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by mom2be on April 11th, 2007

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My husband & I are expecting our first child.I am currently 4 months along & going through the horniest faze I have ever been in my life. I have the sudden need, want & desire to have a threesome with another woman.Should I or just rule it off as fantasy?

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  • by audiogal on April 11th, 2007

    audiogal

    I don't think now is the time to be experimenting sexually, with a baby on the way. You don't want to expose your baby to sexually transmitted diseases. Just try to get kinky with hubby instead!

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  • by Tamilze on April 18th, 2007

    Tamilze

    Though you may want to and I, personally, would love to indulge, I don't think you should. Ya know, in the best interests of the kid and al that. Though you can have sex until the third trimester...no, uh, forget it. Nevermind...

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  • by I love my baby on April 12th, 2007

    I love my baby

    Talking is fine,
    But sexual fantasies are best left at being fantasies.

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  • by boogysplit on June 19th, 2009

    boogysplit

    ok, I dont know how long you have been with your husband, but if you think you can handle the whole trust jelousy thing, then by all means, go for it! But if you think you might regret it, then maybe you should sleep on it....my wife and I have tried this several times involving her girlfriends, and it has never been a big deal to us...but the man must know his place in this situation, and only make a move when asked or told...these should be things you discuss with your husband before hand to make sure you are both on the same page.

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  • by Anonymous on April 18th, 2007

    Anonymous

    Now is NOT the time to experiment. By the end of the pregnancy you're not going to be horny and you might stir up something in your husband, who will be hornier than ever. You would be risking the security of your partnership at a crucial time!

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  • by chivistaaggie on April 12th, 2007

    chivistaaggie

    I think this is one of those things that you should let pass and not go through because once you are that position of see your husband with another woman you may not feel the same about it and you are just going to feel bad and your child is going to be the one who ends up feeling everything that you go through. Later you maybe thinking if your husband is thinking about what happened with that other woman or something else which could endup hurting your marriage.

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  • by HappyJeans on April 11th, 2007

    HappyJeans

    I think you need to talk to your husband about this, i really don't know anything about pregnancy but your first need should be to protect your baby. If however, both you and your husband think it's a good idea, and it won't change your relationship (as being born into a bad relationship is harmful to the baby too) also remember that STI's can be passed on from female to female sex so look up about safe lesbian sex (dental dams etc).

    If it's just a one off thing that you want to get out of your system, and you are sure you can accept everything that goes with it (seeing your husband with another woman) then speak to your husband, however, don't expect everyone to understand you wanting to do this though. At the end of the day, it's up to you and your husband.

    Good luck with the pregnancy x

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  • by kiwisoccer on December 11th, 2008

    kiwisoccer

    As long as your husband is ok with it and you use protection then why not

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  • by Chris E on June 19th, 2009

    Chris E

    I know what you are going through ,and when I was pregnant I couldnt stop fucking and masturbating. I actually wanted to do threesome and even a gangbang but my husband kept me in senses. Had it not been for him I probadly would have.

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  • by Doughnut on December 11th, 2008

    Doughnut

    Do it! Do it before you wont want to do it!

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  • by Nefertiti on December 11th, 2008

    Nefertiti

    Leave it as a fantasy. Don't do it.

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  • by razz4901 on May 20th, 2007

    razz4901

    Wait until you have the baby...threesomes cause problems in relationships...think long and hard before you get into something...

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  • by BadJuice420 on December 11th, 2007

    BadJuice420

    You have to realize that with the pregnancy, you are going through a HUGE hormonal shift, and sometimes (actually often), that causes the woman to become very horny. That is an easy explanation to the horniness. However, the fantasy of you with another woman is another thing entirely. This may be a repressed desire that hasn't come out until you came into the "horniest phase" you've ever been in.

    But should you? Well, STD's asside, this is a question to discuss with your husband. Is he okay with it (most men might be, but you should make sure)? Also, you should consider WHY you might want another woman. Is it a part of your sexuality that you've never given attention to? Because you are pregnant, do you feel unsexy, and therefor want your husband to still have sex with someone you consider sexy perhaps? Perhaps you feel it would make you sexier in comparison?

    If you aren't having a self esteem issue related to your sexiness (which, I assure you, is not that big of an issue if you think it is), and have decided that you want to be with another woman with your husband... I would say go for it... BUT you need to clearly make rules with him (can he penetrate her? is this going to be a one-time deal? who picks which woman, what are the requirements? can he have sex with her without you? can you have sex with her without him? etc etc). Also, you need to realize that threesomes have a way of fucking relationships up, and you BOTH need to feel safe with each other, because when you are pregnant, it is NOT the time to break up with your husband. You need to give your child a good life, so be safe. If you decide to do this and continue this sort of thing, you need to realize it will be 10 times harder after kiddo arrives, due to time and energy required, and may not be able to continue.

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  • by mistress_n on May 21st, 2007

    mistress_n

    That's up to you, your husband, and if you can find another woman. Remember that your hormones are raging at the moment, so later on you could possibly regret this decision if it never piqued your interest before. If this something that interested you before, and your husband is up for it then you have to just ask yourself if your willing to deal with the aftermath.

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  • by pitbullfanatic5289 on May 20th, 2007

    pitbullfanatic5289

    LOOK UP SOME PORN AND YOU AND YOUR HUBBY GET FREAKY

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  • by Anonymous on May 20th, 2007

    Anonymous

    What happened to the urge for sour pickles?

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  • by AnnaMichelle on May 20th, 2007

    AnnaMichelle

    Wait a little bit, until after you have your baby. If you still want to after that, hey, have a 4some but 3 girls one guy. That equals great.

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  • by fluffylucy on July 8th, 2011

    fluffylucy

    while introducing an extra person into a relationship could conceivably complicate what is already an emotionally intense time it can also help[ to release tension and put things into perspective, especially if you are good humoured about it. Any pleasant experiences you have will hardly do the baby any harm and will certainly be better than a feeling of frustration. if you feel that you are both ready for it, enjoy it for all it's worth. soon you will both have other things on your mind:)

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  • by Chris E on June 19th, 2009

    Chris E

    I just wanted to let you know the comments above were not mines others were accessing this site and it apparently it kept melog on when it should have log me off. I have updated profile to who I am really . I am sorry for any confusion
    For the record whoever this person left some good comments and answers.

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  • by Speed1962 on July 23rd, 2010

    Speed1962

    I say go for it!

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