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  • It's her house and her wishes should be respected. She seems like a smart lady, I wouldn't allow it either.
  • Whether you agree with her Mom or not, the issue is not really sex before marriage, it is sex between minors. There is a good reason that most states prohibit sex with "children" under 18, and it has to do with very scientific issues of emotional maturity (even though legislators rarely pass these laws for the right reasons). Your body matures faster than the emotional centers in your brain, which significantly raises the chances of your making poor decisions about sex before you're ready for it. Recent studies have reinforced this by showing that the human brain does not develop the ability to appreciate long-term consequences until we are around 25! You don't want to make decisions that could potentially affect the rest of your life while you're still in high school. Not only is there no way you're going to persuade her mum, but there is good reason not to try. No matter what your moral position on this, you should wait until you're 18.
  • You are still children. It is her house. Get over it. Go play some jump rope instead.
  • At fifteen years old I would not even be allowed to have a boy spend the night. Your a lucky guy that her parents are even that cool. And trying to persuade the mom otherwise is only going to raise her suspicions even further. At fifteen and sixteen that in my opinion is not acceptable. I'm not going to encouraging you to have sex with your girlfriend in her parents house, but if you are going to do it use protection.
  • I find it so very sad that so many people on this site spend so much time talking about whether they should or should not have sex, rather than looking at the emotional involvement they have with each other. Sex is just plumbing. Love is about feelings and commitment. Apart from anything else, if you have sex with this lady's daughter she will report you to the police and, depending upon where you live, you'll end up with a criminal conviction for either Statutory Rape or Unlawful Sexual Intercourse. You really shouldn't be pressurising a girl into having sex until you're ready to make love and understand the difference.
  • It's not about your persuasion skills. Go join the debate club or something. There's lots of stuff you two CAN do. If you care for her, aren't you glad she has a caring, loving mum?
  • I lost my virginity at 15 and it was probably one of the worst decisions of my life. I definitely wasn't ready. You should consider waiting and definitely follow her mother's wishes. Plus sex complicates things. Also there are plenty of fun and exciting sexual things to do that don't involve actual sex. ;)
  • Not saying you should or should not have sex, and the whole legal debate is another thing... But, why do you assume you need to sleep in her bed to have sex? There are so many other great places for sex...Outdoors, in Cars, Nightclubs.. ok maybe im getting carried away my point is....if she is really ready she would find a place where you both could..

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