How do you break it to your S/O that your tired of coming home from work all day to a dirty house and no food when they play PC games all day without hurting their feelings? I do love her!

When my husband complains to me about something, I immediately get defensive. However, if he approaches me like this, "You know honey, I really love it when I come home after a hard day and you've got something good made for me to eat, it just makes my day.", then I am much more likely to want to please him and do just that. Same with the house. Tell her how you love it when she makes the effort to make your house look so welcoming. Tell her you think about her all day long and can't wait to get home to her and when the house is clean, it makes you feel great.
Hope it helps!!

So long as it's said with love and genuine concern, she shouldn't get upset! You're not judging her. You're trying to have a "meaningful" conversation with her! If she CAN'T handle that. . . . .you've got a way more serious problem than a dirty house and no meals on the table! You're setting yourself up for a lifetime of disappointment! Talk to her. You'll find out real quickly her level of maturity!

don tell them that it makes you tired to come home from work to a dirty house and no food.

ask them if they could do some cleaning and have something to eat when you come home.

then just see what they say.

if they want a reason, then tell them its because you are tired of it.

that way, they at least have a chance to respond to the situation.

My question: If that is really how it is - why do you want to spare THEIR feelings?! +2

Don't get an S/O who does that. If you do, clean the house and cook dinner.