If you allowed your S/O one affair a year, would it cut down on excessive cheating, and make him/her more selective about who it is with?
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Gossamer
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I wouldn't allow him an affair. Why would anyone in their right mind do that?
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that is a bloody brilliant question though!! I think most couples would say NOT A CHANCE... But i also think a huge number of couples would actually take that idea on.. It would probably bring a rise to cheating though as unschelduled visits to the "one-timer" would probably increase
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LMAO !! Hey, be careful ... thinking like that could get you in the running for a high government office !!! :) +5
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If you have a >significant_other< there should be no need to be with other people. This is the saddest question I've heard all day, it's like why are we not dealing with the issue "WTF are you not satisfied with me", versus "Hey I know you cheat, its okay and I'll allow it once a year." If this ever happened, I'd dump their fail self and get someone who values me.
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I don't like to be controlled. I am going to have affairs, be with other women, or not. As I please. It has nothing to do with my love for my GF or wife. We are still individuals and no other person should "allow" or "not allow" any part of my behavior. - and, just so you understand that I am not a hypocrite: I give everyone in my life the same freedom.
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That's a concept. I doubt it. It would only allow them to feel less guilty.
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I don't really think I'd have much respect for my boyfriend if he suggested such a thing.
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Doubtful.. once you become comfortable with breaking that kind of trust, it's likely to happen more often.
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No, that's no solution. You shouldn't compromise your dignity. Don't bargain with fidelity.
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Nah, I don't thing that would make a difference or help the relationship at all. Not with my ex husband or my current one. My husband has actually given me the freedom to do what I want with whomever I want. I don't think that has effected my behavior when dealing with others. It gave me a bad impression of my husband due to it tho.
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I applied this question to my husband, and you know, my husband would never take me up on this "offer" he would probally be very hurt by it. If you have to make an "offer" like this to your S/O and he/she takes you up on it, you may not have a S/O, but a SOB.
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The more we have the more we want. If my s/o wanted to cheat, I would not want her. There is much more to a relationship than sex, there needs to be emotional ties and trust.
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That seems like a very bad idea. If he's gonna cheat he's gonna cheat, and if he's caught he's just gonna say, "hey it's my freebie." Or if he does it too much he'll use it to clear himself by using does it matter if it's one or more? If you're gonna take your vows so lightly do they mean anything at all? That it's just a game? Seriously if you are looking to satisfy everyone's sexual appetites, you should probably look into polyamory and stop playing games.
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Gossamer. . . . . . . . .<slapping forehead in DISBELIEF of question>
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not a chance. any cheating is excessive cheating. people who are not capable of monogamy need to be upfront about it before they enter relationships. cheaters cheat, noncheaters do not. it has nothing to do with permission. dispite my wife offering to let me have a mistress, dispite catching her in 2 cyber affairs, I never cheated. I did not even kiss a girl durring the 5 months between her running away with a BF (less than a week after recommitting to our marriage) and when it was finalized.
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How about having an S/O that you trust to not cheat AT ALL? This is the sort of thing you consider before you get married. If you have to consider ALLOWING CHEATING in order to combat cheating then you shouldn't be together. Think about the question you are asking.
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No I don't think it would cut down on the affairs. Should we talk about the disease he/she would be bringing home to share with you as well?
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In order for "cheating" to occur, the person being "cheated upon," has to be totally ignorant of it. I s/he KNOWS about an extramarital liason (and consents to it), then the act of "cheating" cannot happen. +5
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No, affairs are like Peanuts. Once you start you cant stop at just one.
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cheat is cheat,,, there is no allowance in it... either u cheat of no cheat... as there is love, feelings. emotions,,,etc is involve in here... Maybe if cheating happened,, maybe just maybe forgiveness could solve the problem as it could be the other partner was at fault to and contribute somehow to this affair take place...
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