DOES ANYONE FEEL GUILTY FOR THE LOSS OF A LOVED ONE LIKE THEY COULD HAVE BEEN THERE MORE FOR THEM AND MAYBE THEY WOULDN'T HAVE PASSED AWAY?
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yes, my grandpa went through alot the last 5 years of his life. I could not sit by and watch it so I never came around. then I got the call and I took it very hard all the could have should have started running through my mind. That was 11 years ago and the guilt is still there.
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We have all probably had this kind of guilt feeling at one time or another. Yet, we must realize that all life is finite. All living beings must die at some time. So, no, we cannot ultimately prevent death.
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Everyday I feel guilty. I think I couldve helped alot more if if I was aware of her problem. Noone deserves to pass away at 21. I dont nessasarily think its my fault thats shes gone but I do think I could have done alot more to help her and maybe prevent it from happening all together. Or maybe thats just what I wish..
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yeah i definitly feel this way
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Sometimes I think that maybe if I had taken more delicate care of my fiancee she wouldn't have lost the baby. Like not let her get stressed out over things, or not fought with her, or if I'd made her quit smoking entirely instead of just cut back a lot.
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I do. I live every day with the whispers of Wouda, Couda, and Shouda. You shouda have stayed home from work so he could get enough rest. If You wouda have called him off he would have been home insted of on that road. You couda saved him.
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I live with that everyday...i think if maybe i would have stayed the night that night maybe i could have saved him and helped him maybe this and that...i have the woulda,coulda,shoulda all day everyday but i just look at it is that if was meant to be there i would have been and there is a reason i wasnt and i have to trust God in his decision for not having me there.
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I have several friends who aren't here anymore. I wish I could've at least talked to them about the path of destruction they were on. I don't know if it would have helped. They probably wouldn't have listened, but there's definitely some regret there.
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A few years after my grandfather passed a friend of mine told me that my father had told him that he felt I was to blame, in part, for my grandfather's death. After living near and being very close to my grandparents for years I moved out of my dad's at 15 and went to live with my mom.(long story short on that one I was getting away from my abusive alcoholic dad) According to my dad, apparently, if I had not moved away and broken my grandpa's heart he would have been able to find the strength to live. Whether or not that was really said and even though I know that God had decided it was time to bring my grandfather home, the thought still haunts me to this day!
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Yes, my best friend one year, and my sister the next. :)
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turn your caps off!
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I think we ALL have some guilt in that department and guilt does none of us any good. I do tell my grandson to call his dad, because some day he's going to wish he could talk to his dad and his dad will no longer be reachable.
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I know exactly what loosing someoen like that is like and i can realate i lost a dearly beloved Uncle and alwyas felt guilty about asking him to come up on a cold winter night a couple weeks before he died cause i couldnt control my younger brother and seeing him dead if you havent seen a dead body before its a shocking life changing experience to see one up close someone you loved talked with Drunk cider with its a very painful experience remembering it all in two seconds and being there to comfort others.
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When I was in jr. high my grandmother was put into a nursing home, and my mom would take her into town/out to lunch/shopping. And I think that is the only thing she had to look forward to. One day she called when my mom was out, and asked if I could have my mom pick her up for a day out. I forgot about the message, and a few days later my grandmother died. I feel so horrible, because I think she died because she just gave up. Nursing homes are horrible, they all lose hope, don't have much to live for anymore. Its very sad. I just think, if I wouldof given my mom the message, my grandmother could of lived longer. Maybe kept some of her hope that she wouldn't be in there all alone forever.... it just breaks my heart. In my earlier years, she was more of a mother to me then my actual mother was. :(
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I don't, but I know that my mom does over the loss of her father. I can tell by some of the things she says, and I think that she is mad at herself for not being there and spending more time with him b/f his death!!!! But I guess that is all part of the grieving process.
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Yes!!!!!!!!!!! The suicide of our 19 year old cousin,his mother completely blames herself because they got in to a fight right before it happened. The whole thing is like a nightmare!!
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