A couple of years ago my husband had more of a sex drive than me and now the roles are reversed. I feel like he doesn't desire me anymore or like I'm doing something wrong. Is this situation normal?
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Men hit their sexual peak at 18, while we women hit ours at about 35. So yes, it's perfectly natural for your sex drive to be increasing while his is diminishing. In another ten years, you'll probably be back in balance as you approach menopause. Also bear in mind, that as men get older, they need more physical stimulation to become aroused. He may assume that because Mr Happy doesn't jump to attention on its own, that he's 'not in the mood'. Try working some direct physical contact with his erogenous zones into your routine, and see if he responds. Men have had to deal their whole adult lives with embarassing incidents where they became aroused without trying.....so it sometimes doesn't occur to them, that they may actually NEED a little foreplay as they get older. Unless he's avoiding sex and intimacy all together, it has nothing to do with your relationship or desirability. If he's completely avoiding sex, he may have had his first scare - a temporary potency issue. Men are VERY attached to their Mini-Me, and freak when things go wrong.
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You did not mention either of your ages. time plays havoc with some men. its true, that as men age. he may have some functional problems with jimmy and the twins. this is normal. medications play havoc also with both partners and sex. your are not alone. communication with your partner is imperative.. tell what you feel or don't feel and exactly what the problem is. a persons health will have an effect on performance.
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It's normal! People change their minds like their socks. Share your feelings with your husband. Tell him how it makes you feel and explain to him why it makes you feel that way. Another alternative is to seek marital therapy. Marriage counseling can help because a counseling psychologist can give you the tools that you need to help improve and repair your marriage. Good luck & I hope this helps!
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Find ways to meet each others needs. You can have sex without intercourse. I am sure he want's to make you happy. Just buy some toys and ask him to help you get off, he won't feel inadequate.
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I think it is normal, unfortunately. I am going through the same thing now. My husband rarely wants anything to do with me and when he does, he's not good like he used to be, so it's kind of like 'what's the point?' It really hurts my feelings.
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Yes, it's normal. There's quite a bit you can do to improve the situation though. But it will take some work on your part. Just as most younger men have to work harder in the sexual game, so do older women. So start getting creative, setting the mood, find a scent he likes, seduce him! And develop a reasonably thick skin, just as younger men don't get positive responses all the time, nor will you.
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it´s just turn to seduce him when you want it. It´s nature´s way to let you understand both sides of a medalion
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this is more common than most will admit.
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Depending on your ages....we all have our sexual peaks at different ages.....women's time is when they are around 16....men....well...they always want it. If they are on meds for stuff like High blood-pressure...that might affect their desire to have sex...because they have difficulty getting an erection...funny....my 31 yr old daughter and I were discussing this last nite while shopping......
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It might be normal. As the age goes up it can only spice up by love and personal attraction etc. It should grow with age.
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