When sex feels so good, how can it possibly be a sin?

It is not as long as it is in the holy bonds of marriage. :)


-In the Master's service.
Thank you and God bless you!

Presumably you mean how can free sex be a sin, because it is this type of sex that is sin.

Just because something feels good it does not make it good. I expect taking drugs makes people feel good that does not make taking drugs good. It has its down sides. The same can be said about free sex.

sex is in itself a gift from the creator to mankind to continue procreating. this means of procreating was purposed to be practiced only within the bounds of marriage. the ability to enjoy sex is a gift from the creator to the married couple on their wedding night. since this is something only to be enjoyed after the marriage vows are spoken, to engage in sex before the wedding night is what the bible condemns. to engage in sex with someone else other than the marriage mate is also a sin and is a defilement of the marriage bed. to engage in sex with someone of the same sex is also a gross sin before the one that created man and woman. any type of sexual practice performed outside of marriage with another person or animal is a sin.

It's not in a sin . . . in marriage.

I have never had the impression that sex was a sin.I was not brought up that way.Sex is natural,and something that carries on the species and is enjoyable at the same time.Sin is something some people choose to believe and others not.To take the joy of sex away because of a supposed sin is nonsense.

Just because some pervert thinks sex with a four year old is best, and it "feels so good" does that mean that it shouldn't be a sin?

I know that is not where you were going with the question, but I had to play devil's advocate for a second. I do not believe that sex between consenting adults is a sin. I am a bit kinky, and like some stuff that is pretty "out there." As long as my partner is ok with it too, there is no sin.

It is not a sin.

It is a chemical & biological process to propagate the species. Chemical ("Hey, she's hot...") ------> Biological ("What do you mean your late???)

It isn't. There are certain people that have issues with sex , and they try to project those issues onto others by making them feel guilt and/or fear for being able to freely experience something that THEY have a problem with.

When there is no love.

Lol. Only if you're hurting somebody or going against God is it a 'Christian sin.' Then again, a lot of things feel good that are sins, but most things I can think of (like speeding, sloth or getting revenge) are all either harmful, against the Christian God's word or both.

How can it not be? Pleasure is sin. Our Puritan forefathers taught us that.

yaaaah it feels so good

but if your wife has a sex with another man)...why don't you accept it?????

if sex feels so good...why don't you accept your wife to feel so good with others :)

It's not a sin. That comes from the original 'Garden of Eden' Sumerian myth about the Anannaki. That tale was plagarized and rewritten for the Abrahamic religions. In the original version, the Anannaki were in that area mining gold. They thought the humans they enslaved had sex when they should be working instead, thus the "shame" on sex.

It's not a sin, within marriage.

Sex is not a sin.

Sex without absolute life-long commitment to the person you're having sex with and any offspring you produce is a sin.

Sex with another person's spouse is a sin.

Sex that reduces the participants to just pieces of meat (or worse) is a sin.

Sex that is just using the other person as a maturbating machine is a sin.

Sex is sacred, and not to be profaned.

My wife keeps telling me that sex is a sin unless I'm doing it with her. I don't get it either.

If it didn't feel good, this world would be a lonely place! Sex outside of the marriage is a sin. Sex with your spouse is not a sin.

Sometimes sex doesn't feel so good. Ask survivors of sexual abuse.

Either people have misinterpreted things and made it a sin or god is a mean bastrad with a f'd up sense of humor.

True! The homophobes who wrote the bible, however, were worried that if it were not curbed, then they might "give in" to their urges. Too bad, huh? If it feels good, do it, I always say.

Ever hear of the Law of Unintended Consequences? Sex out of its proper context is dangerous. You MIGHT get away with it, but why take the chance?

That would only make sense if god was a cruel bastard - or if he and sin didn't exist but were human constructs.
+5

Where did you get the idea that sex is a "sin?"

Surely sex was told to be a sin in the Bible because there was little contraception (or none at all for the Catholics) and illegitimacy was not accepted by society. If you take away the overall idea that God will smite you for your sins, the Bible is, essentially, a big Sociology textbook of the time and place it was written.

What Idiot said it was??? Here's the Doctrine on it. Enjoy!!! John

DOCTRINE OF SEX

A. The Castle Analogy to Sex.
1. There are three areas of intimacy in marriage.
a. Physical Intimacy. This is the coalescence of bodies in the
sexual relationship of marriage. Sex is the ultimate in human intimacy, the
invisible walls which isolate husband and wife from the rest of the world.
b. Compatibility intimacy. This is the coalescence of souls
through the formation of the integrity envelope, which establishes true
love.
c. Rapport intimacy. This is the coalescence of the spiritual
lives of husband and wife, using the four spiritual mechanics to attain the
four objectives of the spiritual life.
2. God invented marriage to be a special relationship of unity,
intimacy, and privacy between one adult man and one adult woman.
3. Marriage can be illustrated by the concept of the castle.
a. The foundation for the castle is Jesus Christ, who performed
the first marriage in history. But since the Lord no longer performs
wedding ceremonies in person, He has designed the foundation of the castle
to be Bible doctrine, His thinking, 1 Cor 2:16.
(1) The solution to all marital problems is located in the
content of Bible doctrine, plus the problem solving devices of the protocol
plan.
(2) This means that marital problems are not solved by
changing spouses in what is called an "other-directed marriage," but by
changing yourself in what is called a "self-directed marriage."
(3) This means that marital problems are not solved by
counselling, by seeking self-justification, by unloading your problems on
others, or any other system involving others in your marriage. The
exception is when a spouse needs medical attention or psychiatric help.
b. Just as Bible doctrine circulating in the seven compartments
of the stream of consciousness is the foundation in marriage, so personal
love inside the integrity envelope is the superstructure of the castle.
(1) The castle walls provide unity, privacy, intimacy, love,
affection, virtue, and happiness.
(2) Since the wife is a responder, those invisible walls
protect her from any outside encroachment in the form of seduction,
distraction, or transference of affection and admiration to someone other
than her husband. This does not imply social withdrawal from friends,
peers, or society in general, nor does it imply aversion to the conformity
to the conventional standards of social behavior.
(3) Marriage is a special relationship, a system of
intimacy, privacy, unity, virtue, love, and happiness in which the husband
protects his wife as a responder through fulfillment through the first
divine law of marriage, Eph 5:25, "Husbands, love your wives just as Christ
also loved the Church and gave Himself as a substitute for her." Neither
the husband or wife should ever go outside and complain about the other
spouse. This does not mean being asocial or anti-social, but indicates a
divine grace provision for one man and one woman which is different from all
other human relationships including relationship with father and mother.
c. Part of the invisible walls of protection is sexuality, which
was invented by God to be the monopoly of marriage.
(1) Sex is the invisible castle walls that isolate the
husband and wife from all other persons in their periphery. The sexual
relationship in marriage is the invisible walls of the castle, which
constitute the unity, the privacy, the intimacy, love, affection, virtue,
and happiness of divine institution number two--marriage.
(2) Sex portrays the beauty of interdependence in marriage,
just as Bible doctrine emphasizes the believer's total dependence on God and
His grace policy.
(3) Sex is a return to Eden, when the coalescence of bodies
is accompanied by the coalescence of souls. The coalescence of bodies is a
vacation from the first two laws of marriage. The man's authority over the
woman is set aside in sex. The woman's obedience to the man is set aside in
sex. Each spouse has the authority over the other person's body. Each can
initiate in sex and the other can respond. This gives both a vacation back
to the garden of Eden.
d. A second part of the invisible walls of protection in marriage
is the integrity envelope, which provides the coalescence of souls to
accompany the coalescence of bodies, which protects the woman as a responder
to one man in marriage. The invisible wall created by sexual intimacy not
only establishes an inner dependence between husband and wife but adds a
fantastic interaction by which spirituality and sexuality combine to form
the most fantastic relationship in life.
e. There are two categories of sex operational in history.
(1) Legitimate sex, which God invented for the invisible
walls of marriage.
(2) Illegitimate sex, which is man's sinful and evil
distortion of what God has so graciously provided. The castle of marriage
has invisible walls which isolate husband and wife in marriage and cause
their relationship to be unique. Illegitimate sex destroys the castle walls
of marriage. 1 Cor 7:2, "But because of every kind of unlawful sex, let
each man have his own wife, and let each woman have her own husband."
f. Sex outside of marriage is always classified as a sin, Lev 18;
20:10-23; Num 5:12-13; Deut 5:22-23. There are five categories of sexual
sins.
(1) Adultery, which is voluntary sexual intercourse of a
married person with someone other than his wife.
(2) Fornication, which is voluntary sexual intercourse
between two unmarried persons or two persons not married to each other.
(3) The sexual sins of degeneracy.
(a) Homosexuality, which is voluntary sexual
intercourse directed toward a person of one's own sex.
(b) Bestiality, which is sexual relationship between a
human being and an animal.
(c) Necrophilia, which is erotic attraction to a
corpse.
(4) The sexual sins of crime.
(a) Rape, which is to force a person to have
intercourse.
(b) Incest, which is sexual intercourse between parents
and children.
(c) Pederasty, which is sexual relationship between two
males, one of whom is a minor.
(d) Prostitution, which is the practice of engaging in
sexual intercourse for money.
(e) Pandering, which is the function of a pimp, a go-
between who profits from the vices of others related to illicit sexual
intercourse.
(5) The sexual sins related to evil. This includes the
phallic cult, demonism and demon cults related to sex.
g. Marriage is built on the principle of Bible doctrine and
consummated in sexual relationship between husband and wife.
h. Marriage must have isolation from parents and society in
general under the concept of intimacy, privacy, virtue, love, happiness, and
unity. This isolation is the invisible walls of the castle which we call
sex.
4. Sex portrays the interdependence of the husband and wife in
marriage, the unique unity between one man and one woman.
5. Sex in marriage is described under the quote "one flesh" in Gen
2:24 and Eph 5:31. Hence, "one flesh" describes the invisible walls of the
castle. Eph 5:31, "For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother,
and he shall have sex with his wife, and they two shall be one flesh."
a. Marriage is a state of independence from all previous
relationships in life. This does not isolate husband and wife from their
parents; but it does mean that parents have no right to interfere in the
lives of their adult children.
b. God ordained the principle of separation from parents in the
garden of Eden before parents existed. Marriage came first. Therefore,
marriage must be separated from parents and all other forms of society under
the concept of unity, privacy, intimacy, virtue, and equality.
c. Gen 2:24 is quoted in Mt 19:5; Mk 10:7; 1 Cor 6:16; Eph 5:31.
6. Sex is the monopoly of marriage. It was invented by God for seven
reasons.
a. The interdependence of husband and wife is portrayed by sex.
b. The unity of marriage is portrayed by sex.
c. The equality of marriage is portrayed by sex.
d. The privacy and intimacy of marriage is portrayed by sex.
e. The virtue of marriage - thoughtfulness, tenderness, self-
control, virtue love of the husband in performing the sexual act - is
portrayed by sex.
f. The recreation of marriage occurs by sex.
g. The procreation of the human race.

B. Sex is both unity and equality in marriage.
1. The husband is the authority in marriage and has the responsibility
of exercising his responsibility in virtue love and in spiritual self-
esteem. The function of the wife is to respond first with respect and then
with obedience. The wife is never commanded to love the husband, but the
husband to love the wife with virtue love developed by Bible doctrine.
2. In the sexual relationship, the authority of the husband is set
aside. 1 Cor 7:3-4, "Let the husband fulfill his marital responsibilities
to his wife, and likewise also the wife to her husband. The wife does not
have authority over her own body, but the husband does; and likewise also
the husband does not have authority over his own body, but the wife does."
a. Sexuality in marriage is a vacation from the first two laws of
marriage--from the husband's authority and from the wife's obedience.
Therefore, sex becomes a vacation, a recreation, a change from the usual
authority system. Each has something the other needs for completion.
b. This means that sex is that part of marriage where the
authority of the husband is set aside and equality of interaction between
husband and wife takes over. Sex is that part of marriage where the
authority of the husband and the obedience of the wife does not function.
c. In the sexual relationship of marriage, there is no authority.
Instead there is the flexibility of response and counter response. Either
partner can initiate in sex in marriage. It begins in foreplay, and
continues in the sexual act.
d. The husband has authority over the wife in marriage, except
when it comes to the matter of sex. In the function of sex in marriage,
there are two authorities and two responders. The wife has authority over
the husband's body and the husband has authority over the wife's body.
Where two authorities coalesce in sex, there is equal authority, which is no
authority.
3. In sex, either the husband or wife can initiate. Both can
initiate, or either one can initiate. Whatever is agreeable in the sexual
relationship must be acceptable to both parties in the relationship.
4. 1 Cor 11:11, "Because of the Lord, neither is the woman anything
apart from the man, neither is the man anything apart from the woman." The
wife has just as much right to initiate in sex. This is the coalescence of
the bodies and the coalescence of souls. Sex is the place of both unity and
equality in marriage.
5. Sex is a part of marriage where the authority of the husband and
the obedience of the wife give precedence to personal love inside the
integrity envelope. Because there is no authority in sex as such, each
having authority over the body of the other, there is a demand in sex for
the highest function of virtue.
a. The real secret to a successful sex life is virtue. God
invented sex to function magnificently to the satisfaction of all through
virtue.
b. It is the virtue of impersonal love, personal love inside the
integrity envelope of impersonal love, and spiritual self-esteem that makes
sex such a fantastic thing.
6. In sex, virtue love demands that the husband and the wife take a
vacation to the garden of Eden behind those invisible walls of their castle.
This means that personal love inside the integrity envelope produces a
special virtue of love, tenderness, thoughtfulness, passion, coalescence of
their souls and bodies in their return to Eden.
a. The husband must be very thoughtful. He must demonstrate
tenderness, patience, and above all self-control. Self-gratification has no
virtue in sex. Virtue demands that the husband have self-control, because
God invented a different structure for sex in the man and woman.
b. Virtue demands that the husband make sure that the wife is
satisfied in her responses in sex. Failure to obey the mandate to love his
wife as Christ loved the Church means failure in authority over his own body
in sex. That means that he will leave his wife in a state of frustration.
Her frustration moves to the soul in antagonism. The man must use his
virtue authority to keep his body under control for as long as is necessary
in the satisfaction of the woman.
7. The husband does not use his authority to demand sex; for sex is
not the function of male tyranny, nor the modus operandi of the three
arrogance skills, nor sexual lust, nor self-gratification.
a. Every husband must realize that sex in marriage is not the
demand syndrome. The demand syndrome is the husband using his authority to
force the wife into bed. A smart and virtuous husband will find ways to
make his wife initiate and lead him to the bed.
b. Sex is not designed by God to be a demand from the tyranny of
the authority of the husband, ignoring his responsibility and emphasizing
his lust. Lust is often the abuse of sex.
c. Sex is not putting lust into a slot machine and getting self-
gratification.
d. The response of the wife in sex combines on the one hand
initiation and abandonment on the other hand. She has the right to go from
initiation to abandonment. The husband's authority exercised over the wife
is now exercised over his own body.
e. Each spouse must find in the other the building material for
the construction of those invisible castle walls. Sex builds a wall of
unity, intimacy, privacy, and virtue around the marriage.
8. Sex does not attack the authority of the husband, but strengthens
it through the husband's personal love for the wife inside the integrity
envelope and through his satisfying the wife in sex.
9. God invented sex for two purposes.
a. The primary purpose is for recreation. Sex is a short
vacation; the recharging of two batteries. In recreation, sex gives the
husband a vacation from his authority function, and the wife a vacation from
her subordinate function.
b. The secondary purpose is for procreation--perpetuation of the
human race through sexual intercourse. Children do not hold a marriage
together, recreation inside the integrity envelope and coalescence of souls
does.
c. In recreation, sex gives the husband a vacation from his
authority function over the wife and the wife has a vacation from her
subordinate function to the husband. This is the only way for true sexual
comparability.
10. Sex is designed to fulfill two principles in marriage: recreation
and procreation. But God did not design sex for the creation of life. Sex
does not create human life; it produces biological life and the old sin
nature. Life comes from God, not from man.
11. Just as self-determination, property and life are expressions of
human freedom, so sex is the expression of freedom in marriage. Authority
is set aside, and the relationship becomes one of response and counter
response under virtue and thoughtfulness.
12. Sex in marriage emphasizes the doctrinal principle that each spouse
has a responsibility to the other. And this responsibility includes the
purpose of sex as an expression of both unity and virtue in marriage.
13. God designed sex to be an expression of both virtue and unity. The
expression of virtue in the successful function of sex is twofold.
a. The husband's virtue love combines with his spiritual self-
esteem resulting in satisfying his wife in the sexual act.
b. The wife's respect and growing virtue love results in
satisfying the husband.
14. Hence, behind the invisible castle walls of sex in marriage there
is something far greater and far more lasting--the expression of virtue in
that relationship.
15. Through doctrinal inculcation and subsequent doctrinal
conceptualism, sex portrays the beauty of interdependence in marriage. Sex
is an expression of that interdependence; and therefore, only gets better as
husband and wife advance from the attraction stage of their relationship to
the compatibility and rapport stages.

C. The Precedence of Sex In Marriage.
1. Sexual intercourse in marriage unites the bodies of the husband and
the wife, but only personal love inside the integrity envelope can unite
their souls in true love. There is no true love in marriage unless their is
coalescence of soul.
2. The coalescence of souls brings true meaning to "one flesh" (Gen
2:24) in the conjugal relationship of the husband and wife in marriage.
3. The first marriage in history occurred immediately after the
creation of the woman. Therefore, the first occurrence and sexual
intercourse occurred in marriage.
4. Sex is the monopoly of marriage. It is designed by God for the
expression of unity, virtue, privacy, intimacy, and personal care for the
other spouse in marriage. As such, sex becomes an invisible wall of
intimacy and protection. You can never have sex outside of marriage without
adverse consequences related to the law of volitional responsibility.
Marriages are often destroyed long before they occur. The four spiritual
mechanics are the only thing that give you recovery from this kind of
situation. There is no other. All the psychological nonsense in the world
will not help. Only God can turn cursing into blessing.
5. The divine institution of marriage is as close as any two people
(male and female) can ever get to the perfect environment of the garden of
Eden. The divine institution of marriage is the only way you can go back to
the garden. Because marriage takes its precedence before the fall of man,
it is the one place where you can recover some of the fantastic blessing
that belonged to Adam and the woman.
6. The first marriage provided precedence for the following.
a. Marriage came before sex.
b. Marriage came before romance. Therefore, premarital sex is
not a part of romance, it is a distortion of romance.
c. Personal love inside the integrity envelope came before sin.
Personal love outside of the integrity envelope emphasizes the body over the
soul, sex over love, sin over virtue.
d. Response from the woman came before the reaction from the
woman. She was vulnerable as a responder. The first sin in history was the
woman reacting. She reacted to God and reacted to Adam. While sex in
marriage is a wall to protect the woman, if she reacts to her husband, that
reaction can result in sins of all kinds. When a woman is not responding,
she is reacting.
e. The woman has, as a responder, the most important role. Her
love is going to come out of respect. Her relationship with a man is going
to be to respond to her husband only, the husband that she accepted.
7. The characteristics of the first female reaction.
a. She reacted against the divine prohibition in the garden of
Eden.
b. She rejected the authority of the man.
c. She became the first sinner in human history.
d. The woman's reaction was based on false information through
which she was deceived, 1 Tim 2:14.
e. The woman, designed as a responder, became a reactor and
reversed the pattern and the direction of her life.
(1) The female reaction pattern occurs all of the time and
produces all kinds of mental attitude sins, emotional sins, and verbal sins.
(2) The reaction pattern often involves sex outside of
marriage. The woman seeks the approbation of other men. She places
emphasis on her body's demand for sex.
(3) The result is the dead soul of 1 Tim 5:6, "But she who
lives in wanton pleasure [being headstrong and willful, vulnerable to
flattery, socially unrestrained, competitive, flirtatious, getting involved
in sexual lawlessness] is dead while she lives."

D. The Purpose of Sex in Marriage.
1. Contrary to legalistic asceticism in marriage, God designed sex in
original creation as an expression of conjugal love. Sex was designed for
recreation in marriage. The precedence is stated in Gen 2:24, "For this
cause a man shall leave his father and his mother, and shall have sexual
intercourse with his wife; and they shall become one flesh." Gen 2:24 is
quoted in Eph 5:31, where the Hebrew word DABAQ is translated by the Greek
word PROSKALLAO, which means "intimate association in the form of sexual
intercourse," Kittel, Vol 3, p.822f.
2. Principles.
a. Sexuality in marriage is not only designed for the mutual
pleasure of the husband and the wife, but is a reminder that the only thing
that is coalesced at the point of marriage is the bodies. Coalescence of
the bodies in sex means that two people now have one destiny in life. But
soul coalescence is even more important. The coalescence of souls comes
through Bible doctrine and the integrity envelope, composed of personal love
for God the Father and impersonal love for all mankind.
b. Compatibility and rapport in marriage depends on the
coalescence of souls. You cannot have soul compatibility until you are
under one roof as husband and wife. After marriage is when you get to know
your spouse. Hence, the need for both spouses to form the integrity
envelope in their respective souls for their mutual benefit in marriage.
c. Precedence was established in the original marriage when it
was consummated with sexual intercourse, which united their bodies but not
their souls. Adam and the woman went through three stages in their
marriage.
(1) The perfection stage. Sex in this stage was recreation,
an expression of personal love inside the integrity envelope.
(2) At the fall, the spiritual death stage. Sex in this
stage involved both recreation and procreation for perpetuation of the human
race.
(3) The regenerate stage came after they were born again.
Sex in this stage is an expression of personal love inside the integrity
envelope.
d. The formation of the integrity envelope in the soul by the
deployment of the tandem problem solving devices results in coalescence of
souls which expresses true love in sexual relationship. In marriage, you
have to have a personal sense of destiny for two people. This is a far
greater challenge. Therefore, the integrity envelope must remain in place
for a far greater challenge. You can be single and have the tandem problem
solving devices in place and even pass providential preventative suffering,
but marriage will challenge your personal sense of destiny. True love in
sexual relationship comes from the tandem problem solving devices creating
in the soul the integrity envelope.
e. If both spouses have the integrity envelope, then they will
move rapidly to coalescence of souls. That is the key to marriage.
3. With personal love inside the integrity envelope, true love is
expressed in the sexual relationship between of the husband and the wife.
4. Sex in marriage can be the fulfillment of desire or an expression
of true love and rapport. It can be either the fulfillment of lust, of
normal desire, of libido, or the expression of true love with soul rapport.
It is stupid to not have sex because you do not have soul rapport yet.
5. Sex outside of marriage is sin, evil, and degeneracy. Sex outside
of marriage can also be crime. Sex outside of marriage is forbidden, Ex
20:14; Dt 5:18; Mt 5:27f, 19:18; Rom 13:8-9; 1 Cor 6:13,18; 1 Thes 4:3-4;
Heb 13:4; Eph 5:3.
6. Precedence always restricts sex to marriage. Sex in marriage is
designed by God to be an expression of personal love inside the integrity
envelope. That is the goal and objective of God.
7. You cannot build your marriage on sex. You build your marriage on
virtue love. The integrity envelope always expresses itself in sex in
marriage as well as the coalescence of souls.
8. The honorable unbeliever can have a happy marriage, Eccl 9:9,
"Enjoy life with the wife whom you love all the days of your life of
emptiness, which He has given to you under the sun; because that is your
portion in life, and in your job at which you are working labored under the
sun."
a. This is an unbeliever who has soul rapport with his wife on
the basis of the fact he is an honorable person. He has an empty life
because of no relationship with God, but can still have a happy life.
b. The unbeliever can have a wonderful life of happiness because
he has honor in his job. He does good in his job for the same reason he has
a good marriage--he has honor in both.
c. Unbelievers can have happiness in marriage and in their job
because of honor from observance of the laws of divine establishment.

E. Soul Coalescence.
1. One of the most meaningful things in life and one of the most
sustaining things in marriage is when there is coalescence of souls and then
coalescence of bodies. There are few believers in every generation who
fulfill this. There are even fewer who understand and fulfill what God gave
the human race in sex. From the beginning of mankind on the earth, sex was
an expression of personal love in marriage.
2. The first marriage united a perfect man and a perfect woman in
perfect environment. After the original sin of Adam and the woman, sex in
marriage was designed as an expression of personal love inside the integrity
envelope. Therefore, sex in marriage by precedence is first of all
recreation. Recreation in sex is necessary; procreation is not.
a. The first purpose of sex in marriage is an expression of
personal love inside the integrity envelope. This was the only purpose
prior to the fall of mankind. It is the original purpose of marriage and
continues until the end of history.
b. The second purpose of sex in marriage is procreation--the
perpetuation of the human race through sexual intercourse. This purpose was
not operational until the original sin introduced spiritual death into the
human race, Rom 5:12.
c. Gen 1:27-28, "And God created man in His own image, in the
image of God He created him; male and female He created them. Then God
blessed them and said to them, `Be fruitful and multiply, and fill the earth
and dominate it...'"
(1) The word for "man" here is the definite article HA and
the noun ADAM. This is technical for the entire human race. Both the man
and the woman were created in the image of God.
(2) The word "image" is the Hebrew noun TSELEM. It is
correctly translated "image." It refers to a shadow image. It does not
refer to the visible body of the man and the woman, but to the invisible
soul and spirit, when mankind was originally created trichotomous (body,
soul, and spirit). The word image means three things.
(a) It means self-consciousness of the soul. "I am."
(b) It means morality; moral reasoning power. "I
ought."
(c) It means volition or self-determination. "I will."
(3) The divine mandate of verse 28 only became operational
after the fall of mankind. Precedence in the authority in marriage was
established prior to the fall of mankind. From the beginning man was the
ruler over the woman in marriage.
(4) God created marriage as an invisible wall composed of a
sublime sexual relationship to protect mankind from angelic infiltration and
many other things.
3. True sexuality is not just the coalescence of two bodies. The
expression of love in sex comes from the coalescence of the souls.
a. Since God created mankind to resolve the prehistoric angelic
conflict, marriage has a great deal to do with that. God created mankind to
resolve the angelic conflict through a series of systems which are part of
human life: the function of your volition, the function of your
relationships, the function of marriage, the function of faith in Christ for
eternal salvation. God created mankind to resolve the angelic conflict
through thinking related to volition and values of the soul, not emotion.
b. In sex in marriage there is a good emotion that is a part of
the return of one couple to the garden of Eden for that brief time of the
sexual encounter. In that good emotion there is the desire, the love for
each partner in marriage to fulfill their responsibilities. A woman never
thinks it is demeaning to be obedient to her husband, because she has been
to Eden with him. A husband is never a brutal monster in pushing around a
woman because he has been to Eden with her. The sexual relationship is
coalescence of bodies in such a way that the return from the vacation of
sexuality results in the most fantastic desire to fulfill all three of the
divine laws of marriage.
c. Thinking is a part of the spiritual life. Thinking is a part
of marriage. Marriage is a part of the spiritual life.
(1) Phil 2:5, "Keep on thinking this in you which was in
Christ Jesus."
(2) 1 Cor 2:16, "For who has known the thinking of the Lord;
we have the thinking of Christ."
(3) Eph 4:23, "Become renewed [reinvigorated, refreshed]
through the agency of the Holy Spirit by means of your thinking."
(4) 2 Tim 1:14, "Guard the noble deposit [Bible doctrine]
through the agency of the Holy Spirit who keeps on dwelling in you."
(5) Rom 12:2-3, "Stop being conformed to this world, but be
transformed by the renewing of your thinking, that you may prove what the
will of God is. For I say through the grace that was given to me to
everyone who is among you, stop thinking of self in terms of arrogance
beyond what you ought to think, but think in terms of sanity as God has
assigned to each one of us a standard of thinking from doctrine."
(6) 1 Cor 10:12, "Let him who thinks he stands take heed
lest he fall. If anyone thinks he is something when he is nothing, he
deceives himself."
(7) Prov 23:27, "As a person thinks in his soul that is what
he is."
4. It is coalescence of souls with the coalescence of bodies that
takes the man and the woman back to the garden of Eden, the most refreshing
place in the world, which brings them back to motivation to fulfill God's
plan, will, and purpose in marriage.
5. Coalescence of souls can only be fulfilled through the thinking of
the soul related to the spiritual life, thinking related to the formation of
the integrity envelope of the tandem problem solving devices. The three
laws of marriage are fulfilled in the soul, not in sex. Therefore, as goes
the spiritual life, so goes the marriage.
6. The thinking of the spiritual life has three results, which are the
true greatness of the believer.
a. Consistent modus operandi in the function of the four
spiritual mechanics of the protocol plan of God.
b. The formation of the integrity envelope from the deployment of
the tandem problem solving devices.
c. Fulfillment of the four spiritual objectives of the protocol
plan of God.

F. Sex is not a problem solving device for marriage.
1. The foundation of marriage is the Lord Jesus Christ and the
thinking of Jesus Christ, 1 Cor 2:16. Sex is part of the thinking of
Christ, who invented sex. Sex is a grace gift from gift for marriage only,
which makes marriage marvelous and wonderful.
2. The success or failure of marriage depends on the believer's
attitude toward Bible doctrine. In addition to Bible doctrine itself, the
believer must understand and utilize the problem solving devices of the
protocol plan of God. These are designed to solve the problems of marriage,
not sex.
3. You do not solve your marital problems by changing your spouse or
changing your sex partner, but you change yourself under the concept of a
self-directed marriage. The concept of a self-directed marriage includes
two things.
a. The application of doctrine to experience under the principle
of wisdom and doctrinal conceptualism.
b. The understanding and use of the problem solving devices of
the protocol plan.
4. The sexual partners who have solved their problems through doctrine
are the ones who have the best relationship.
5. Most Christians try to solve marital problems through some simple
but ineffectual formula, such as counselling, or having someone tell you
what to do.
6. In a self-directed marriage, each spouse takes responsibility for
his or her own mistakes and seeks to correct them or change them
accordingly. In other-directed marriages, each spouse holds the other
spouse responsible for both happiness and entertainment in marriage. In the
self-directed marriage, one spouse does not try to change the other spouse
to conform to his or her image of the ideal mate.
7. Sex is an expression of marital relationship, but never designed by
God to be a problem solving device. Sex portrays the beauty of
interdependence in marriage, just as Bible doctrine presents the believer's
dependence on God's grace policy. This means that sex in marriage is the
sphere of unity, the "one flesh" principle.
8. Sex in marriage demands, above all, the function of virtue to
produce happiness, contentment, and satisfaction in the sexual relationship
of husband and wife.
9. Sex often becomes part of the problem of marriage.
a. If the husband becomes involved in the arrogance complex
through self-fragmentation, his self-pity, jealousy, bitterness,
vindictiveness, arrogance, and hypersensitivity will affect his sexual
relationship with his wife.
b. This means that sex becomes a means of self-gratification
only, and the expression of lack of virtue and lack of spiritual self-
esteem. This means that sex becomes a terrible burden to the wife, who
comes to hate the very thing that God has designed for her blessing.
c. As a problem-manufacturing device, both husband and wife can
use or abuse sex, resulting in the destruction of those invisible castle
walls and what they represent in marriage.
d. If the wife is petty, bitter, vindictive, jealous, or full of
unrealistic expectation, or motivated to revenge, she has contributed to the
destruction of those invisible walls of marriage.
e. Hatred and self-justification result in the "I-me" syndrome,
which also contributes to the destruction of sexual relationship.
f. Marriage is a two-way responsibility. It is not a one-way
street, where the husband initiates everything and must comply with his
wife's unrealistic expectations. The wife who has not initiated has not
been satisfied in sex.
g. The tragedy of marriage begins when couples are more
interested in arrogant, self-centered thinking, which says, "What can I get
out of marriage?" rather than the doctrinal viewpoint, "What can I bring
into this marriage?"
10. Marriage is not only the merging of bodies, but the merging of
souls, and even of sin natures and personality differences.
a. Hence, the conflicts and problems of marriage often overflow
into the sexual relationship. Therefore, the problems can only be solved by
going back to the foundation, which is Bible doctrine.
b. As problems in marriage are resolved, so also the sexual
relationship in marriage is resolved.
c. Bible doctrine is the foundation of marriage. And the success
of marriage depends on your inventory of doctrinal principles.
d. Just as Bible doctrine is the foundation for Christian
marriage, so sex in marriage is the superstructure which isolate one man and
one woman from their contemporaries in the divine institution of marriage.
11. Principles of application.
a. Application without truth is false. Example: premarital sex.
b. Application without fact is fiction. Example: all of the
distortions related to sex - kinky sex.
c. Application from emotion is irrationality. People get
emotional about sex and become irrational about it.
d. Application without principle is distortion, foolish and silly
thinking.
e. Application without doctrine is distorted learning.
f. Application without virtue is distorted living.
12. You cannot solve the problems of marriage through the mind, the
thinking, or the volition of another person. Therefore, counselling is not
the solution to marital problems. Certain cases may require the assistance
of professional counselling.
a. Medical help where sexual incompetency is related to a
physiological problem. This requires the help of a medical doctor, not a
marriage counsellor.
b. Medical help where there is a suspected mental illness in a
spouse. Psychiatry is required here.
c. Professional counselling in which you are encouraged to make
your own decisions on the basis of doctrinal principles.
13. There is no substitute for solving your own marital problems from
the privacy of your priesthood and through your own doctrinal inventory in
the soul. In counselling situations, the believer is often depending upon
the thinking, judgement, volition, or the modus operandi of someone else.
And something that will work for someone else may not work for you. Other
Christians cannot solve your problems.
a. The same privacy by which you learned Bible doctrine should be
used in the application of that doctrine in resolving your problems. Change
yourself, but do not try to change your spouse.
b. Marriage is more than finding the right person; it is being
the right person.
c. Being the right person requires Bible doctrine in the soul
producing virtue. Virtue is necessary for successful and good sex. Sex
operates on virtue.
14. Going to someone else for solutions to your problems is nothing
more than borrowing their solutions. Borrowed solutions are temporary at
best. And since they are based on another person's viewpoint rather than
your own viewpoint, they are detrimental and often very destructive.
15. Problems of marriage must be solved in the privacy of your own
priesthood. Outside counselling often becomes an intrusion on the privacy
of your marriage. Counselling can only provide temporary solutions at best;
permanent solutions come from doctrine resident in your own soul.
Counsellor dependence must never replace doctrinal dependence and grace
orientation inside your own soul.

G. Summary of General Principles of Sex.
1. From the standpoint of time in marriage, sex is probably less than
one percent. But from the standpoint of quality, motivation, satisfaction,
virtue, honor, integrity, its significance encompasses the entire marital
relationship.
2. Sex is the boundary for marriage, the invisible walls of the
castle, the line of demarcation which separates a husband and wife from the
rest of the world.
3. This does not imply that marriage is asocial or antisocial, but
emphasizes the importance of marriage as the basic unit on which society,
culture and nationalism depends.
4. God designed sex for marriage only.
5. Sex was designed for husband and wife to complete each other under
the principle of interdependence, and establish those invisible castle walls
around that relationship.
6. Sex is a private matter between a husband and a wife. Do not run
around and tell your sex problems to everyone who will listen. It only
creates gossip.
7. In marriage, young adults make a permanent change of station from
family unity to marital unity, from family privacy and intimacy to marital
privacy and intimacy.
8. This new unity is formed by leaving father and mother and having
sex in marriage. God invented sex as a line of demarcation.

H. The Problem And Danger of Premarital Sex.
1. Premarital sex destroys the virtue and values on which
compatibility and rapport in marriage are founded. Generally, both men and
women enter into premarital sex to satisfy their libido. Hence, the
involvement of the third arrogance skill, which is self-absorption.
2. Premarital sex generally occurs in the attraction stage of romance.
Premarital sex in the attraction stage of romance blocks off and closes the
door for entering compatibility and rapport. Therefore, it makes a direct
attack on two postulates in marriage.
a. The first postulate--marriage is more than finding the right
person; marriage is being the right person. Premarital sex eliminates being
the right person, so that the finding of the right person is frustrated with
hang-ups and regrets.
b. A happy marriage is like a long conversation that always seems
too short. This describes both compatibility and rapport in marriage.
3. Premarital sex often creates a liability to the principle that a
person is no better in marriage than they are as a person, and therefore,
the possibility and probability of not attaining compatibility and soul
rapport in marriage.
4. Premarital sex becomes the enemy of marriage, and can destroy a
marriage long before the marriage occurs. Marriages are often destroyed by
the pattern of sexuality in adolescence and young adulthood. Premarital
sexual experience has an adverse effect on postmarital sex. Periods of
unrestrained licentiousness are often followed by periods of unrestrained
guilt and depression. Promiscuity before marriage creates handicaps for
marriage. The couple involved in fornication are in the process of
destroying the very Biblical standards of virtue required for a successful
marriage.
5. One of the dangers of premarital sex is the development of an
arrogant problem of self-gratification, in which a single person desires
sexual sensation rather than a sex partner in marriage. Your values are
sensations that are desireable. Therefore, instead of an integrity envelope
there are serious unresolved problems of wide emotional swings and problem
manufacturing devices--the function of the arrogance skills.
6. Premarital sex in adolescence is also generally not satisfying, not
up to expectations, not fulfilling. Therefore, frustration sets in the
relationship.
7. Principles of Application.
a. Application without truth is false.
b. Application without fact is fiction.
c. Application from emotion is irrationality.
d. Application without principle is life without direction.
e. Application without doctrine is distorted learning.
f. Application without virtue is distorted living.
8. Premarital sex not only abandons the virtue necessary for
compatibility and rapport, but causes the fornicators to encapsulate their
romance or lust in deceit. Hence, the basis for their romantic love or the
fulfillment of their lust becomes the sins of arrogance and the sins of
emotion.
9. The strength of romantic love is virtue. For the unbeliever this
virtue is attained through the observance of the laws of divine
establishment, Eccl 9:9. This virtue is attained in two ways by the
believer.
a. Doctrinal conceptualism or consistent postsalvation
epistemological rehabilitation, which means perception, metabolization and
application of Bible doctrine to your own experience.
b. Understanding and using the problem solving devices of the
protocol plan of God.
10. Loss of standards through premarital sex creates two categories of
problems which destroy romance and marriage.
a. The problems of the arrogance complex. This is tantamount to
self-fragmentation, the first stage of Christian degeneracy.
b. The problems of emotional control of love or romance. This is
tantamount to irrationality in the relationship, because there is no
doctrinal content, no problem solving devices, no common sense, and no
discernment.
11. Reaction from failure in romance due to premarital sex results in
many other problems.
a. Entering a life of promiscuity with many sex partners results
in Christian immoral degeneracy.
b. The reaction of seeking comparable stimulation in chemical
dependence when your sex is cut off.
c. The reaction of depression, self-pity, and suicide.
d. The reaction of revenge through the function of polarized
legalism and resultant Christian moral degeneracy.
12. Biblical warning against premarital sex. 1 Cor 6:18; 1 Thes 4:3-4;
Heb 13:4.
13. There are several handicaps that occur from premarital sex.
a. Self-gratification. Both men and women enter into premarital
sex to satisfy their own libido. There is no genuine love or sense of
responsibility for their sex partner, especially with the men. When a man
seduces a woman for his self-gratification, the woman is left frustrated.
The man who does this prior to marriage does not change after marriage.
Therefore, the wife enters into sexual frustration.
b. The handicap to achieving premarital rapport.
(1) Premarital sex handicaps you from being the right
person. Premarital sex eliminates being the right person, so that finding
the right person is frustrated with regrets.
(2) Premarital sex generally eliminates the possibility of
ever attaining compatibility or rapport in marriage.
14. Conclusion.
a. Premarital sexual experience has an adverse effect on post-
marital sex.
b. Premarital sexual experience often hinders any chance of a
successful marriage, because it eliminates both compatibility and the
rapport stages of marriage.
c. Premarital sexual experience often results in Christian
immoral degeneracy which eliminates the virtue prerequisite for a successful
marriage. The most important thing about sex is virtue.
d. Promiscuity destroys discernment. The attraction stage of
romance is the most vulnerable to premarital sex. In the attraction stage
of romance, premarital sex destroys the spiritual life, eliminates the
understanding and use of the problem solving devices of the protocol plan of
God, and keeps a lot of believers from ever executing the protocol plan.
(1) Promiscuity leads to emotional revolt of the soul, which
converts a genuine personal love into pseudo love. Emotional revolt of the
soul does not have capacity for true love. It removes personal love from
the integrity envelope of impersonal love.
(2) Premarital sexual experience destroys marriage long
before it occurs. The irrationality of emotional revolt of the soul takes
over the life and erodes the virtue standards on which true love is based.
(3) Recovery not only includes rebound, but demands
inculcation of doctrine, the function of the problem solving devices after
you have learned how they work.
e. For the believer, premarital sex substitutes the emotional
complex of sins: guilt, fear, worry, hatred, anger, anxiety, and
occasionally murder.
15. Why God forbids premarital sex.
a. Periods of unrestrained licentiousness are always followed by
periods of unrestrained guilt and depression.
b. Licentiousness often results in suicide.
c. You are responsible for your own decisions in life. The woman
uses her own free will to respond to the man's sexual advances.
d. The road to disaster is always paved with sex, drugs, and
excessive alcohol.
e. No one is ever the same after salvation through faith in
Christ. Some believers become winners and some become losers and are far
worse than they were as unbelievers.
f. A male with virtue will never take a female past her own
volition in the sphere of intimacy.
g. The man who does not respect your volition, ladies, is the
wrong man for you.
16. The increase of Christian degeneracy means the decrease of both
spirituality and the use of the problem solving devices in romance and
marriage. Premarital sex destroys the possibility of sexual compatibility
and rapport in marriage.
17. Premarital sex destroys arousal patterns and mutually satisfactory
fulfillment. There is a physiological factor in sexual arousal, as noted in
the phrase "one flesh" in Gen 2:24 and Eph 5:31.
a. Fornication destroys the rhythm and the pattern.
b. Libido is the function of biological sex, but maximum
effectiveness of sex in marriage depends on other factors, such as: status
quo of the soul, function of the spiritual life, and attainment of
contentment and spiritual growth.
c. Major handicaps occur through premarital sexual activity which
numb normal sexual responses and normal sexual rhythms.
d. 1 Cor 6:18 implies that violation of premarital chastity
decreases the source of sexual energy in marriage. This is why sex becomes
dull for married people.
18. Generally, premarital sexual experience solidifies the mind-set a
person will have toward sex for the rest of his life. Apart from the
overruling grace of God, the effects of premarital sexual experience on the
husband and wife are detrimental, and often disastrous.
19. Chronic participation in premarital sexual activity does effect
marital adjustment.
20. The more premarital sex partners one has, the more difficult it is
to adjust to one partner in marriage.
a. Each premarital sexual relationship tends to be conditioned to
the response pattern of the other person involved. Many premarital sexual
encounters produces a variety of responses and rhythms.
b. Hence, the sexual acts result in a specific response pattern
for each person. A new premarital sex encounter does not extinguish the
previous pattern of the previous sexual relationship.
c. Therefore, promiscuity eventuates in sexual conditioning to a
composite of one's sexual affairs. Unrestrained sexual activity does not
lead to freedom, but to bondage.
d. Premarital control of sexuality is liberation; for it results
in elimination of the handicaps of fornication. Undisciplined, uncontrolled
premarital sexuality hinders effective sexual relationship in marriage.
Premarital chastity produces self-control, which makes a husband an
effective lover of his wife.

I. Marriage is the status of maximum sexual satisfaction.
1. God invented sex for marriage only, which makes marriage a unique
institution in the human race. God invented marriage for one man and one
woman, which means that homosexual or lesbian "marriages" are not legitimate
in the eyes of God.
2. God provided sex as the ultimate expression of marriage and virtue.
Sexual relationship can be an expression of love, but this is rarely the
case in marriage, because there is so little virtue in marriage on the part
of the husband.
3. The classroom for learning sex is marriage.
4. Just as the believer must learn Bible doctrine to advance in the
protocol plan, so good sexual response in marriage is a continual learning
process. Good sexual response in marriage includes the following sexual
response cycle.
a. There is volition, which includes everything from fantasy
about sexual activity and the desire that accompanies volition.
b. There is excitement, which is the subjective sense of sexual
pleasure and accompanying physiological change.
c. There is orgasm, which is sexual pleasure which releases the
sexual tension and the rhythmic contraction of muscles and pelvic
reproductive organs in the wife.
d. There is resolution, which is general relaxation, general
well-being, and muscular relaxation.
5. Premarital sex destroys the sexual response cycle. Premarital
sexual activity often hinders interpersonal marital relationship.
6. Sexual compatibility is related to the mutual response of both
husband and wife in the fulfillment of these four categories of the sexual
cycle. This results in mutual pleasure derived from the husband's virtue
love, spiritual self-esteem, and thoughtfulness in satisfying his wife
first.
7. Mutual orgastic experience is often a matter of the husband's
ability to learn, to understand, to be totally cognizant of his wife's
response system, and to control his own responses to correspond to her's.
It is impossible for an alcoholic husband or wife to find mutual
satisfaction in sex.
8. Optimum sexual satisfaction in marriage is related to virtue. And
the husband leads the way with spiritual self-esteem and virtue love.
Premarital virtue and chastity is the status most favorable for success in
the marital relationship.
9. The woman develops true love for her husband by satisfaction in the
sexual relationship of marriage. Virtue in sex brings out everything that
makes the husband great - his thoughtfulness, tenderness, and control.
Under those conditions, sex can only be greater and greater as the marriage
progresses.
10. There is a correlation between premarital virginity and post-
marital happiness.
11. Sexual responsiveness is related to the quality of the marriage.
The quality of the marriage is based on the following principles.
a. Understanding and using the problem solving devices.
b. Perception, metabolization, application of doctrine;
therefore, the development of doctrinal conceptualism.
c. Entrance into marriage in status quo of premarital chastity.
d. Recovery from premarital sexual activity and loss of rhythms
through the attainment of spiritual adulthood.
12. Sexual responsiveness in marriage increases or decreases as the
quality of the marriage increases or decreases. Marriage quality and
responsiveness influence each other. Therefore, they are mutually
interdependent.
13. What is brought into the marriage by each partner determines the
mental, emotional, physical, and spiritual quality of the marriage.
Anything that happens before salvation is blotted out by salvation.
14. A husband and wife who reach marriage in virginity and virtue
create a more enduring happiness through their understanding and utilization
of the problem solving devices of the protocol plan of God. This overflows
into their sex life, and they have great satisfaction in learning to respond
fully and completely to each other.

J. The Source, Solution, and Punishment of Sexual Sins.
1. If you are ever involved in any kind of sexual sin, do not tell
anyone else about it. Do not go to other people for advice, when you commit
a sin. You will get wrong answers from others. You have the privacy of
your priesthood even when you fail.
2. Sexual sins are a part of the degeneracy of a nation, Rom 1:24-27.
3. The desire for sex is genetic, but the function of sexual sins is
volitional. You may be tempted, but you do not have to succumb to that
temptation.
a. Sexual preference is a matter of self-determination rather
than genetic origin.
b. Libido is a matter of sexual desire or lust, which combines
three general principles.
(1) Normal sexual desire, which is not sin (that is, sex in
marriage).
(2) Sexual lust as a temptation from the sin nature, but not
sin until the sin nature takes it over.
(3) Sexual preference, which is a matter of volition related
to circumstances, ignorance, or cognition of Bible doctrine.
4. Don't blame your sin on other people, alcohol, drugs or anything
else. Take the responsibility for the sin and rebound immediately. You do
not have to do it just because you lust for it. Each person involved must
take the responsibility for their own failure.
5. All punishment from God for sexual sins comes from His integrity
and a love that does not diminish.
6. The solution after rebound is to keep moving so you can handle the
punishment.
7. The body is not for fornication, but for the Lord, and the Lord is
for the body.
8. Emotion plus lust is not true love. True love must have integrity.
9. Eph 5:22-25, 33. Eph 4:31 lists the things that destroy sex in
marriage: bitterness, anger, wrath, quarreling, slander, and malice.