Ask a Question
or
Create a Poll
  1. Home /
  2. Questions /
  3. Relationship Advice
  4. / Teenagers

by mrsbuz1 on April 5th, 2007

mrsbuz1

Question

Help answer this question below.

I'm a single mother of three (father deceased) and my youngest son has ADHD and has great difficulty in making friends. What SAFE websites can a teen guy go to get advice for making friends, meeting girls and relationships?

  • Like
  • Report
Share:
Other

Answers. 9 helpful answers below.

  • by Jaclyn on April 17th, 2007

    Jaclyn

    I am 15 and i have had a myspace for over 2 years now. it is NOT THAT BAD. i probably sound like just another teenager, but trust me my parents are PROTECTIVE. my dad has gona on to every website there is about myspace and the psycho people that are on it. but they still continue to let me have it. just make sure his is PRIVATE (it doesnt show his profile to people who arent his "friends"). considering he is a boy it wouldnt be as big of a deal anyways.

    • Like
    • Report

    No comments. Post one | Permalink

  • by sleidman on April 5th, 2007

    sleidman

    I would say a website but try to get him to be more involved with his community. Take up a sport, join a club, do volunteer work, you'll find it will come natural.

    • Like
    • Report

    No comments. Post one | Permalink

  • by bem0514 on April 5th, 2007

    bem0514

    I don't think that ADHD has anything to do with your son's ability to make friends. He would more likely to make friends with it than without it. Are you doping him with concerta or similar type drugs? They severely hamper his natural disposition. I am too old to have been diagnosed with ADHD and don't believe in it personally. However, I am an extrovert so I love to be around people and not afraid to talk. There are many people like me. Your son may be an introvert so he does not like to be around people. he likes to be with just one person and is very comfortable being by himself. As for his dating, that will come more naturally as he gets older. I don't know how old he is now, but it will come. As a parent you play an important role in getting him out of his shell. He may need your help to get involved in sports or similar group activities that can open doors to making friends. I do not agree with chatting on line to make friends as there are too many sharks in the waters. Your perception of his level of friends may be different than his. That should be OK. I would recommend that you talk to him frequently just to chat about things and try to get him out of the house. Help him find what he is interested in and make efforts to allow him to pursue them. As a woman, it is very hard to relate to the things a young man will go through. You may want to consider a male mentor for him as it will make the transition easier. I don't know what his older siblings are (male or female) but try not to encourage them to take him under their wing and do your parenting. If they have similar interest, allow it to go forward but don't force him on them. In the end, always try to be positive as he will have low points and experience some level of failure. True friends are hard to come by and he will need to be patient to find them. Remember, at the younger ages, peers are very mean and the company he keeps may be strangling his desire to branch out. Talk to him about the idea of moving, if he shows a great interest in setting up somewhere away from where you are now, that can point to the peer problems that I have discussed. On the ADHD subject, I know that it is something to overcome without drugs. It does take a bit more parenting but I am blessed that my parents invested it in me. I needed a lot of coaching when I was a young boy just to remain focused. I would recommend that you try not to make that an issue for him as he will also feel like the odd ball.

    • Like
    • Report

    No comments. Post one | Permalink

  • by stoneddora on November 5th, 2008

    stoneddora

    have him go onto this site have him ask questions let him talk to people who are experienced and could give him great advice,like me, my name sounds bad i know it is a nick name that has a long story behind it but i am 16 and i know about how it is hard to make friends and all of that stuff maybe i could help ur son become more confident. how old is he??

    No comments. Post one | Permalink

  • by alcbecauseIsaidso on April 17th, 2007

    alcbecauseIsaidso

    I don't know because now a days the most "safest" sites, can be the most dangerous...

    No comments. Post one | Permalink

  • by bem0514 on April 5th, 2007

    bem0514

    I don't think that ADHD has anything to do with your son's ability to make friends. He would more likely to make friends with it than without it. Are you doping him with concerta or similar type drugs? They severely hamper his natural disposition. I am too old to have been diagnosed with ADHD and don't believe in it personally. However, I am an extrovert so I love to be around people and not afraid to talk. There are many people like me. Your son may be an introvert so he does not like to be around people. he likes to be with just one person and is very comfortable being by himself. As for his dating, that will come more naturally as he gets older. I don't know how old he is now, but it will come. As a parent you play an important role in getting him out of his shell. He may need your help to get involved in sports or similar group activities that can open doors to making friends. I do not agree with chatting on line to make friends as there are too many sharks in the waters. Your perception of his level of friends may be different than his. That should be OK. I would recommend that you talk to him frequently just to chat about things and try to get him out of the house. Help him find what he is interested in and make efforts to allow him to pursue them. As a woman, it is very hard to relate to the things a young man will go through. You may want to consider a male mentor for him as it will make the transition easier. I don't know what his older siblings are (male or female) but try not to encourage them to take him under their wing and do your parenting. If they have similar interest, allow it to go forward but don't force him on them. In the end, always try to be positive as he will have low points and experience some level of failure. True friends are hard to come by and he will need to be patient to find them. Remember, at the younger ages, peers are very mean and the company he keeps may be strangling his desire to branch out. Talk to him about the idea of moving, if he shows a great interest in setting up somewhere away from where you are now, that can point to the peer problems that I have discussed. On the ADHD subject, I know that it is something to overcome without drugs. It does take a bit more parenting but I am blessed that my parents invested it in me. I needed a lot of coaching when I was a young boy just to remain focused. I would recommend that you try not to make that an issue for him as he will also feel like the odd ball.

    No comments. Post one | Permalink

  • by ashley on April 10th, 2007

    ashley

    i would not perfer myspace or any internet source. try taking him to place in your town like a sk8 place,art classes, anything really

    No comments. Post one | Permalink

  • by migarce on April 10th, 2007

    migarce

    There are many options. Plaese visit http://www.kidgrid.com/
    to ascertain the best alternatives for your kid.

    No comments. Post one | Permalink

  • by JUSTNORMAL on April 5th, 2007

    JUSTNORMAL

    Seeming as though he is a boy, I would say he could try MySpace, there are thousands of kids in there. Just monitor him very closely, NO picture, NO name or address etc. He might enjoy that, and he can also find friends in your area to chat with.

    No comments. Post one | Permalink

Want to attach an image to your answer? Click here.

Did this answer your question? If not, then ask a new question or create a poll.

More Questions. Additional questions in this category.

You're reading I'm a single mother of three (father deceased) and my youngest son has ADHD and has great difficulty in making friends. What SAFE websites can a teen guy go to get advice for making friends, meeting girls and relationships?

Follow us on Facebook!

Related Ads

Related Questions

Professionally Researched

ANSWERBAG BUZZ

Bak surname
Are you most likely to confident in a parent ma sibling or a friend
My male friend and i making love with his mother
Youngest son making love
I am a single mother with no friends

Answerbag

a Demand Media company