You can take or leave my advice as you choose, but I think you are perhaps trying too hard. Occasionally doing something a bit different is good, and it helps to keep love-making exciting, but trying to always do different things gets quite tedious in itself. If your partner doesn't know what to expect from any session then they will start to turn off. I speak from experience of several relationships where either myself or my partner have just gone too far. I find that having your "comfortable" sexual pleasures, that can be easily interchanged, allows you to experiment at a time when you both feel ready for something new. If it's a big hit then you can incorporate it, if it's OK then it gets sidelined for another time, and if it doesn't work for you then you laugh and move on. For me, as I get older, I find that foreplay gives so much more pleasure than actual intercourse, and often leaves my wife and/or me with feelings stronger than orgasm. Washing each other, drying each other, then a sensual massage (full body) with a little toe-sucking, finger sucking, and definitely a piece of the hairy pie (she tastes so good), with plenty of kissing and stroking added in relaxes her immensely. Sometimes she wants me to eat her to orgasm, and I'm only too happy to oblige - I know I'll get the compliment returned. I'm not going to go into our intercourse techniques, but will say that occasionally a good hard f*ck is needed while at other times a languid coupling lasting hours instead of minutes is what we need. Listen to your body, and don't be afraid to experiment, but keep a core of what you and your partner like, and you shouldn't need to find new techniques - just perfect the ones you use now and dabble a bit in the pool of smut that's out there.

What works for the man, myust also work just as well for the lady. You never make love TO that person. You make love WITH that person. For the sake of the younger folks who read these answers, I won't get very graphic. I'm sure you can use your imagination. I AM A VERY fortunate man. I had the wonderful experience of seeing my parents, both sets of grandparents and all my aunts and uncles behave as though they were constantly on their honeymoons with their spouses. They would hold hands, cuddle, hug, kiss, whisper things to each other, say, "I love you, _____!" and carry-on like many young people, who are in love, do in public. They would smile at each other and tell each other how beautiful, wonderful and thoughtful she was and how thoughtful, wonderful and handsome he was! WOW! What a great set of romance role models! No, I never watched as they were making love in the most intimate way, but I DID see and learn from their examples and inter-actions with their spouses! As far as I know, no one ever cheated on the other. That being said, one day my mother's father got in the car with me. I was driving him to the track. He "LOVED those ponies"! He was well-aware of the relationship I had with the lady I was dating and who would one day be my bride. He said words similar to these: I know your father told you what to do, but did he ever tell you how to do it? I answered, "No". He went on to say, "I'm going to tell you some things I don't think you'll learn from any one else. When you have sex, make love or whatever you want to call it, you don't behave like most other men. Most men are just interested in one thing and one thing only - satisfying their own selfish selves. That's NOT the way to do it. You have to make absolutely certain she is satisfied. No matter how long it takes or what you have to do, you have to do whatever it takes to make sure she does what she likes to do best. You HAVE TO satisfy her first. Your brain is the most important sex organ. Your brain controls what happens downstairs. When you aren't sure about what to do or how to do it, ask her what she wants you to do. She'll tell you or she'll show you. When you're making love, you think of other things - not what's going on at that particular moment with that particular lady. When you think about what you're actually doing, I guarantee you'll never satisfy the lady in your life. He went on to explain about holding hands, hugging, kissing, caressing and taking things one step at a time. He described a lot of things I heard of but wasn't sure about. During that ride, one of the last things he said was: When you are absolutely sure she is satisfied, then you can do what you know is best for you - but not one minute before. That's what I was told. Thank you, Gran'pop. I love you. I miss you! Some afterthoughts: You could also buy a book, on-line, called "Kama Sutra." You could also go on-line and make the investment in some "adult sex toys" to stimulate and arouse. There are LOTS of sites. Thanks for asking your Q! I enjoyed answering it! VTY, Ron Berue Yes, that is my real last name! Sources: My wonderful family! "THE University of Hard Knocks" also known as ("a/k/a") "life's valuable lessons"

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