1st one, too young, both of us...2nd one, drugs and alcohol....3rd one, boredum, we grew apart.

incompatbility and getting to the point when i hated his guts helped lol.

I was married to the USMC first, and she never liked playing second fiddle. I've been divorced for 5 years, and I retire in June from the service. Guess she just couldn't wait. Kickin' herself in the ass now, though.:-)

Thankfully never abuse. The other three played a part in it.

In my case, it was basic incompatibility of lifestyle aspirations. My ex-spouse wants (and has) a nice home in a good neighborhood with fancy furnishings...and is willing to get up and go to a job she absolutely hates to maintain that. I don't see the point of making oneself miserable everyday for the sake of a house. Life is so much bigger than that. Luckily, she had the courage to say "You're miserable with me. Go find your life path". We still like and respect each other and I visit her from time to time (mostly to see our dogs).

Excellent question Haveagreatday. I was thinking of asking something similar but you beat me to it. I am still on my first marriage so thankfully, I can't answer your question.

in my first marriage, immaturity.

Major reasons for my divorce was the mental and physical abusive, then came the fact that the loser never paid for anything,though he spent money like crazy I wound up in debt and he was given a slap on the wrist.

I got divorced because he was a heroin addict.

divorced 2 times . 1st was becuz we were way to young and irresponsable . 2nd was becuz of his cheating, alcoholism , and emotional/mental abuse

Liquor.

My first divorce was incompatibility and later abuse - I got out of the relationship as soon as the abuse started, thank God... My second divorce was incompatibility, immaturity and finally infidelity...

I just heard a radio show on Sirius the other day and it claimed that money was the number one reason for divorce amongst married couples these days. That surprised me I thought infidelity would have been the clincher..

"a lot of little things"??? in all honesty, i really dont know. Maybe she grew up, while i was reverting back into childhood. Maybe she was adding items to her "life's goals" list, while i had already attained all i wanted out of life: a modest little house, a few dogs and cats, and a wonderful and understanding spouse.

First one, we just grew up. The second one he was cold and mean.

My first marriage lasted 26 years. Reasons for divorce were many infedelity on both sides but I think that when you stop communicating with each other that is when you get problems. Married again, no infedelity and plenty of communication.

With mine, it basically boiled down to a number of things: 1. We did not live together prior to our wedding, so we were very unaware of certain habits that one or the other could not tolerate. 2. After the wedding, my ex started acting like I was property (a pet actually), and stopped trying to love me. The ring was on, the game was won, and he was done playing it. 3. Little to non-existent sex. 20 minutes to get it up, 20 min to get him to finish, inability to put my hips back into place from laying in the same position the entire time while he said nothing=priceless. 4.He forged my signiture on a 5,000 bank note, and I had to find out when our mortgage officer pulled my credit report. He lied about it, and only admitted the truth when I was able to get a copy of the document with a signature that in no way looked like mine. I figured if he would lie about that to my face, what else had he been lying about the 7 years we were together. When all was said and done, I left him and fell in love with the most wonderful man ever born, while he married the first girl he dated after our separation, knocked her up, and now has a house in forclosure due to his inability to balance a checkbook.

NO love!! abuse etc.. we grew up!

mother in law- my ex husband is a wonderful man, no complaints about him, but his mama.....oh lord!!!!

i will never love a woman again as much as i did my second wife.never could make her beleive how much i cared and loved her. the harder i tried the less it seemed she cared. the first time she left me for another man i took her back and tried even harder.then she did it again and i finally gave up but im the bad guy!i will always love and care about her but i honestly beleive i will never be able to love again.

#1 1974-1980 Married too young, two children, and she loved to spend money, including her employers. #2 1983-1996 No children. I was putting in a lot of hours in a rapidly growing fathers rights group, 250% growth a year. Had she waited 8 months it would have changed as a bunch of attorneys pulled a hostile takeover, than trashed the group. #3 2001-2004 She was nuts. Bipolar, not willing to take meds, and her aim was getting better when throwing a glass pot of hot coffee at my head. Regardless of reasons given, 85% of all divorces involve couples who cohabited or were married, prior to age 24. Cohabiting couples breakup three times more than married couples. Cohabiting couples that later marry have a 46% higher rate of divorce than those who did not cohabit prior to marriage. http://marriage.rutgers.edu/Publications/SWLT2%20TEXT.htm

The marriage would be the only reason

Found somebody I liked better.

Lack of proper and decent communication, because all the other problems seem to stem from that.

No one major reason. A combination of all of the above plus her mental illness worsened.

Lack of companionship. She travelled a lot for work and we never saw each other. Got old after a lot of years.

My first marriage was immaturity on both sides we were both to young and really didnt know why we got married other than convenience. In my second marriage it was infidelity. Now I am on my third marriage and all is good, this one just feels different than the other 2 did.

All the above... and the girlfriend had money!!

It was Her "Daddy" ... "Daddy says we can .... " "Daddy says that YOU need to ..." "Daddy says that YOU should ..." "Daddy says he wants us to ..." So; I told her to go live with "DADDY" ... and I left .

Infidelity, constant lying about it, (I could have accepted it if she had been upfront and honest about. I am one who doesn't consider fidelity to be the most important thing in a marriage. But outright lying is pretty important and unforgivable.)