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by The Chief on November 21st, 2009
Why don't YOU tell US? You MUST have gathered SOME useful information from past questions you've posted from which you can formulate your own, reasonable, hypothesis on this subject:
"He is 59, she is 16. They have a great sex life. But is it sick?:
http://www.answerbag.com/q_view/1824553
"Is it normal for a 16 year old girl to have a crush on a 59 year old man? The girl and the man are both my neighbors and I know what is going on. The girl says she is in love and wants to marry him. The man is divorced and loves the girl as his daughter."
http://www.answerbag.com/q_view/1822761
"17 year old girl dating a 19 year old guy? I think it is okay what is your view?"
http://www.answerbag.com/q_view/1760185
"What is your view on a 14 year old girl dating a 29 year old man?"
http://www.answerbag.com/q_view/1744832
"What do you think of a 16 year old girl in love with a 31 year old man?"
http://www.answerbag.com/q_view/1740885
"What is your view on a 16 year old boy and a 12 year old girl dating?"
http://www.answerbag.com/q_view/1742752
Things that make you say "Hmmmmm...."
by Barcaluv on November 21st, 2009
I don't know, you tell me.
For a while now I've seen your preocupation with under-age/adult issues, relationships, sexual activity, etc.
It is worrisome, to me at least. Too many of those questions for comfort.
by Anonymous on November 21st, 2009
Of course there is a freaking problem!!!
That's horrible...
by CaptainHarley adores his life penguin on November 21st, 2009
Good God, yes!
by JayDee says Rawr on November 21st, 2009
Not if he was her dad.
by Kat on November 21st, 2009
Yes. I answered a similar Q the other day and got minus 100 points (slight exaggeration)
by Anonymous on November 23rd, 2009
Yes it's not quite legal.
+5
by MasacruAlex on November 21st, 2009
If they love eachother it should be ok , but the difference is a bit too high so people will talk so that will cause them problems (talking about their friends , family etc)
by J and B on November 21st, 2009
Only if he gets caught. (by the law)
by the gun man on November 21st, 2009
yes maybe i bet he is older that her dad
by Anon on November 21st, 2009
Yes. How dare he be born 41 years ago and she 17 years ago.
Just out of interest, do they know each other?
by Natylino121 on November 21st, 2009
well depends! for me no problem
by a on November 21st, 2009
yes. he needs to lose 15 yrs or she needs to gain it at the least.
by StupidGirl on November 21st, 2009
None of our business. Ask them.
by April on November 21st, 2009
Yes in many different ways she is a child still a minor not even an adult and he is an adult. He will end up going to jail before it's all said and over!
by WhenRodneyMetSaprina on November 21st, 2009
Well it all depends on what there doing. Are they playing checkers, chess, cards, it would still be awkward but really no problem... If he is her HS teacher and nothing more, then NO...If he is shopping and asking her for advice being that she may be a sales rep and stick to the topic at hand then NO...BUT if they are looking to be intimate, then YES, in most jurisdictions the law states this as a huge problem because she is a minor and may not meet the requirements of the age of consent, and it is a FELONY! So is a Felony any kind of problem is the real question that needs to be asked.
by -_You Can Leave Your Hat On....- on November 21st, 2009
ITS DEFINATELY NOT RIGHT!!
by jerryperris on November 21st, 2009
---------im a guy when i was 42yo i went out with a girl that just turn 18 so i say no to your question
by Anonymous on November 21st, 2009
Well, depending on where you live, she needs another birthday.
by Weird Science on November 21st, 2009
oh course there is a problem, that is not a very good question.
by hallagan on December 13th, 2009
....and for everything else theres mastercard
by Eileen on November 21st, 2009
So long as it is not my 17 y/o daughter he can still walk freely.
by Vaporeongirl on November 21st, 2009
Yes, because she is under 18 and he's old enough to be her dad. That is gross.
by celticmoonlight on November 21st, 2009
i think its a bigger problem for you then it is for me.
by Bob on November 21st, 2009
depends on what they do and where they do it. interpersonally, the age difference will usually result in problems, unless there's a reason they're together. like i always say, a billion dollars can help a 17 year old overlook a lot.
by roiboysatx on November 21st, 2009
no problem for her lots of problems for him.
by happiness on November 21st, 2009
the first 3 years it won't be problem. After that there will be HUGE problems.
by Jacques on November 21st, 2009
He won't last the pace.
by pandora on November 21st, 2009
Yes, this question has been re-written at least 10 different ways.
Hes 30 shes, 16
Hes 40 shes 18
Hes 29 shes 15
Hes 20 shes 14
any way you put it, its about a minor girl with and elderly man.
No matter how you put it. If she is 18 or younger and you are old enough to be her dad than yes you are a perve.
And if you are over 18 and are attracted to girls under 16 it is illegal and you are a perve.
And if you are btwn the age of 16-18 and you like girls younger that are younger than you by at least 3 years or more (meaning even younger)
You are still a perve.
by Anonymous on November 21st, 2009
She might be too old. Has she been unable to find a S/O for some reason by this age?
by Canoodle on November 21st, 2009
Not if he's her father!!! But in most other scenarios that does not a promising relationship make!!
by Rollie on February 6th, 2010
If they are having sex, it is ilegal in the US of A and is child abuse plus sexual abuse.
If they are father and daughter, so she was born when he was about 24.
If they know each other and are friends and/or relatives, fine, have a great day.
by kwowwwww on March 19th, 2010
hmm this is a tough one because a friend of mine was in a relationship like that but he was 17 and she was 40. i mean yea its kinda weird. but no one has room to judge anyone in my opinion. if thats what they want and who they wanna be with then thats how its going to be. they're not going to change thier mind just because of what a bunch of people say about them
by curious88888 on March 22nd, 2010
They would never get along. There is a huge generation gap! Why do you think teens never get along with their parents? They don't understand each other.
That is just gross and weird. The older person is taking advantage of the naive younger one.
by guiltybyassociation on December 15th, 2009
Wait till she is 18, then she is a legal adult. No problem otherwise - age is but a number
When a 51 year old shacks up with a 16 year old, are you less likely to have him arrested for statutory rape if he was a star of "Lost?"
by Piano Player on June 21st, 2011
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Does this girl look too old for this boy or do they make a cute couple?
by KrazayKid on May 31st, 2011
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Is it legal for us to do this?
by Burlesque on June 15th, 2011
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How should I tell my parents about my 18 year old boyfriend? I'm 15.
by animals124 on May 26th, 2011
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i really like this guy and hes my ex and he has a girlfriend and i know he might still like me but what should i say?
by ilikechickenalot2 on June 5th, 2011
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Comments
I have my views for myself. When someone asks a question, it means the person is looking for answers. You are supposed to say that if there is a problem or not, not advertising my questions.
by I Am Gone on November 21st, 2009
Maybe you're looking for an answer, maybe not. But one could easily come to the conclusion that you are NOT by looking at your history in your profile.
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Why? Because you've asked MANY such questions before...and other related questions as well.
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Does this mean nobody has answered your questions? Or perhaps does it mean that you simply aren't listening? Or maybe nobody has posted something that you like?
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And if you're REALLY looking for valid answers, then why haven't you looked through the 785 questions currently posted in the "Age differences in dating" catagory, some 317 of which have to do with one person being under 18?
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It's not as if this hasn't been discussed before.
by The Chief on November 21st, 2009
The only thing I see disturbing with you is that your questions having to do with sex predominately revolve around very young girls, even pre-teens.
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You told Barcalov "that those questions are fake and have nothing to do with the real world". Yet you pose many of them as REAL situations.
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Like: "YOU GOTTA HELP ME! My two cousins came to me (aged 9 and 12) and both asked me ''what is anal sex''..."
http://www.answerbag.com/q_view/1678491
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Or: "OPINION PLEASE! It is a friends 17th birthday and we called a brothel to hire a prostitute..."
http://www.answerbag.com/q_view/1684356
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And this one: "Is it normal for a 16 year old girl to have a crush on a 59 year old man? The girl and the man are both my neighbors and I know what is going on..."
http://www.answerbag.com/q_view/1822761
by The Chief on November 21st, 2009
Your pattern doesn't indicate you are looking for answers. It indicates you are simply posting questions to get a reaction.
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Well, you have my reaction. It's a disbelief that you are posting questions to get serious answers.
by The Chief on November 21st, 2009
Interesting! It's a weird, weird world.
by HasntBeen on November 21st, 2009
Indeed it is.
by The Chief on November 21st, 2009
Didn't know his question history until read your comment, and am now deeply concerned, this does seem very strange.
by JayDee says Rawr on November 21st, 2009
Very strange indeed, I'd say.
by The Chief on November 21st, 2009
Those other questions are about 14-17 year olds dating 19-25 year olds. Every peoples opinions are about the same for those situations. I just wonder what people would think if late-teens date older adults.
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For your information; I date only people my age. I had 3 girlfirends in my life and they were all same my age.
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By the way, cousin and prostitute questions are real and 16 dating 59 is fake. There is nothing wrong with 10 year olds wondering about sex so don't judge me for that question and there is also nothing wrong for 17 year olds to desire prostitutes so don't judge me with that question as well.
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The remaining questions are fake that I want to know what would happen in those unusual situations. People are free to ask any question they like as long as it isn't genderly/religiously/racefully offensive.
by I Am Gone on November 22nd, 2009
A person on AB can only be "judged" by their posted material.
When a significant fraction of any person's postings are of a sexual nature, and a repeated sexual nature, then it DOES make a person think "Hmmmmm...."
As for which are real and which are fake...you give no indication in your questions. If that is a factor, then make it obvious.
As for teens desiring prostitutes...It's not as if I were never a teen myself. I'm well aware of how teens think when it comes to matters concerning sex.
by The Chief on May 3rd, 2010