Sounds like you need to go to counciling talk to them and maybe they can work you through it

If you know your sexual preference, then I would suggest not fighting it. It'll tear you up. You can't be something you're not, and you can't act like it without feeling fake all the time. If you're going to take the religious route, then I'm sure God isn't going to hate you for being who you are. Praying to change your sexuality is like praying to change your race. I just don't believe it's going to happen, no matter how much you might want it to. I'm just going to suggest you embrace everything about yourself. People have to be who they are. That's the only thing that'll make them feel alright.

First of all, why do you want to become straight? And you said you weren't born like this, so do you have any idea what brought these feelings up?

Sorry dude, but I don't think that anything can change ur sexual prefference, are you gay or just bi? May be you're just experiencing, how old r u? But i wouldn't recommend turning to religion, it's just gonna make you feel like less of a person. If you like to hook up with other guys, just go for it, ur not hurting anyone, if your community is giving you crap for being the way you are, then change the people who you surround yourself with. Don't bother yourself too much with it, it's no biggie, just live your life.

I am afraid to break it to you, but you were born gay. You cannot "turn gay". Accepting it is the stage of a road to relative happiness, you will only make yourself miserable, and if you mask it by marrying a straight girl, you will only hurt her in the long run. Seek advice from professionals, you migt want to talk to a counsellor or one of the many helplines that are available. I wish you much luck, and support

I beleive that being Gay or Straight or Bi is how you were born. Therefore it is IMO a sin to try and change that orientation. It is saying *hey God you made a mistake, that needs to be fixed by man*...I know a lot of people twist the bible to make it appear that homosexuality is condemmed in the bible, but I disagree. What is condemmed is sexual promiscuity, rape, sex as part of worship and going against your nature (which if you are homosexual would be trying to be straight). Your sexuality doesn't need fixing...your feelings towards your homosexuality is what needs help and for that I would recommend finding a good counselor who can help you learn to love and accept yourself the way God made you.

Just love yourself and ACCEPT yourself for who you are. Why wouldn't you? You owe it to yourself to be YOUR best friend. Now give yourslef a big hug and a smile..you'll be fine.

I hate to be the voice of reason here but you were born gay, not straight. Have you considered that this is why you have not 'changed back'. You are asking for forgiveness but there is nothing to forgive and never will be. If you so choose, you can spend the rest of your life fighting your natural instincts, praying and hoping - but you will still be gay on the day you die and you were on the day you were born. This does not make you a bad human being you know. It does not define who you are. You are not defective and there is nothing wrong with you. The lastest scientific research suggests that what determines whether we are straight or gay can be likened to the same process that determines whether a person has blue eyes or brown, blond or brunette colouring and nothing more than that. You may wish that you were straight but that would be the same as me wishing I was a tall, leggy blonde with blue eyes. It's not going to happen because you are what you are. Your sexuality is just one of the characteristics that makes you, you. Perhaps you should get in touch with a support group whereever you are, you know like an alcoholic might contact AA. For godsake, talk to someone and I don't mean face to face to start with - call a help line and do it anonymously it will be easier. Do not set yourself unrealistic goals that cannot be achieved, when you fail you will feel worse. Set achievable goals that are small and attainable. Eg, your goal might be: 'In the next 2 weeks I am going to find a support group with a helpline that I can call and I am going to tell somebody how I feel'. This is achievable. You will not be able to resolve this alone - you require the experience and knowledge of those who have expertise in dealing with issues around this subject. You are not the first to feel this way and won't be the last. Be logical, you have tried prayer and it did not work. So try another approach, what have you got to lose? I mean, it's not as if anything could make you feel worse about yourself than you do right now. Talk to somebody. You only have one life, please don't waste it.

The Bible says "I can do all things through Christ which strengtheneth me." (Phillipians 4:13) If you are not saved, confess and repent of your sin, ask Jesus Christ into your heart and life to be your Lord and Personal Saviour, and ask Him to help you not to turn back to that sin. If you are saved but perhaps backslidden, confess your sin and repent of it. Forsake your sin and ask Jesus Christ to help you. Believe in Him and His Word with all your heart. The blood of Jesus is sufficient to cleanse all of your sin. He died for you so that you could live and not be in bondage to sin and its wages; death. He rose from the dead so that He could be your Saviour and so you could have victory of sin, the world, the flesh, and the devil. Just trust Him and seek His guidance. Thank you and God bless you!

[EDIT] This answer was old and the information within it was obsolete and not an accurate representation of where I am now. Therefore I felt compelled to update it. *** I believe that the answers to this question would depend upon your perspective. There are some who say it's all choice. There are some who say there is no choice. I would be of the belief that you do have a choice in the matter, but not that it is all choice. There is a lot of research that tends to indicate both genetic (nature) and environmental (nurture) foundation to homosexuality, as well as many other human traits. Whether or not we're born gay is not something I wish to argue with people. I do not have the experience there to make a credible claim, and anything I did say would simply be a citation of other people's opinions (whether professional or otherwise). What I would say is that I believe human beings have a very powerful gift in their personalities - the ability to consciously choose against natural inclinations, instincts, desires and so on. We can choose to change. Now obviously there are some things we just can't change in our own strength, but we can enlist help - be it medications, therapies, surgery etc - to help us manage or overcome issues. Whether or not you were born gay, I believe you have the ability to choose against that. I don't discredit the difficulty of such a choice, nor do I believe the carrying out of that conviction to be easier. Fighting things that are inherent to us is one of the hardest things you can do. However, I believe it can be done. I perceive that the question is worded with a religious perspective, since you are praying and asking forgiveness. Forgiveness seems to be primarily a Christian concept, but I won't assume that this is where you are coming from. Each religion has its own doctrines, and you may find some help there. For example, Christianity believes in a God who empowers his believers through his Holy Spirit - and the bible says that the Holy Spirit gives us the strength to overcome any obstacle. I don't know about other faiths, but if you are not Christian, explore your own faith and see what is available. From a practical viewpoint, if you are determined to go against homosexuality and become heterosexual, then you will need help. Find yourself a good counsellor - somebody who can not only help you deal with any potential issues from the past, but also somebody who can help you deal with issues that come up here and now, in what you're going through. Find somebody who can mentor you - somebody you can be accountable to and who can encourage you and help keep you on the path you choose. Try to find other people in the same boat. While we need to be careful not to get dragged down by 'victims', finding other people who are fighting the same fight you are can be very powerful. You can give and receive support, see what other people are doing to overcome their obstacles, and gain perspective from others outside your own situation. Don't beat yourself up if you fall. If you desire to go against your inherent inclinations, you are in for a fight. It may be a long process, but if you stick with it and pick yourself up when you fall, you can make it. To anybody faced with this (or a similar) situation, who is reading this, I wish you the very best in your endeavours.

I thinks it is awsome that you konw that this is something you are trying to fix you know God destroyed Sodom in Genesis 19 because of Homosexuality he called it grevious. in Leviticus 18:20-22 God calls it an abomination. God also says all things are possible in Matthew 19:26 but only through him and in his strength. I am sure it is hard but I know you can co it I will pray for you in your struggle.

Honey, I think that you'll be fine because you're supposed to be the person that your God made you. Denying who you are can only cause you to be depressed and unhealthy. You need to love yourself first and foremost, and then begin to sort yourself out. Homosexuality is not unnatural, and is not something to be ashamed of or something that you should try to etch out of your being. If it was unnatural, would we see it in animals? (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/List_of_animals_displaying_homosexual_behavior) Christianity preaches that God is all forgiving and all knowing, and he made everyone as they are. If God is all knowing, didn't he realize that at some point you were going to experiment? And if he made you as you are, is it possible that he made you gay? And, if he is all forgiving, is it possible that even if you continue down this path, he will not only forgive you for being the person that he made you into, forgive your experimentation, and not condemn you to Hell? Why is it that you feel like you can't accept this as a part of you?

There are organizations that have helped thousands of people with your desires but I can't remember any of their names. Perhaps you could dial 1800-AFAMILY and ask for a reference.

Hi. My life has fallen into pieces after realizing my two best of friends are gay. I also believe that they are like you, not "born like this". There is a choice involved in the way they are right now. One of them is so called a "closeted" gay and the other one professed to have come out of the closet. However, I can see that deep down int them there is a sense of guilt and they know that what they are doing is really "wrong". This has nothing to do with religion (even though both are believers of God) but it is that small voice (the conscience or whatever it is called) telling them that it is wrong. I understand what you are going through. Just do what is right not before men but before the one you are asking forgiveness from.

You know what you are regardless of what other presure to make you or brainwash you.You should be your true too your self what ever your choices are in life if you like a man or a woman or both.Only god is too judge you on judgment day people may not like your choices in socity but that doesnt mater.I dont understand why you say you have changed and you need to go back to the way you were? Did something happen too you and that is why you changed?There is a god and he is a loveing and understand god that watches us all the time knows what we are thinking every thing but that is what I belive and that really doesnt matter and no one in life in perfect you can act the part but at the end your true self is reveled.It only matters how you feel about things it is your life not mine or anyone elses do what is right for you.

Well, you have certainly gotten a variety of answers. There are those who don't want you to change because it will confound their belief or desire system. Shabba and Saved both are talking sense to you. You have a choice and you do well to talk about it openly. First, congratulations on your great courage and determination. Your road will not be easy, but it will reward you. From a Christian perspective, you have a lot of help available. Prayer of itself can help you very much. Be open to the leading of the spirit as you pray. Reading the Bible and getting to know it well will also help you to be strong. Association is vital. You really need to associate with those who will strengthen your resolve and give you practical help along the way. I am one of Jehovah's Witnesses and will talk from my experience. I have known several former homosexuals who have made the hard choice to abandon that lifestyle. It has been one of the hardest things a person can do. Still, very few ever went back and those who have have usually regretted it. One man told me of the aching in his flesh and how, even after becoming happily married and having beautiful children, the desire would sometimes return. He stayed true to his resolve and has had many blessings because of it. As a suggestion, regardless of your religious views, ask Jehovah's Witnesses locally to study the Bible with you and to show you how you can use all the resources available to Christians to become the man you want to be. While we don't have a special ministry devoted to this matter, we have been very successful in helping people with this and every other conceivable impediment to conform their lives to God's Word. Be sure that others will pray for your success.

We get into trouble when we start thinking of sexual orientation being right or wrong. It is whatever it is. If one is oriented toward the same sex, so be it. If one is oriented toward the opposite sex, so be it. For the perpetuation of the human race we need a minimum percentage oriented toward opposite sexes. But once the propogation is taken care of, I serious doubt that mother nature cares which way someone is oriented. Throughout history there has always been a percentage of both sexes that were oriented toward the same sex. So be it.

Here's a simple answer that I hope might help. Get a female friend, someone who is understanding and you can confide in. Go out with her and her friends to rediscover what you may find attractive in the opposite sex. It might not necessarily be physical attraction and you may see things differently.

Do you really think God would have made you the way you are if it was evil? Homosexuality gets as much press in the Bible as eating shellfish does. And you see "Christians" eating shellfish all the time, don't you? There are many more important things for you, and for some of these other respondents to be concerned with. You are fine, and loved by God...just the way you are.

this question cant be real...nobody is this dumb/ridiculous...you are trying to bate us into giving angry answers or something

You need to be yourself. Don't be afraid to explore your feelings. If you are having this struggle, then you should probably seek a support group (which has been mentioned). I think that the majority of gay men and lesbians have probably gone through the "I wish I were straight" stage.

My point, jervinator, is to answer the question. The questioner wants to leave his perversion and the fruitless obscenities that go along with it. I am pointing out that thousands of people have managed to do so, and told him. So sneer away. Your comments add nothing to this discussion.

HI there, I just read your question and some of the answers you recieved, I have to disagree with alot of them!I will explain why...I do not believe you are born gay,I believe you pick up that "spirit" somewhere along the way, I am a 40 year old woman who lived that kind of life style for a very long time, I even got married and had 3 children who are now grown with kids of their own, in the midst of all I fought being with other woman,I even divorced my husband and lived a long time with a woman whom I loved and still love very much(today its just a godly kind of love) I knew in my heart it was wrong, and yes it is, I finally got back with my husband,and vowing to make my marrage work, we both became Christians,started following Christ the best we knew how,and Jesus changed me!It wasn't that I hated men , I just thought I liked woman more. I got into a church and a spirit filled church, I was delivered and now I don't even think those ways anymore, I believe that the closer you get to Jesus the more those feelings will leave! It took me years fighting, hurting and searching, it doesn't have to take you that long, I PROMICE! My husband and I now have a ministry that deals with drug addicts and other problems such as yours. It is possable to feel peace again, Jesus isn't the one that causes confusion...Satin is!

Listen - ignore anyone who tells you that you were not born that way - really, the fact is... you were. There's nothing you can do about it, you can't fight against it without having it explode. Listen please, I beg you. You don't have a choice in the matter, you were born this way - to fight it would be to fight your very nature. You might just be a teen going through an experimental phase or you might be postive, you may even be an adult - I don't know. But if it is really who you are, you can't go back and change it. Ignore everything that tells you differeitnly, they lack sense. Just be yourself and be happy - you can't change it, and the sooner you accept it and stop feeling guilty over it, the sooner you can be happy.

You are right about not being born that way. Just remember that God loves you no matter what you have done. It is the sin of homosexuality that He hates. Of course, He hates all sin, but homosexuality, for some reason He calls an abomination. You can beat the homosexual feelings, I am not saying it will be easy, but you pray about it every day, and if looks like you are heading that way again then stop and pray about it. He will not allow you to be tempted with more than you are able to resist. It is not a sin to be homosexual, however, to act on those desires is a sin. If you know you have those desires, and want to reamin faithful to your Christianity, then you must not engage in those desires. Just as I, as a widower, must not engage in sex with another woman unless we marry. So, I do know it is difficult to resist. But it can be done.

If you are worried about God's love for you, if God is as great as people say he is, he will love you for being just who you are. There are too many guidelines placed on the infinite and things that we don't understand. Realize that being homosexual is just as natural as being straight, and there's nothing wrong with you. If there is a God, he made you exactly how he saw fit.

I've got to say this, downrate me if you will. Chances are you were born gay mate, but its nothing to be ashamed or guilty about, no matter what some people may tell you. You have to live your life, you are obviously a religious person, and I respect you for that, but many religions say that being gay is wrong, and it isen't. Your God made you the way he made you, be happy and proud of being you.

You WERE born like that. you have to accept it. how can God accept you, if you don't accept yourself?

It is my opinion that homosexuality in many ways plagues people much like an addiction, which is supported by your question. We can be addicted to many things other than just drugs, some are addicted to adrenaline, others to gambling, others to the act of lying, others to pornography. In extreme cases some are addicted to raping and molesting, others to murder. In lesser cases, some are addicted to ice cream, or chocolate. In this case homosexuality would seem to be an addiction for you. Sin is pleasurable, captivating, and by its very nature, in the end, it is also addicting, which strips the sin of the pleasure that was originally experienced so all we are left is a feeling of shame and emptiness, but we continue to do it because we are addicted. That being said, most people are not capable of overcoming their own personal addictions on their own. Everyone has points of weakness they struggle with and are incapable of conquering them on their own. This is why everyone has commmitted so many sins. My suggestion is that you try to find outside help by a counselor. Another great help is to find a friend that will serve as an accountability partner for you. Open and honest accountability with someone on the outside will help you deal with the temptation. Many that are addicted to pornography will use a program like covenant eyes that logs an entry of all websites visted that is then viewed by someone else, an accountablility partner. The concept is that the fear of being caught serves as a protector from falling into the temptation, and the idea carries into your situation as well. If you know someone will hold you accountable to your actions, you will be less likely to do them because you will be ashamed of having to report to your friend what you have done.

if you have a very strong feeling bout this, and do not feel comfortable being one, you should seriously start thinking carefully. start praying & just pour everything out to Him . and now living your life how others or how you want to, because honestly, we (at least I) do not know what's the best for ourselves. we cant predict the future, nor we know whats right nor wrong anymore in this world, for its becoming so confusing. Thus, I will surrender this to the Lord and pass my grieves to Him and learn to rely on Him. As it is written in Matthew 11:28 - "Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened and I will give you rest" Of course this journey will not be an easy one but keep you faith and spirit up and start believing and relying on Him. You might not believe this, but no matter what, this is too, another way of trying. Just give it a try. There's no harm.

I agree that you were not born a homosexual. However, I do not believe that you were born a heterosexual either. I do not believe that human sexuality preferences are pre-determined at birth. Many people use the argument that homosexuality is "not natural" because it is not found in the "natural" world. This, however, has been proven wrong. Whether the lifestyle that you have chosen is right or wrong, is entirely up to you to decide. If you choose to believe the bible, then Leviticus 18, tells you if you are right or wrong. If you believe in an omnipotent being, and believe that your lifestyle is "wrong", then pray for guidance. It is said that Jesus can forgive all sins and can right all wrongs. If this is what you believe, then there is only one way to find out.

You will never find a gay person who wanted to be gay. Most of us would have given anything to have been born straight but we weren't. Also you will only find straight people telling you that it is a choice. My advice to you is to learn to live with the cards that life dealt you. I know it's not easy. But it can be done and you can live a happy and productive life. There are millions of gay people in the world..you are by no means alone nor the first person to feel the way you do. I hope you can make peace with who and what you are :)

Well there are websites like http://www.becomestraight.com but im not sure its possible for you to change this. who knows. wish you the best

I think you need to learn to accept yourself for who you are, no matter what your sexual orientation is. As for changing it, the APA, AMA, etc all recommend against even trying. Psychological studies have shown that not only do sexual orientation changes not last long-term, but they have some seriously detrimental consequences that are long-term. This is why all credible medical and psychological organizations recommend against, and even denounce as dangerous, the practice of reparative therapy. For example, the American Pediatrics Association says: "Confusion about sexual orientation is not unusual during adolescence. Counseling may be helpful for young people who are uncertain about their sexual orientation or for those who are uncertain about how to express their sexuality and might profit from an attempt at clarification through a counseling or psychotherapeutic initiative. Therapy directed specifically at changing sexual orientation is contraindicated, since it can provoke guilt and anxiety while having little or no potential for achieving changes in orientation." The American Psychiatric Association says: "The potential risks of 'reparative therapy' are great, including depression, anxiety and self-destructive behavior, since therapist alignment with societal prejudices against homosexuality may reinforce self-hatred already experienced by the patient. Many patients who have undergone "reparative therapy" relate that they were inaccurately told that homosexuals are lonely, unhappy individuals who never achieve acceptance or satisfaction. The possibility that the person might achieve happiness and satisfying interpersonal relationships as a gay man or lesbian is not presented, nor are alternative approaches to dealing with the effects of societal stigmatization discussed." http://www.apa.org/pi/lgbc/publications/justthefacts.html

it kinda looks like evryone is telling you to except it. However, (and now i don't want everyone to hate me) I think that if you want to change it you change it. You say you tried prayer, that would be my first recommendation by seeking a relationship with God he is able to help you with anything. It may seem like hes not listening but he always is and he has heard everything you've said. DON'T STOP PRAYING!!!!I have a friend who is in a very similar situation hes actually reading books that are helping him work through his problems i can't tell you exactly what they say cause well i haven't read them (lol). But i don know that one of the first steps was realizing when this happened to you, and how you lost your masculinaty. Thats always a good place to start. i suggest you find a book out there or a shrink who has knowledge in this field and go for it. Stick with it!! I heard a statistic that 98% of all homosexuals who try to become straight are successful. and the other 2% are due to giving up, so basically if you don't give up and keep praying you'll be straight in no time.

D-mongreen you are doing whats right. Just keep it up. Keep praying asking for forgiveness and help to stop. when you stumble and do it again, pick your self up and continue trying. You are doing just what you are suppose to do, don't let anyone tell you your not. Your right no one is born that way, but there was something that caused you to be that way. As long as you continue trying to do whats right and praying your doing right. God loves you very much. and he forgives you. God knows your heart and knows if your truly sorry or not. Deliberate sin is a christian who doesn't care if it's wrong and purposely does it anyway. I feel if you didn't want a christians point of veiw you wouldn't have put it under Christianity. And others who try to pull you down should remember that too. God Bless You!

I don't know if you are Jewish or not, but this is an excellent article on acceptance of Homosexuality. http://www.myjewishlearning.com/ideas_belief/sex_sexuality/Overview_Homosexuality/Homosexuality_And_Halakhah/Sex_HalakhicHomosexuality_Dorff.htm

Stop agonising over it. By focussing on the problem, you make it bigger than it is. Everyone has things they fail in, sometimes many times. That does not mean that God does not forgive you. You can be the person God wants you to be and the one you want to be. Just be easy on yourself. Do not put yourself in places where you will be tempted. And focus on what is good and right. Keep yourself busy serving God and your brothers and sisters. You will have victory. Just keep trusting in the Lord and looking at him. Don't be distracted by the homosexuality. It is only one part of your life. There is so much more that you can do. Praying for you.

Keep seeking. you have hope. no one was born gay, or bi. Is a murderer or pedifile born that way? Find your way to an old fashion alter and seek until you are touched, fast, rebuke, reclaim your life... For he will not leave you or forsake you.

You can't..eventually you will have to accept that..and since this question was asked last March I'm sure you will have realized the futility of trying to be straight. There isn't a gay person in the world who didn't desperately want to be straight at some time in their life...to the point that adolescent suicides are extremely high due to this...you have to accept who you are...millions of others have and we lead happy probductive lives.

I'm going to assume you're a Christian, and you feel this way because of the verse in Leviticus that says men shouldn't lay with other men, yadda yadda. I know that Christians believe the Bible is the word of God, but you have to take these things with a grain of salt. The Bible also says it's a sin to wear clothes made of two different kinds of fabric (ie Cotton combined with polyester or whatever), women shouldn't teach, people shouldn't wear jewelry, and the earth doesn't move. The fact that homosexuality is regarded as "taboo" by some people has much much more to do with society than it does with the Christian religion. The Bible explicitly states "Suffer not a woman to teach", and yet for centuries in western culture teachers have been overwhelmingly female. The point being, do what makes you happy, even if it doesn't fit in with what you're told are "society's norms", or "Christian values".

you are who you are, dont let the bible thumpers tell you otherwise. There's nothing wrong with it. Embrace it :)

The only solution I can think of is a sex change.

Tell me, why do you want to change the way you are?? Live with it, mate and be happy about who you are. Follow your heart-- what's to stop you?

you are struggling to do right ...i have composed 4 answers and am struggling with saying the wrong thing to you... I have one question for all gays, if you see nothing wrong, why do you try to hide or change in the first place? because you know it is wrong...but now it seems they are trying to make the world say there is nothing wrong...and Christians cannot say that... please keep trying...good Christians and a True Man of God will help you....God will send help if HE sees in your heart you want to overcome , it will not be easy...

1. You have to realize that God made you in a very special way. 2. You have to forgive yourself. I believe that sin is sin, and in order for God to be able to have His way in our life, we must take the first steps to drawing closer to Him. Yes are flesh hurts when we choose to make the right choices, but we will be blessed and rewarded in the end of our fight. I would say, try to find a good christian based church, and surround yourself around people that can influence you in the right direction.

If one believes the bible and is a Christian than one cannot believe that God created anyone to be Gay. I know first hand that it may seem that way, however, The influences and experiences in the first few years of life are crucial in determining many things about us including gender roles. AND, I don't remember much about the first few years I was alive! Perhaps there were stonf influences I am unaware of weather they be physical, spiritual, emotional, or likfe I would say, a combination. All this talk of accepting yourself as the way you are doesn't really make any sense either. It is not comparable to race or color of skin since that is a physical thing. If it seems I was born with a sexual drive to rape young children should I just accept that as the way God made me????? It says in the bible that God did not create us gay nor does he hate anyone who deals with homosexual feelings. It DOES say however that homosexual behavior is wrong in a few places and calls it an abomination. He tells us not to defile the body by doing such things. It is a type of behavior he gives people over to for being disobediant to him. We were all born into sin - different sins for different people. Some might struggle with porography or cheating on their wife. That doesn't mean they whould accept those things about themselves.

I understand you. I believe a straight person can become gay and therefore it is possible for a gay to become straight again.The power of the mind is very strong

Some interesting statements U make. U acknowledge that U were Not born Homosexual. U also say U have a desire to become "Straight" again. Lets start there shall we? Do U Realize that just like All Mankind since Adam & Eve, U were "Born" in "Sin", often referred to as "Original Sin" that is passed down Genetically from the Male??? Being born in Sin we cannot be with God as He cannot have anything to do with Sin. He Did send his Son Jesus to Us as the "Final Sacrifice" and Only Way to be able to Live Eternally with Him in Heaven. But it's up to Us to Accept His Gift with No Strings Attached!!! U don't have to belong to any church, tithe, sing in the choir, go door to door or any other STUPID STUFF!!! It's Faith Alone in Christ Alone that makes one a "Christian" & gets U to Heaven. Now, what is more Important to U??? Becoming a "Child of God" living for Eternity with God in Heaven, or just "Becoming Straight"??? Lets see, "Straight = 75 years in a lousy human body, Christian = Forever in Perfect Angelic Body no Pain & only Good Times??? No Brainer Right? So Forget Ur or anyone else's Favorite "Sin", Find Ur Eternal Salvation First! Once U become a "Child of God, U can then go Directly to God Ur Father & confess Ur Sins to Him & be Forgiven Instantly!!! So now, just sit down with God as with Ur best friend & tell him that U want to turn Ur life over to Him & Accept His Gift, the Sacrifice of Christ to have Ur Sins Forgiven. Ask for the "Filling & Indwelling" of the "Holy Spirit" to take the lead in Ur Life & help make the Scriptures (Bible) meaningful & #1 in Ur Life. Then go to a "Bible Supply Store" & ask for someone to help find U a good "Study Bible" that is easy to read & a Bible Handbook to help U understand what is happening throughout the Bible Times that U are Learning about. And last, if God (and He has) Forgave U, U must learn to Forgive Urself! U may find that U will Lose Many "Friends" over this Decision, but U could also be a "True Friend" & introduce them to God & His Plan for their Life as well! God Bless John

Hi D-Mongreen, I'm a celibate gay Christian. I know that many others have already answered your posting, but I wanted to share a Christian perspective. Right now, the gay community has "jumped in" in full force in order to promote that you head directly to their lifestyle choice. Please pray and realize the following truths: 1) Sexual orientation is not chosen. It's just like your race, eye color, and personality. You really can't change any of these items, as they are something that you have automatically inherited. It's just a part of the sinful nature that all of us are born with. Think of it like this: When did any of your friends become straight? Did they write that day down on their calendars? Do they celebrate their "I became straight on this day" anniversary? If it was truly a choice, it would be a greatly celebrated holiday within the Christian world -- and everywhere else! Everyone would be promoting that you become straight! Yet, such a holiday does NOT exist. Why? It's because being straight was something that simply *always was* for them. Just like our feelings have always been for the same gender. We did not go to school to *learn* how to be gay. We did not write on our calendar that on August 15, I will learn to be sexually attracted to men. NO WAY! Yet, God does require all Christians to uphold His law and principles. In fact, Christ stated, "If you love me, keep my commandments", which is a part of the New Testament. God performed the original wedding between Adam and Eve -- and no, it was not Steve. He told them to pro-create. In the old testament, the Hebrews were specifically required to kill anyone who engaged in any form of sexual behavior that was outside of a single, dedicated heterosexual marriage. There are many examples of this in the Old Testament, and even in the New too. For example, when the lady who was caught in prostitution was brought before Jesus, they said that the law required them to kill her. Yet, Christ cleverly freed the woman by publicly exposing the sins of her accusers by writing them in the dust of the temple floor. Afterwards, he turned to the Prostitute and told her that He forgave her of her sins -- and then told her to go and sin "no more." In other words, she was to leave that lifestyle behind. Did this mean that she didn't have any temptation to prostitute again? Probably not... But, Christ's words were very plain. She was to go and sin no more -- in other words, leave the sinful lifestyle. Nowadays, we know that prostitution is a lifestyle choice that usually kills not only the prostitute, but many others via STDs, etc. The same holds true for the gay lifestyle. It's filled with many of the same diseases of the straight community. Ever search the health forums on the web? I remember one kid that wrote in that he wanted to try anal sex with one of his friends. So, he talked him into trying it and after a couple of days, he started to have a painful discharge from his penis. He had to go into the doctor and explain what he had done (in front of everybody) in order to get the medicine he needed to try to fix the problem. He swore afterwards that he'd never DO THAT AGAIN... Other men have had to have surgeries in order to fix the puncture holes from their partner's stretched penis being rammed through the colon wall, ripping a big, bloody hole in it. (There's a good reason why blood is usually associated with gay intercourse.) Other gay men like to see if they can insert their entire arm up the butt of the other man. The butt muscle gets so torn, that it simply doesn't close any more -- requiring the guy to wear a "butt plug" in order to keep the manure from perpetually flowing out into his pants. Oh yes -- and then their's oral sex too -- and it's diseases. Yet, I think you get the picture! Yes, there's lots of things that the gay community doesn't tell their novices about... Is this what you really want your life to be about? Surgeries, pain, disease and eventual death? Can you see Jesus (a sinless God) approving of destructive anal sex? Stop and look -- have you ever noticed that gay men can't stay in a monogamous relationship? Instead, they are like bunnies, hopping from one guy to the next. I've known gay guys who would have five new sex partners per day. Can you see Jesus approving of basically gay prostitution? Nope. 2) There are many celibate Gay Christians out there. Yes, you can have a wonderful live that is very alive. Instead of focusing upon the sex part, talk to God about how he can use one more of his Gay Christians for service to humanity? Have you done anything special to help others lately? Have you joined any clubs to stay active? Do you attend church regularly? Usually, they have programs designed to help keep their singles busy, etc. Just some advice from one gay Christian to another. God bless you -- and keep your vividly life alive for Jesus! Search the web for celibate gay Christians. You would be surprised at what you find! You're not alone out here. :-)

no body is born gay , the hole gay thingy is fake 3 of my friends were gays but now there all straight , all you need is get a gr8 friend that u wont ever fall 4 and a girl that will help you out of this then u ll begin having a crush on her and by time the hole gay thingy is over , and belive me " beliving in god and asking for his help and forgiveness is verrrry helpful "

hun dont forget that god created you, all of you, and being gay is how god made you. the fact is, some people might say its a sin but they are misinformed. why would god make us all so different if he/she wanted us to be the same. love is beautiful between two men, two women or a man and a woman. some people never find it at all. so if you can find it with a man that is so lucky. people who judge you for being gay are not people you want in your life anyway. i see you wrote this question over a year ago, have things changed?

There is nothing wrong with being gay. But heterosexual people don't have to pray to not be gay. My friend, accept the support in this reply thread and accept who you are. Leave any church that tells you otherwise immediately. Look up your local PFLAG group and ask their advise for support. (I know PFLAG is for the parents but I can't think of any other national groups so well situated to help.) There are churches that are accepting of all people.

Hey! God love you and so do I. Your are praying the wrong prayer and the prayer that you should be praying should be a prayer of thanksgiving. "Thank you God for making me Gay,Thank you God for showing me Loves way", And also pray for all those ignorant Christian who say, that it's in Hell all homosexuals will stay, So don't let these narrow-minded, worldly gods blow your day.

Hey. I might be a little late on this but let me tell you this. I know how you feel. I feel the same way exactly. Though I am a Christian and know what God wants, I know how difficult it is to deal with this too and believe me I won't accept the fact either that this is who I am because I firmly believe it's not nor do I, or will I ever, be comfortable just living like this. It's not who I am nor is it, or will it ever, be a part of me. I've lived the life for quite awhile and I STILL after all these years don't feel "comfortable" or "accepting" of it even when I thought I was. It's a road that goes nowhere and everyone winds up lonely and unhappy, and it appears that "most" of their relationships do not last and the ones that do are NOT monogamous, the rest are just plain unhappy or miserable (and I'm not saying that all straight relationships are great and work, but from statistics and my own observation MOST of the gay ones do not). All I can tell you is check out www.peoplecanchange.com I'm still dealing with it, but I didn't "choose" it, nor do I believe all these morons who say you were "born" like that. It's amazing what the world chooses to believe because everyone else just "accepts" it these days. They might be comfortable with themselves on the outside but I firmly don't believe deep down they really are nor happy with it, or nor will they be later in life. It's a progressive lifestyle, but unfortunatly in the wrong direction and the end of the road seems to find a lot of people very lonely and desolate. At one time I never thought of it, and my feelings were of only girls, but as time went by I somehow got into it and I regret every doing it. It seems the more you get involved in it and the more accepting of it, the more "into" it you are and "addicted" to it you get and all your feelings seem to get channeled in that direction. These idiots just say to "accept it" or "you were born that way", but they are or will be some of the most unhappy poor souls you will probably ever encounter. Someone once told me "Maybe it wont' go away, but God may keep it there to keep you line and be a reminder to you of Him, and that you can't go through life without Him". That's how I look at it, but I am not going to give up trying to get back to a "normal" life. Give me a shout back if you'd like to discuss or need a friend. I know what your going through.

DONT LISTEN TO THOSE FUCKERS YOU CAN BE STRAIGHT AGAIN !!! NO ONE WAS BORN GAY THERES JUST A PROBLEM IN YOUR HEAD THATS BLOCKING YOU FROM BEING A REAL GUY. JUST REMEMBER WHO YOU ARE , YOUR NOT THINKING CLEARLY ! JUST SIT ALONE FOR A BIT AND REMEMBER WHAT ITS REALLY LIKE TO LIK THE OPPOSITE SEX...REMEMBER ALL OF IT YOU DONT HAVE TO FORCE IT BECUASE YOUR NOT REALLY GAY!!im telling you

i dont believe in a god. i think you may be around people who are gay or bi or whatever and over the years you may have leaned that way figuratively my advice would be to stay normal and dont add things to your sexual background such as pornography if you want to REALLY find out what you are then stay away from things that complicate your life and dont let other people make decisions for you, either you are the sole person who can find out what you are and accept who and what you are in this life hope this helps

Relax, you sound like yu really love God and God knows all of what you are feeling. It is possible I know of others who this happened to. You cant do anything in your own strength. God has all the answers. Just pray and find peace again. You are forgiven the moment you asked for it. God says your sins are forgiven and he does not remember them. So you have to forgive yourself. We all make mistakes and there is plenty of room for u-turns in our life. God will help you get there if you ask. Be patient. Love yourself and know he will work it all out. Blessings to you.

I am a lesbian and have thought about this time and time again (especially when it seems I can't find a stable "gay" relationship, and most lesbians have unnecessary drama). But I have come up with this solution: If you want to refrain from gay interactions, don't "do the acts". I know this is a lonely way of life, but if you distance yourself from the bar scene, club scene, and gayness altogether, you may have a better chance. Even most religious people who suggest refraining from the actual acts themselves. Maybe involve yourself more into things you like, like work or school or volunteering. At least that's what I'm trying to do. Who knows what may happen.

Here's how. If you want to become straight then you will have to expose yourself to a straight lifestyle. Don't forget about your gay sexual tendencies, or look down on them, just accept they occurred, you can think of it as a wrestling match with your sexuality. If you want to win then you will have to keep fighting. If your male, Learn about girls, and what they like. Think about the pros and cons with being with a girl, and then write the same for being with a guy. Learn what the opposite sex likes and focus on pleasing them sexually. Think of your values. There's nothing wrong with being aroused by the same sex. But if you want to be aroused by the opposite sex, you will have to think about them more. You will have to find the beauty, and mystery of the opposite sex. If your a guy, it will also help if you have faith that the girl your seeing is sexually attracted to you. Girls are just as horny as guys, but have more too lose if they have sex, they could get pregnant. Finally, sexuality is a tendency behaviour. think of it as a scale, it will lean to the side with the most thoughts. In nature almost every species have been recorded to act in homosexual ways when under the right circumstances. So don't dwell on the theory that your born a certain way and you cannot change. Just remember that people change, and that's how our society differs over time. Simply saying you are born that way, and that's how it is for eternity is a simple answer with parallels to saying, GOD did it, that's how the universe got here. Life is complex and that's what makes in beautiful.

Don't listen to all this crap about how your born with it, you don't have to have a reason, here's one though- have you watched TV, you don't see nearly as many scandalously dressed women as men, ever think of what this might do to you while you were going through puberty? Anyway I found a link on the web that will help if you are truly serious about this, I think that you can change. here it is: http://www.ehow.com/how_2116764_straight-idea-against-reparative-therapy.html good luck and I wish you success, it is a hard thing to overcome.

Listen PEOPLE....I HAVE STRUGLED AND STILL AM STRUGlin WITH HOMOSEXUALITY...The bible is not wrong...We get mad at the bible when something is not beneficial to us.. Sure....go and judge people cus they smoke pot, go and judge people cus they had 20 women at the same time... come on...... We only make the bible wrong when its not beneficial... i think that we might have been born that way.. or might have not.. we TRULY dont know.. just because you as far as you can remember being that way doesnt mean you were that way... Homosexuality is a sin.. BUT! HELLO.!!! the lifestyle is the sin.. the struggle of it just makes you stronger...Okey if i say.. i am gay and im going to get me some tonite wit a guy...that makes it a sin..but if you are HOMOSEXUAL and say...you know what im gay but my God is big....im not gona live that lifestyle it doesnt make it a sin.. Dont tell God how big your problem is..tell your Problen how big your God is. Remember...God destroyed a city for that....IT is harsh hearing all these things.. remember though...God hates the sin but loves the Sinner. Just cus you struggle wit something doesnt mean you are that.. Sin...just like homosexuality (sin) is just an attachment.. The word says.. in the end... the weeds will be removed from the whaet.. and the weeds will be gathered up and burned.. weeds are the sin struggle, in this case homosexuality, the wheat is us.. so you chose... let the weeds choke you or become stronger... live a gay lifestyle or let it become a strugle.. HOmosexuality is just another sin... just like lieng, just like having sex b4 marriage., just like idoliting... its just a another sin..and God does forgive you for it... and yes you do need to ask for forgiveness... i know i did..my life is better wit JEsus by my side....

Oh God. Sorry to tell you, but you are gay and you can not "fix" yourself, with prayer or any other means. God can not forgive you for something that isn't wrong. It is up to you to forgive yourself. Do not buy into the psychotic Christian thinking. If they actually read the bible and all its verses (not just picking and choosing what is best for them!), they would understand that there is much that contradicts itself on the subject of "Gay" and so much that needs to be thought about and not taken literally! God loves you. Pray to Him for the strength to overcome your fears and finally forgive yourself!

What about Child molesters who can not fight the urge to abuse children, or the serial killer who can't fight his urges, we always seem to attach a incident or series of incidences that attribute those people to there condition. Just a cruious question about say you are born the way you are and to just live with it, would you say the same thing to the guy that just rapped and murdered your daughter, "well that is the way were created so you were just doing what you were made to do" I understand what you are trying to tell them saying it is ok to be this way. Yes, being gay is different then those other people that harm others I understand this. But to say it was the way you were born so just be that way, is like saying to the baby born hooked on crack that is the way you were born just be that way. I know many of you have said that being born that way is a fact, well unless you are willing to produce any real evidence then your claim to this fact is irrelevant in this case. He says he wasn't born like this. Why if that is the way he believes are trying to change it with your opinions. Here is something to think about.The average life expectancy of a homosexual male is reported to be only 43, (Thats 30 years)largely due to HIV/AIDS, but now they are also attributing it to other factors such as emotional stress due to the average several hundred partners they all have been through. I know that sounds absurd but that is some of the research being done. Not by an anti-gay group either I might add. If being gay is not harmful,( average 30 years off your life) then you should say that being a crack smoker is not either. But these are all arguable points that will not help answer the question. I think the best answer was someone mentioned counseling. I would highly recommend that. You will find out that your feelings of being gay are not the real issue. I had been through many years of intense counseling for an issue that I dealt with. (Not born with it either) Before long I began to realize that it was not that issue that was the problem it was some thing else in my past that lead me to what I was doing. And I wouldn't worry about what God thinks of you either, that guilt you are feeling is not from Him. I have walked two friends through what you are dealing with now, and they both came to realize that it is not their "Being gay" that was their issue. They found something else that was tearing at them. I will not say that they both became straight, but that is what they want in the long run, but they are dealing with something else that they have come to believe has attributed to them feeling this way. But one thing is different, the way they feel God sees them. They know that He is not sitting up there looking down on them in judgment because of something that seemed to be beyond their control. They know that He is there walking through this time with them, not condemning them. If you are praying about this...what else are you doing about it? If I were you I would go and find a good counselor on this issue and go and find out what you find out. I hope this helped

how interesting that the trend is now to think it is fine to be gay and that you were born that way. i applaud you for feeling you need to change. there are those that after thinking they were gay, are now coming to find out otherwise. do not for one minute believe you cannot change. ABSOLUTELY YOU CAN!!! the one that can help you is God himself. stay away from a website that will tell you otherwise. such as this one. no doubt many homosexuals are responding to your question, or those that have been convinced by the gay movement that being homosexual is fine. you can change, help is out there. the apostle paul said to fight your urges and to deaden your fleshly members in regards to fornication. this means you will have to put up a fight with your fleshly tendencies and desires to do what is wrong. you have half the battle won if you are willing to recognize that you have a problem. unlike those that think they have nothing to change. go to God in fervent prayer and his Word. he knows who you are and wants to help you! i will pray for you! and please, i would appreciate that whoever reads this and completely disagrees, to not comment otherwise. i am not speaking to you, obviously you do not want the help nor do you want to change! you have been given free will to do whatever you please right or WRONG! have a good life.

Most gay people are not born gay...statistically speaking most gay people have had some molestation or rape issues or their first sexual experience was with another male..just like you became gay you can also become straight ....if you watch gay porn ...make sure it is lesbian...and do not stop until you are liking it also...if you skrew a woman im pretty sure you will change...straight...Alsoooooo you have to change your trend of thinking ....you must think negatively about men..Always..think he is ugly..yuck penises! and think yummy va jay jays...lol that is just what i think and know to be true.

Remember God knows your heart. He see something you don't see yet, or you don't believe He will. There is something in your life hindering your prayer, and better yet if you are not a Christian, that's why. Because God do not answer sinners prayers. Lets say He did and you are not a Christian, He know you will fall right back into it again. Just like the smoker, he quits for a month, something drastic happens he needs a cigarette to come his nerves. That is a wasted prayer. You are leaving something out for the reason you want to be straight again. Just get with the opposite sex, and go from there.

no way, i am sorry to all of you, but you were not born gay. and God can accept you no matter who you are! you dont have to accept that you are gay for God to love you. there is nothing that you could ever do to make him love you any more or less. I know what i am talking about when i say that. it is not like i am trying to tell everyone off, it is that i am saying, from a christian P.O.V, just take a look at yourself. God has done everything exactly the way he meant to. if God knew that you were going to strfuggle with this, then he obviously put it here to show you how much he can help! just trust him, shake it off ( i know that is terrible to say), and just tell yourself that it is a lie. you are not gay, i dont believe you were born this way, and if God created you, he would NEVER have made you gay, considering it is in the bible. just trust him and be faithful, because you can get through this!!!!!!! 1 cor 2:10

I am facing the same problem as u pal. I am still having it but I hope to change myself soon since all my friends are straight. When I meet with them, I got feelings that I want to be in bed with them and I became distracted. I do not want to be gay and I want to do anything to change being one.

To ZAmeraAL: I hear ya bro. I absolutely hate it too and am also in a similar situation. I don't believe I need to just accept it like everyone says and just live like it. I wasn't this way when I was really young so why am I now? I see way too many people that ARE gay that are miserable, or old and single, etc. Not to mention how awkward it would be around the holidays with family and all. I would never feel comfortable with that. If you know of how to address it or change or just want to talk about it, give me a shout man. Not too many people want to talk about it and for some strange reason like to "defend" it. They want to be happy homo's then go ahead, but leave me out. I don't really believe deep down they really are happy. Give me a shout back if ya want. Jimbo2345678@gmail.com Later. -J-

As god doesn't exist and religion is complete fiction, you don't have to worry about what you are doing being wrong. It's not wrong. However, if you are unhappy with it that is still enough to change.

Oh brother do we really have to change this to a religious debate? To those who think God doesn't exist, that is your opinion - Right? Yes. And I guess your going to have to wait until you die to find out since you've probably had something that happened in your life that should make you believe and you choose not to, but that is your perogative. I don't choose to wait until I die and find out then, and be on the wrong side. To those saying just pray and it will go away, well I've got news for you, this is a whole lot different and more difficult than a drug or alcohol addition and you cannot just "quit". As always, nobody understands unless they are in the SAME SITUATION. Give advice yes, but don't try to tell others what they should be doing or how they should be unless you are in the same boat doing the same thing and accomplished what the rest of us are trying to accomplish. Everyone has a different approach or outlook regardless of whether they agree or not with it.

There is nothing wrong with you other than that you are a sinner. So am I, my friend. Thankfully, Jesus is looking for sinners. Don't be mislead by those who would have you believe that you can not overcome your homosexual desires. You can, with the Lord's help. The fact that your conscience is speaking is good. Homosexual desire is just like any other sin. Don't feed it. Starve it. I am not gay, but I have been a porn addict, which is just as wrong, if not worse. God probably will not miraculously remove your desires, but He will give us the strength to overcome. We need to act upon our convictions. Starve this appetite. Don't water the plant & it will die! Any appetite we starve will initially cry out for sustenance, but as time passes it will become weaker & eventually die. As you fight this, continue to pray for guidance. Each time you are able to overcome your weakness, thank Him for giving you the strength. I am assuming that you are a Christian. If not, you need to begin by asking Jesus Christ to be the Lord of your life. Only then can he help us.

Hi there, I don't know how you're doing these days, but here is a great book which I think you will find tremendously helpful: http://www.leaderu.com/stonewall/pages/jeff_k.html All the best buddy.

Hey guys, i'm sure a lot of you won't agree with me. I don't think gay is inborn. I am having the same struggle too for eleven years. I was exposed to sexual stuff since i was around 2 years old. My father use to watch porn together with me. I was physically and mentally abused by him since then until i moved out when i was around eighteen years old. My whole childhood to teenage life were completely lack of healthy bonding with a man as i totally rejected my father. Due to low self confident, i admire guys who look like having it all together. Due to lack of healthy bonding with man, i become insecure of myself and wonder how its like to hug a guy or being touch by them. Then i started to imagine how good if i am like them. Then when puberty strike i started to imagine that i was the good looking guy i admire and having sex with gal. Then i started to feel that something is wrong with me. So i started to search for resources from everywhere. Most answers given to me say that, this is call gay. and gay is inborn. Though it is hard for me to accept it, but there is no other resource to tell me other things. Then when i turn thirteen, i was sexually attacked by another adult man. And there are other stuff happen to me... Finally i suffered enough and decided to end my life. But thank God that someone found me. And finally i know i have hope to change. :) And i am changing bit by bit. Though the road is really tough and tiring. But i know i should try it. I won't expect for instant zap. It took almost 15 years to convince me that i am a gay and am born that way. Thus i believe it will take quite a while for me to break this lie and habits . The choice is yours to believe me or not. But why not give it a try before u finally decide that you are gay? I have seen people (many people) changed and i believe i will be one of them soon.

How close a guy should be with another guy for healthy relationship? Is it ok for a father to kiss a child on his cheek? The fastest way and most efficient way to cure any pain is to know someone especially a loving father who really care and love u. When a child is hurt and goes to his father, his father sit beside him... place his whole arm around him.. telling him is ok... he knows.. That will heal almost any pain away... When a child is not sure... confuse and truly dissappointed at something... the father just use his strong hand to touch his head... he needless to say anything. the child will know in his heart that is ok. Cause there is always at least one very important person agree with him and will always support him. When a father look at a child in the eye and smile... for the first few times... the child might feel awkward... But after a few more time... the child might gain the confident that to look and smile back at the father is just so normal and it is a nice thing to do. It also tell the child that the father is sincerely, truely happy when he see him... When a father hug a child or use both of his hand to grab the child shoulder or give him a tap on his back... the child will truely know that he has the trust and are being proud of by his father... some really good to have but optional thing are.... when the father give a gift to his child.. the gift is what the child really wanted regardless of the cost. This is the best blessing in the world... If there is really such a father in this world... he certainly will not have any problem to lead his child to the Father God. Why am i lacking all these? Father lord... I don't want to feel self pity... I want to experience a healthy and warm father son relationship. I want to have healthy father son talk. I wish to sit on a bench with a loving father. surrounded by his strong arm... listen to his words.. telling me that he will not forsake me... he love me and care for me and it is ok that i be what i am and i am good. I wish that he will brush my hair with his big palm and tell me that i am doing great. I wish that he will put both his hand on my shoulder... look at me in the eye and tell me that he have confident in me tell me that he know i will do the right thing.. and doesn't matter what happen, he will be there to support me because im his son. I wish that he will hug me so tightly and tell me how proud i have made him... that i have done a great job. I wish that he will know what i really wanted and give it to me as a birthday gift on my birthday regardless of the cost simply because he know that i like it. I wish that he will teach me how to appreciate a girl. how to see a girl. how to treat a girl and how to be a man. Father God... Who can be that father to me?

pray to God again. this time think how it started and deal with the root cause by cursing it in the name Of Jesus christ of nazareth. and live a life control by holy spirit.

My advice to you is to read the New testament. Learn the word of God, learn what Jesus did for us on the cross. If your truely believe Jesus is the Son of God, and you truely want forgiveness for your sins, say a prayer confessing Jesus is the son of God, ask God to forgive you for your sins and ask him for the gift of the Holy Spirit, but truely mean it, tell God you want to know him and you want to please him. If you truely dont want to be gay ask and have faith in God to heal you from this perversion. Then get into the word, devout yourself to God, also get others to pray for you, I will pray for you and we will stand on agreement that you will be healed from this perversion. you can find a prayer of salvation on the internet, but if you say this prayer truely speak it from your heart, and believe God is hearing you. God Bles You and I will pray for your salvation also. take care and have faith :) and your right you werent born gay, and you dont have to be gay, thats a lie from satan and you have to relize that. and dont let people tell you any differnt.But God cant do anything for you unless you pray the prayer of salvation, you first have to become his child:)

I am also in the same boat. Im am 19 and am fighting with myself. I have messed around with guys before, but in the end i see myself as having a family and kids. I have a best friend who I have been able to see myself with 5 years from now and starting a family with her, but i cant help but to mess around with guys. There are times when i can control it and tell myself no but other times I just cant! Everytime i meet new people that is there first thing they think about me is that I am gay. Idk if this is a bisexual issue or not but a few answers sure would help.

Hey there I understand a lot of these people on this page have their own opinions and some of them are even girls. But in all honesty it varies from person to person. What might be true for the populatin may not be true for an inididual. I truely think everything revolves around temptation--if you are use to having something for a long period of time and cannot give it up you become very close to this "thing". For instance, I was sorta "gay" and sometimes do have homosexual feelings and am tempted to look at gay porn and it happens, But I think day by day if you push your self in the opposite direction which is the direction of your dreams anything is possible---if you are that dedicated and really have emotions of strating a family and having children and having a nice wife -this is possible--it may be difficult but like MJ once said "nothing is impossible". However if you are happy being attracted to the same sex so b it and carry on with life but if u want a change which would make you happier with a women then push yourself to the limit and reach yoiur destiny! Good luck!

Assuming you have no romantic interest in members of your own sex, but it's all just about wild animalistic kinky non-committal sex that's no more relational than a wrestling match, I'm gathering you started experimenting with bisexuality, and gradually developed a sexual addiction. . As with all addictions, the "12-step program" is a suggestion. Bringing some originally Christian insights to bear, every time temptation strikes, even the thought of it, seek intimacy with God. Fill your mind with Christ. As with most psychological/emotional addictions, the needs & triggers are bound up with self-esteem issues - generally a frustrated narcissim. And that's just a type of idolatry: the worship of a false god (in this case YOU or rather the you you thik you're supposed to be). So, first following a path of "death to self" filled with the real love of God and love (and empathy) for others is the way to break its hold of you.

You are who you are. If you believe God created you this way, Praise the name of the Lord. If not, you are still who you are.

Do alot of praying, do alittle seeking...soul searching. Go on a trip......just dont date for awhile...ANYONE. Take time off...just take it easy. Time will change things...step by step...dont force anything...just work twords it.

maybe your prayer isnt coming from the heart. you have to really mean it and you have to really wnat God to lead and direct you to your formor self, please dont giev up hope becuase in this time hope is all we have.

It is possible to become straight again. Homosexuality is just part of human nature, the more disgusting part of it. I say this because human nature wants to do anything that goes against God, and since being gay goes against God, then human nature wants to perform it. Some people never think about being gay or having gay thoughts and other to. same thing goes for other types of sins, some think about doing them and other never have the urge to. Another reason I back up that its just human nature, and its nothing you are permanency attached to is, Hollywood even gets it. In enemy of the state, will smith asks his employer if he has had any gay thoughts, and the employer says none of your business and will says well i do but i love my wife. Implying he has the thoughts but he is straight. In the song I kissed a girl by Katy parry- she says i kissed a girl and i liked it...it doesn't mean im in love tonight..its just human nature.(for the most part human nature is like animal nature. Some animals have sex with either gender, because it gives them pleasure. Thats what it is. So when your trying to become straight your body keeps remembering the gay pleasure, and you want to go back. BTW there are other sins that do this, like sex outside of marriage, or bestiality.-1 Corinthians 8-12. Im saying all this because im telling you there is a way. Plus recently i read that there was a guy that was gay for over 10 years, and worked for a gay magazine, and then he started to follow God and Now he isn't gay anymore, which i understand would be can fight the temptation/or doesn't have the temptation at all. So it is possible, especially since is human nature/sin so it can be fixed. Oh people btw homosexuality can be passed through the gene pool in theory, the bible talks about generational curses, what your parents or ancestors did can affect the way you are. But Jesus gives us the power to cast away the generational curses from our selves. So that is something curable, its just like fornication, adultery,drunkerdness, and such mentioned in the verse i put above. But dude, you have to probably figure out the way for yourself its most likely different for each person. BTW homosexuality is't a sexuality, technically, i mean you cant fall in love with somebody of the same sex. You can have sex with them, but i bet if homosexuality was 100% fine in society, i bet almost all people would go back and forth from women to men. Why? because humans want pleasure, and humans tend to get more pleasure when they do something wrong. Another thing, for the people to know. God doesn't hate Gay people, but he is against it. Example your parents should love you if you do meth, but they will not approve of you doing it. HOPE THIS HELPS

New scientific studies are showing a strong correlation between sexual and gender (not the same thing) identity and the makeup and size of BSTc neurons within your brain. This is something that begins in the womb, and manifest by age 2-3. Speaking in terms of what this means for your sexual and gender identity, if you just know or feel a certain way, you're fighting a losing battle by going against it. As a transgender I can tell you I've felt this way as long as I can remember. I fought it but something was always wrong with my life and I knew something was wrong with everything, until I just came out with it. My sexual preference is actually none, or asexual. I haven't even had sex in over a year, I just don't feel like it and I'm fine that way. Sexual preference is manifest in a similar fashion to gender. First of all, it isn't black and white. Men and women are not opposites, and referring to people as gay or straight is misleading. Sexual preference, Gender identity, and even physical sexual characteristics are all on a different spectrum. Culturally (in the US) men are supposed to have masculine features and act masculine and like women, but nature shows this is NOT the majority. Most people have brains and bodies that have features of both sexes on gradient. It's becoming clearer scientifically that it all depends on hormones in the womb. Don't worry about it. It seems like a big deal now because you have a mindset about "the way things are and ought to be" that just doesn't stand up to the test of reality. If you just embrace who you are, you'll find your way. And people who care about you might give you grief over it, but don't let that stop you. It can be a lonely road and seem easier to just take it all back, but in the end it's worth it. Friends and family come around, and you'll find new people along the way. And remember it's not gay or straight, liking men doesn't mean you don't like women, and you don't have to "pick sides," they are just social constructions. So yes, you were born with the seeds of who you are now within you. Prayer and all the wishing in the world won't change the makeup of your genetics and brain. Things are much more diverse then major religions teach, and there is nothing unnatural about having sex with those that have similar sex organs, it happens quite a bit within nature.

You can't "become straight" - especially not "again". My friend, you were born the way you are, gay bi or hetero. Face it, celebrate it if you like (there certainly isn't anything wrong with any version) and get on with the business of enjoying and living your life. And... If any religion is bugging you about it leave the religion. It's false. It's bad for you. Plain and simple. +5

Okay....so, I HAD the same problem, and want to help EVERY "LGBT" PERSON OUT THERE...... YOU ARE NOT GAY BY YOUR ATTRACTIONS TO THE SAME SEX...YOU HAVE TO FOCUS DEEPER ON A PERSON OF THE OPPOSITE SEX'S CHARACTER AND MORALS.... WHY DO PEOPLE CALL THEMSELVES GAY? JUST BECAUSE YOU HAVE A PHYSICAL ATTRACTION FOR SOMEONE? WELL, I THINK WE SHOULD ALL BE MARRIED WITH THE OPPOSITE SEX....YES, I WAS GAY BEFORE, AND I HAD MANY PROBLEMS..BUT I GOT PAST ALL OF THE PHYSICAL ATTRACTION....AND SAID TO MYSELF WHAT I WANT IN LIFE-->I WANT A LIFE..I WANT A WIFE...I WANT KIDS..I ESPECIALLY WANT MY OWN KIDS, THAT CAME FROM ME..AND MOST IMPORTANTLY, I WANT TO BE A GOOD CHILD IN THE EYES OF GOD. Please, I know it's hard..but take steps AND REALLY STRIVE TO BECOME STRAIGHT.... for example...STOP MASTURBATING..(it takes A VERY FOCUSED MIND TO STOP THIS...).I ALWAYS FELT GUILTY AND ALWAYS WENT TO CONFESSION TO ASK FOR GOD'S FORGIVENESS, WHEN I DID MASTURBATE...BUT I HAVE STOPPED MASTURBATING AND I FEEL SO MUCH BETTER...I TRULY FEEL BETTER SPIRITUALLY, PHYSICALLY AND MENTALLY SINCE I STOPPED MASTURBATING.... THEN....STOP TRYING TO BEAT URSELF BY SAYING UR GAY JUST BECAUSE UR ATTRACTED TO THE PHYSICAL FEATURES OF THE SAME SEX.... SAY TO URSELF..U REALLY WANT UR OWN CHILDREN AND WANT TO BE A GREAT CHILD OF GOD. AND KEEP REMEMBERING THAT U MUST MUST MUST LOOK AT THE CHARACTER AND MORALS OF A PERSON OF THE OPPOSITE SEX...AND KNOW THAT ONLY THE OPPOSITE SEX PERSONS CAN GIVE YOU THE FULL BENEFIT OF LIFE AS A PARTNER.