It depends. If your "emotional fulfillment" with your ex includes making out/oral sex/intercourse etc, then yeah I'd say that you're cheating. My question to you is why are you even seeing an ex if you're engaged to someone else? To me that says that there are some serious issues between you and your fianceee that need to be discussed.

(I'm the asker of the original question, and I'm using this space to clarify, since the last answer suggests that I didn't explain myself well) I'm not "seeing" the ex. He is simply a long time friend of over 6 years. We tried dating about two years ago, and it didn't work out. I dont' really see him as a true ex, but my fiance does. We are only friends, hence why I said that I see him for emotional fulfillment - which does not, in any way, translate into anything sexual (that connection really confused me, actually). I just feel horrible, because this guy is my best friend, and I have to sneak around just to hang out with him. I know it is nothing like cheating in the conventional sense... no affairs or anything... I just didn't know if there were people out there that would consider it cheating since I'm keeping it from my fiance. Thanks in advance... sorry for my poorly worded question.

You describe the other guy as "your best friend" and say that you see him for "emotional fulfillment". If you ask me, these sound like things that should describe the person you marry. The fact that you use them to describe the other guy and not your fiance tells me that there may be something missing in this relationship. Maybe you should step back and ask yourself if your fiance is really the person with whom you want to spend the rest of your life. If the answer is yes, then you should stop seeing your "ex" in any situations where this is the least bit of a chance for misunderstandings about what you two are doing. Sneaking around behind you fiance's back is asking for trouble. If and when he finds out what you are doing, it will breed distrust between you. This is the kind of thing that can break up a marriage. Look at it from fiance's perspective. How would you feel if you found out that s/he was sneaking around behind your back to see an old "flame"? Would you not question his/her commitment to you? One of the problems with society today is that people tend to think only about what they want. Marriage is about looking beyond that to what is good for the other. Each must make sacrifices. You want to keep both relationships. In this case that may not be possible.

Emotional feelings and sharing them to support another person other than the one that you Love, I think is deadly wrong. When a person has chose and make committment to one special person in their life, you ought to share all things, if you go to another x lover and support that emotional fulfillment for them, then you must still care for them, if you stand by them to support them take care of the one that is in your life first, and let them know how you feel as far as supporting the x lover, before supporting that x lover. I bet you could not support them as well as you think you can , if you set down and tell the partner you have at the time about it. Could you accept your parntner going to an x lover and supporting their emotional needs, think about that ! If you can, then I say ...go for it.

Yes, it's cheating. Unless, you see your ex-fiance as more of a friend, or even like a parental figure, then that's perfectly okay. Otherwise, you need to be finding emotional fulfillment within your current romantic relationship. After all, a major portion of a romantic relationship amongst other factors, is your level of commitment and emotional attachment to your fiance. It sounds like you're still emotionally-attached to your ex. If I am correct, then you need to seriously re-consider getting married to your present-day fiance. It's not fair to your current fiance nor yourself, if you're still harboring romantic feelings for your ex. Bottom line: Re-evaluate your present relationship and if you firmly believe that you're still emotionally-attached to your ex as it seems, then you have no business getting married. Instead, you need to resolve this romantic feelings for your ex, by moving on with your life and realizing that it didn't work out and for certain reasons. I hope this helps & good luck!

Yes it’s cheating but you are cheating on yourself. Your fiancée knows so you are not cheating on him. He dislikes the guy for a reason so he's not stupid. He knows exactly what's going on. The word engaged means a promise to marry and to love and be with for a lifetime and it sounds like you are not ready for that level of commitment. Instead you are playing with the emotions of two guys and that just might come back to bite you in the butt. Your fiancée is right to dislike the situation and though tolerant of your behaviour for the moment you might lose this guy. Your ex means EX, which is former not present. The sooner you understand the difference between your EX and your present fiancée or present relationship the better off you'll be. To be honest I think you don't know what you want! I do know one thing if I was the fiancée I'd be getting out of your space and fast. I wouldn't waste anymore time on someone who plays games with the emotional well being of others. Definitely I wouldn't want to be married to someone who's a game player so the engagement would end quickly. Sorry, but I tell it like it is.

Yes, this is called an Emotional Affair. You can read more on this here: http://www.relationship-institute.com/freearticles_detail.cfm?article_ID=156