there is a god, my mothers father willhave to face him and explain what he did. If there is a God, he will have to answer to him for taking away my faith. Yes we believe in Karma, but in this case karma hasnt happened. Like I said I got a life sentence or it too, i did nothing to deserve that at 8 yrs old, except for being an innocent child.

I can respect your position and realize that your situation may have been unique "Different". My ex wife tried to stop it, but, 25 years ago, it was pretty hard to do , especially when her mother protected the pervert. I did have the honor of splitting his head to the tune of over 300 stitches and causing his jaw to be wired shut for over a month, after he got "Coked Up" one evening and decided to attack me with a chef's knife., after an argument about this very subject. Then later seeing him go to Federal Prison was a particular joy for me. Like I said, I can respect your opinion, and I respect your position, in your particular case, but, they asked "WOULD I" turn a pedophile in. The answer is still YES I WOULD !!

Right now I’m in a very similar situation. When I was young between the ages of 5 to 7 I was molested by my oldest brother. My next oldest brother was molested too. I had hoped that since my eldest brother was young (11 to 14) when he committed it that he would not do so as he got older. But I'm not sure anymore. He has shown random behavior (such as allowing kids over) that I really start to wonder. He's married and has a daughter. Back in 1998 I returned home from some voluntary work I had been doing my next older brother came to me and informed me that my eldest brother had been having young boys (between the ages of 10 to 14) over to spend the weekend at my house. I was really disturbed. My next older brother and I confronted him along with one of my parents about this. My eldest brother acknowledge that boys came over but that he did nothing with them and when we asked him about molesting us as kids he said "I don't remember, if I did I did and if I didn't I didn't." My next older brother and I told him if we see any children at the house again we would call the police. My eldest brother within one month found another apartment and moved out. Years have passed now, and I've watch him on and off still seeing similar behaviors that I would suspect a pedophile to do. The behavior I mention is seeing him talking with kids and allowing them over to his house in addition to having them around. As an adult I do not hang around kids! PERIOD! Now, just recently my oldest brother happened to take in a kid who was going to be placed in an institution for wanting to kill his older brother. He is under house arrest. The kid is 15 years old but looks like he’s 12 or 13. I see this kid as being very VUNERABLE. He is no situation to contest my eldest brother if he charges him with molestation. Who's going to believe the kid since he tried to kill his older brother! Furthermore, my eldest brother lives in a small apartment with little room (has a wife and kid). His wife is weak and won’t take a stand against him to prevent the boy from living at the apartment with him. Having a young child at the house doesn't help either. I have only circumstantial evidence but no absolute proof that he is a molester. What can I do? Hire a private investigator? Install a keylogger on his computer? Question the boy subtly? Threatened my oldest brother to remove the kid from his apartment or I will call the police. I never in all my life would want to charge someone for molesting and they are innocent. At the same time if he is He should be punished. If anyone on this board has some ideas before I would go to social services please let me know? thanks

Having lived through this situation, I have to say that yes. Without a question, and especially now that I have kids of my own. I'm not sure that jail does them much good, but keeping them off the streets is far better than letting them keep doing it, and as much as people say that talking to them might change them, chances are, it won't help.

It would depend on what s/he had done - I may keep it quiet if it was apparent that they just looked at pictures of naked children. If those pictures were sick and disgusting (rape, murder, etc.) I would talk to them and urge them into counselling. If they have actually molested or raped a kid, then I would dob them into the police.

100 Percent Yes I would

If I knew they were active (keeping in mind that people can have thoughts, but once they start acting on those thoughts, it effects others), I would contact the authorities after having a personal "discussion" with him. And by discussion, I mean a very person to person to baseball bat discussion. Children and animals, you don't mess with. Singwell, say boo if you need help.

You must be sure he is a pedophile, then I tried to beg this person not to do his terrible things, and watch him every moment and then if I saw he wanted to break his promise...I don`t know, I just hope I`ll never, never have to solve such a problem

Absolutely Yes any other course of action is leaving innocents in jeopardy!

Yes im afraid i would!

YES

Id end his life.

Assuming you knew the pedophile had an actual victim, I would absolutely tell the police. People sometimes do feel they are betraying a relative when they come to know these things, but one must always remember that nothing is more critical than the safety and well being of our children. Familial relationships should never take precidence over one's civic and moral duty. Understand that pedophiles do not change, and treatment is usually unsuccessful. They will continue to take victim after victim for as long as they are allowed to roam free in society. It is the responsibility of those who are aware of the actions of pedophiles to make this person known to the police. Unfortunately, the best place for these perpetrators is in jail.

Yes assuming that there's harm to someone else. Would think twice if it was my parent though but others, no second thought.

I couldn't live with myself if I didn't. I couldn't allow an innocent child to continue to be victimized by a predator like that, regardless of who they were. I wouldn't take them aside and talk to them about it. Doing so would mean to me that I'd become an accomplice to their past crimes. I could accept in the case of thievery or a similar crime but not in the case of a pedophile or rapist. I know the consequenses of doing it too. No one likes a pedophile.

In a New York minute.

Lets analize your question some...not all whom are labled "pedophile" are not truly pedophiles. For instance...is the brother over 18 now and has been dating his girlfriend under 18 for several years and they have sex....in the eyes of the law he is now a pedophile...but is he truly a pedophile? I don't think so. Just because a father likes to look at photos of young girls or boys with no clothes on...does that make him a pedophile? I don't think so unless he acts on those feelings with some young child but in the eyes of the law he is a pedophile. By the way, most all the photos of young naked girls on web sites are actually over 18 but are chosen because they look underage. Pedophile is a term tossed around too freely...just like the term "cheating" yet most don't really know what either actually refers too except for emotionally. Therefore I would have to have much more information than just the possibility of what you stated in your question. I would have to have irrefutable evidence.

If he were forcing a pedofilia will on others, yes!!

Yes.....unlike a couple I know, I wouldn't deny the "sickness" as they have done with their kid.

I wouldn't want to live with the guilt if I didn't. I would have to have reasonable evidence though, not just hearsay.

What.... after I'd killed him?

if he was a True pedophile - ABSOLUTELY - YES. My sons and daughters (and other young ones) come first.

A practicing pedophile.. Yes.

no, i would beat his ass so bad the police would ask enough questions for it to come out.

Ask the Michael Jackson family!

Without a second thought I would turn anyone of them in to the authorities.