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by Lucy on March 31st, 2007

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My best friend just moved really far away. Now that she's gone our mutual friends keep telling me about terrible things she's said about me or done to me behind my back. We only talk by email or telephone, do I bring this up or just let it go?

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  • by Namaste formerly future_health_educator on March 31st, 2007

    Namaste formerly future_health_educator

    Why are these friends telling you this now? Why didn't they say something when it was happening? What is their motive? Are they jealous? Do they want to cause chaos? It just seems weird to me.

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  • by TravelBug on June 15th, 2008

    TravelBug

    well obviously it bugs you and if its bugs you it will only bug you more so really you need to do something bout it so it doesn't bug you anymoe...

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  • by Anonymous03 on June 15th, 2008

    Anonymous03

    my first thought was... just dont say anything and forget about it.. she's far away from you now and she'll move on with her life as you will too.

    my second though.. with more deliberation.. was that you should get the bottom of this and make inquires as to if it were really true. it'll cause a lot of drama though.. idk if you really want that. just ask yourself if she's been a good friend and has ever let you down? if not... don't waste with the drama.

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  • by That one lady on June 15th, 2008

    That one lady

    I wouldn't say anything at all.
    People talk. There is no point in fighting about any of this stuff.

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  • by MotherGoose on April 6th, 2007

    MotherGoose

    I would not tell your friend. I'd bet $100 she'd just deny saying anything and then you would be in a "they said, she said" situation. If you believe the things you are hearing, just be cautious when you see or visit your friend and remember that she may not be as trustworthy as you would like her to be. I think your friend is very jealous of you and she said things about you out of jealousy. Do you have a better home life? Does making good grades come easily to you? Many things can make someone do spiteful things to someone they love. Bottom line is, do you still want to continue this friendship? If you do, you'll have to forgive her and you'll have to remember she may continue to slander your reputation. Is this friendship worth the past heartache and possible future heartache to come?

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  • by AnnieB on May 31st, 2010

    AnnieB

    How good of a friend is this mutual friend?

    Sounds like there could be some jealousy over the bond you have with your best friend. It's better for you to not believe the negative about your best friend....and believe there are some people who are just flat out trouble makers.

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