Have you ever tried to change your image but can't because the people who already know you keep bringing up the old you?
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dani
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Kind of, why did you change? How did you change?
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No, I have been fairly consistent threw the years.
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Yes, my biggest change was moving from Arizona to Iowa, no one here knows what I was like 15 years ago and beyond, unless I tell them. There are good and bad points about the move...+
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maybe easier to change the people!!!!
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no, i haven't experienced this... good luck
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There is a principal known in counseling circles as the CHANGE/CHANGE BACK cycle. It goes like this. People like to react to you in the way that works for them, even if they complain about how you are. If you change, even for the "better", those people have to change too. So the reason why people are so swift about trying to return you to your pigeon hole is because they want to return to theirs. All you can do it commit to your own changes and let them struggle with their own issues with your change. Yes, I have been there and done that. Some people made the trip with me...and some people didn't.
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I need to change, but just subtly. No one knows me enough anyway to say anything.
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its as easy as, that was the old me,this is the new me,if you don't like the new me to bad for you,cause I'm happy with who I've become. Thats all you have to say
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