If I was engaged not yet married and he broke off our engagement does the ring need to be returned?
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ANSWERS: 19
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If I understand the rules of etiquette, and the law, the ring was a gift, and is yours to keep. To return it in some dignified, non-vindictive, non-humiliating manner, then, would be a gracious gesture of goodwill which would signal your desire to be friends, not enemies. Assuming that's how you would like this to end up.
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I would say if he broke off the engagement, then it's yours to keep. It's the least he could do to let you keep the gift he gave. Whole different story than if, say, YOU had broke off the engagement. In that case it would be just plain wrong to keep the ring he spent his hard-earned money on when he won't even get the satisfaction of making you his wife. With it being as it is, that ring is yours!
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Keep the ring and tell him you are free to be you!
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All of these answers are wrong. An engagement ring is indeed a gift, but one that is given in contemplation of marriage and therefor must be returned to whomever made the purchase. Think of it this way. If the two of you began getting wedding gifts, but then called it off, wouldn't your friends and relatives expect them back?
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My ex-fiance' told me I could keep it. I am not sure what I'm going to do w/it. I love the style (we picked it out together). It is traditional 3-stone setting. I want to put my son's birthstone on the sides (replace the side diamonds) and keep the center solitare. I am April/diamond birthstone, so it would be kind of a right-hand mother's ring. I'm still not sure though......opinions?
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You should return it because he spent his own money to get this ring.. and if he calls the wedding off the ring should be returned back to him. it's like if one of your friend gave you a gift and you guys suddenly became enemy obviously you don't want to keep it because it brings you back memory... so there's no reason why you keep it...
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yes, after you've stepped on it and put it in a food blender.
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I didn't, but I also really don't have much use of it. I think if it becomes a big deal, you should just part with it, it's not like you can really wear it anyhow. Just have it engraved first, so he can't do anything with it either! ;)
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I wouldn't just give it back, I'd make him eat it!
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Technically it is his since he called it off, but there is no law on it so do what you feel.
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Etiquette says that if he breaks it off... no If you break it off... yes.
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no, he broke it off, he has to deal with the expenses. he should have thought about it before he left you.
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throw it
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Ettiquette states that he should let you keep the ring since he's the one who ended the engagement. It would be the graceful thing to do, though, to give it back. It probably brings some sad memories now and you have no use for it.
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No way! even if he asks for it back. It is rightfully yours, so you have the choice of what you want to do with it. Go and pawn it! lol
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I would give it back to signify that I'm over the person - just like I'm over the relationship. Why hold on to something that no longer exists?
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it would be nice to give back the ring...ethically its the right thing to do.
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no- he gave it to you so it belongs to you. I would sell it!
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Most states consider it a gift, not a contractual downpayment for marriage, so technically it is yours to keep. However, I think the right thing to do is return it.
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