I just lost my son ten days ago. I can't stand the pain. Somebody please help me! I need to know someone really understands. No one could unless they have been through it themselves. I feel like I am going to go crazy. What do I do?
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Michele
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i'm sorry for your loss...words alone from here on the net would not give you relief from your huge loss, is what i feel...but, you have to stay strong for your other kids (i read your other answer)...and be assured, you will surely find your way out of this...
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I lost my son not quite a year and a half ago. One month before his 21st birthday. The day after his brother's 16th birthday. (Thank God it didn't happen ON my other son's birthday) I still can't believe it has happened. I look at his picture, and his ashes are on my mantel, and I can't believe he's gone. It's very very difficult. It takes forever for things to start to seem normal again. I don't know if anything will ever be completely normal. How old was your son? What happened? I had to see a therapist for a while, and I had to get stuff to help me sleep. I think it's the worst thing that can ever happen to a mom. I'm so sorry you have to go through this. It's hard to say what you should do because everyone is different. The best thing I think, though, is to talk about him and remember. I know you'll feel like you're being a big pain in the ass to everyone, but they'll understand. I used to feel guilty talking to everyone about it, I felt like I was looking for attention and dominating all the conversations, but people really do understand, and probably want to share memories with you, too!
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I am sorry for your loss. There is nothing anyone can say to take this pain away. You are right when you say that only someone who has been there can possibly know what you feel. May I suggest that you go to a grief counseling session? There will be a lot of people who know what you feel because they have been there. They will also be with you physically where we can't. Grief therapy is hard as first but it lets you know others know how you feel. You feel like you are going crazy but that's normal. Take a piece of paper and start writing how you feel. This is VERY therapeutic. Cry as much as you need to. Beat up a pillow or something but get the anger out (if you are angry). Once again I am sorry for your pain.
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I'm so sorry. The first thing to do is go through a grieving process which is inevitable. Then, you must focus your attention on another family member such as your spouse or your other children if any. Get professional help. Considering moving to another area. Most importantly, don't blame yourself.
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My son was 25 years old and died in his sleep. He died on November 8, which is also my moms bday. He has three brothers and a sister and a step sister. There were at least 500 people or more at his funeral. He was loved by everyone that knew him. he was my first born and he was my protector, he was 6'5 300plus lbs. I know his spirit is still alive which gives me comfort but the pain of knowing I can't ever feel him or touch him is unbearable. His name is Scott Bradley and he had the biggest heart you could ever even imagine
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I lost my 13 year old son many years ago.. Your going to go through a lot of different emotion.. you have a empty hole in the pit of you stomach.. only time and talking about it will get you through.. God Bless.
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I am truly and deeply sory for our loss. . I think you are right. None of us can really understand exactly what you are going through unless we have experienced the same. . I have lost several close people, such as my parents, but I don't think that is the same. Loosing a child must be much much harder. . That being said, the grieving process is understood. . While today it may not seem as if the pain will ever go away, from the experience of all of those who have lost someone before, we know that the pain will become less all consuming. . In most metropolitan areas there are support groups specifically for bereaved parents. . I would strongly encourage you to find out what is available in your area. These people have been through what you are going through now and can understand and support you! . If you are not adept at doing an internet search, your family dotor, directory assistance and likely even the funreal home can likely help. . I know that you will find the strength to go on living and to find happiness again. . Good luck!
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