Everyone is different, But thats the beauty of it. No matter what you just have to have the right person see you. I have always believed that you should do what looks approachable to you. Where a smile. Dress appropriately, and have the self confidence to approach a lady as well. A soft nod to the person or something other than a wink to acknowledge her presence is also a good way to get some feed back prior to approaching her. These subtle gestures also makes you more approachable because now she knows that she is not invisible to you. And just a little added bonus if you will, pick out the hottest girl or whatever you may be attracted to, approach her, and have confidence while you speak. If she blows you off, you will learn that rejection is not so bad, and also you will understand the reason that you may not be getting approached either.

How do guys decide to approach a girl? If you don't want to wait, try making a move yourself! Okay, I'm sorry if that sounds mean or unhelpful. Frankly, I'm a girl who always had some idea that the guy was supposed to make the first move. So I spent eight months analyzing my "friend's" every move, trying to decide if he was flirting or not. I was scared to talk in case he didn't have the same feelings for me that I did for him. One night I snapped, informed him that "we need to talk" and asked him what his feelings for me were. Well, he hemmed and hawed about how much he valued our friendship, I started crying, we somehow ended up telling each other that we loved each other, and we've been together and happy for a little over four years. But I still have this irrational idea that something went wrong because I had to make the first move... I guess I'm just old-fashioned. But there actually is a point to this story: I have since compared notes with my female friends. Maybe it's just the crowd I hang out with, but it seems like a girl will do all sorts of things to spend time with and be friends with a guy she likes. But unless the guy makes a move to be "more than friends," the girl will often end up waiting until she's completely fed up with the situation and can't take the uncertainty anymore before she'll lay all her cards on the table. Sorry if that's putting too much of a burden on you guys, but we girls are complicated and irrational creatures! It's easier for us to try to goad you into doing something than to just get up and do it ourselves...

Hmm.. the problem is that most girls (and most guys, I think) are generally unwilling to approach someone they like until they get some form of indication that their efforts are likely to meet with sucess. The level of indication we require varies a lot from girl to girl- some might want pretty near 100% proof, some just need a hint- but no-one likes to take a huge step into the unkown. Your best bet, therefore, is to focus on a specific girl (or even girls) that you like, rather than "girls" as a general abstract concept. Let her know that you might be interested- this doesn't have to be a big thing, making eye contact and smiling at her, or even checking her out in an obvious but not pervy way (give her a look up and down) will do. If she's someone you know, or speak to regularly, you can flirt gently- tell her she looks nice or she has pretty eyes, always be pleased to see her, make an effort with your appearance if you know you'll be seeing her that day, make sure you always make small talk with her- she'll get the picture. And if all else fails, maybe she's shy! Perhaps you need to be the one doing the approaching!

Best answer: If you're waiting for a girl to approach you, then unless you're famous, it's not likely to happen and you WILL BE waiting around forever. Instead, put on a smile, boost your self-esteem by telling yourself everyday that you like yourself and be as positive and upbeat as possible without being goofy. The only way you're going to get a girl to notice you is fi you're positive, upbeat and being yourself. Don't try to be someone else. God made you to be a unique individual, so go out there, be yourself, and ask a girl on a date. If you get rejected, which most guys, although, they won't admit it do, then don't feel bad. Just keep on being yourself and looking for another girl to ask out for a dinner date and a movie. Once you get used to asking girls, then they'll come around and you'll eventually find that special girl. Good luck and keep smiling!

actually it makes the girl feel more special if you go up to her

Life is short...make a move man!

The girl may be shy.. if i had my way my current boyfriend would have neva known i liked him (i cousin Told HIm!) but it all worked out. She may be scared ti approach u r just waiting for the right time or u don't have to wait.. if ya approach her first.. and if u r not willin to wait then u don't really want them in the first place.

I'm a guy who gets approached by women. Although this question should really be answered by women, I'll give you my perspective. 1) She sees that you're approachable, because other women do it. How do you get the ball rolling? You can look their way, make eye contact, smile, then look away. 2) You're involved in a "neutral" activity, like dancing. I dance well and make the women who dance with me have a good time. Other women see that and want to partake in the fun too. I've never rejected a request for a woman to dance with me (unless she was clearly disordered for some reason), no matter her age, skill level, or looks. I know other women are watching me, and upon seeing that I dance with anyone, makes it much easier for them to get the courage to come up and ask. 3) You're seen as the "alpha male" or the "prize" amidst a social gathering of some kind. The prettiest women are actually highly competitive, and it's a tremendous boost to their egos to be taken in by the one guy whom all the other women desire (see Sex and the City, Episode 76 for a good illustration of what I'm talking about). This is probably not much help because it's from a guy's perspective, but it should give you a few clues. Good luck!

you go up to him and say can i suck your dick

yeah! like, we dont want to wait around. But if you dont put your heart at risk, you may never know if he feels the same. I have the same problem, and alot of wimen do. Its so hard to ask out a guy, when you are afraid of rejection. Not just that, but it is WAYY more romantic if the guy does the chasing. But as the world is changing, girls are starting to be the ones asking more and more. Sadly, we dont like in that little village where He is going to ask you to be with him forever then kis syou in the rain! (ee!) instead, if you ever want anything to happen, your gonna have to pull him aside and tell him how you feel. haha..its sad, but true.

I took dancing lessons (alot of them) so I can go into a bar and find a girl teach her a few moves and she will give me her number and ask me out -thats one way.

Haha, the guys I try and approach are usually the cleanest and most harmless looking (I am VERY shy, and it usually takes a lot of premeditation on my part to screw up the courage to talk to a guy in the first place). Therefore I think the guy should do the approaching. Try something innocent, like being her lab partner. Then you'll have an excuse to talk to her, find out her habits, and see if the both of you are even remotely compatible.

99% of girls expect the guy to make the first move, and if he doesnt then she will think you're not into her. just ask her, you have nothing to lose.

let the girl know you like her. like drop hints so she knows ur interested. or if she doesnt make a move, then shes probably not into you. but if you really like her, ask her out. no point of just waiting for something that might not happen. and if you wait too long, another guys gonna come in

Just be yourself. If you don't wait it will happen naturally faster. If you wait, it's like watching eggs to hatch.