My friend just was just asked to go to a party with a really popular guy where she knows there's going to be drugs. She isn't that popular but really likes the guy. She asked me if I thought it was a good idea for her to go, what should I say?
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It appears that she is uneasy about going since she asked for your opinion. You owe it to her as her friend to give her your honest opinion. From what you've said you're worried that she's putting herself in a position that will lead to trouble. Help her.
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the important matter in this situation is "if she trust the guy" if she is comfortable and trust the guy then go but if not then drop the invititation.. in any place you are its still you who should control yourself and not others :) if she comes and everything seems goin wrong then leave at once or maybe you should come with her. or better just leave it if your friend really cant trust the person.. "looks can kill"
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Hell NO! Tell her to get as far away from this guy as she can and to never talk to him again. I have a good idea of what he's up too. And it ain't pretty. He's setting her up to be the night's entertainment. For him and all of his friends. First they'll get her high or drunk and then you know what's next. And I think she knows it too. Do what ever you can to talk her out of it. Being popular is not this important. It's not even close to being worth what it's going to cost her if she goes. And if she won't listen clue in an adult like your mom. Or better yet her's. This boy has got to be stopped. Now.
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Just explain that drugs might be at that party, and NOT TO USE THEM no matter what anyone says. That is about the best you can do, and tell her to be careful, very careful, and also tell her NEVER to leave her soda glass unattended, take it with her wherever she goes. Better safe than sorry
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consider this: he may be a nice guy who just wants to go to a party, or he may be a nice guy who just wants to take a girl that "isnt that popular" to a party where he may influence her to get high or worse, slip her a mickey to take advantage of her...these things dont just happen inside that tv sreen or on shows called 20/20, the situation you described sounds like a prelude to things like this if she's uncomfortable now (not even at the party yet) it will get worse...we should always follow our gut instinct...would this guy that she likes make a sacrifice for HER?? the answer is usually no at this or ANY party, watch your drink and be aware that drugs change people, they turn violent, stupid, etc be careful
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Ok, let's put this into perspective. Popular guy - unpopular girl - add party and drugs and booze - gives you........a girl raped (by many guys)! Yes, that is the answer.
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Drugs,booz,sex and party. I think she should loosen up and go wild. everybody needs to have some fun every once and awhile
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if its ganna put herin an uncomfertable situation then say no if she isnt one to like drugs and stuff tell her to ask they guy if maybe they wanna go do something with just them 2 or something so she isnt pressure dint o anything she doesnt agree with or anything. make sense?
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I would tell her not go. But if she stays away from the drugs and hopefully the guy isn't a druggie, then she should go.
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well she could go and not take the drugs ! you could tell her that your not tha t comfortable with her going but sometimes people have to make there own desisions to learn by them!!and if she desides not to go well tell her she should ask the guy out to lunch or somthing some other time ! if he says no well.......theres hr answer!
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It's not a good idea to go. If the guy is a winner, he'll be able to figure out a date that SHE will enjoy too. One should never do something that makes them uncomfortable when it comes to the opposite sex.
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