I think that it possible, but I don't think it will ever be possible to completely trust that person again like you did before. No matter how much you grow to trust them again, there will always be that little tiny voice in the back of your head. I don't deal with cheaters, you get one chance with me and then your out.

I think so, yeah. A mate of mine cheated on his wife - not long after their first child. Took a fair bit of counselling between both of them - mostly to work out all the complexities that went along with the arrival of their baby. They sorted that out over time. Their marriage survived it and their sex lives are actually better balanced. He's not made the same mistake again, and his wife has a much deeper understanding of her bloke now. It is never a simple "man = bastard, woman = poor, undeserving angel". Almost never anyway.

I am afraid I would not be willing to give the benefit of the doubt. Once trust is broken it can never be restored.

While said person may not cheat again, in my own personal experience, that would be as rare as a 90 degree winter day in Wisconsin...HIGHLY HIGHLY HIGHLY unlikely. (No one ever knows with the weather we do have here though.) I tried to give trust back to a man once, and he only took it and abused it. I'd step out of a relationship if you've been cheated on, or else you leave it open to too great of a chance to be cheated on again.

likely, I believe so. there is always a chance that a person can change, but it takes a lot of work and major life changes to prevent the temptation.

Well, since statistics say that around 60% of people in committed relationships cheat I think you have pretty crappy odds regardless of whether or not the person has cheated in the past. You've got a 40% chance that your partner who has NEVER cheated is going to be faithful.

All I know is that my mother cheated on my father with his brother when I wasn't born yet... and now they are married... So my mother is married to my fathers brother and she has cheated on him with 6 different guys... I'm not sure if that's how it is all the time... But I know that some people think of doing it because they want to make sure that the person they are with is actually the person that they want to be with for the rest of there lives...

Yes it is possible but that person has to not want to be that kind of a person "cheater". Ofcourse they are going to be sorry and grobble but that's no true clue they will not stray again. You have to know it was trully out of charactor and it does take away from alot of the relationship once that trust has been broken. Just the idealistic idea of only eyes for you and you're the only one for me or the only one I want to be with is obviously thrown out the window. Now those things are a little obserd it taken to heart on the knowing if they never met me they would be with someone else and they've believed they felt this way as well as you tordge another disproves the notion. The truth of it all is what is acceptable to them and thier behavior. It's relationship ethics really in what they will do when no one is looking or will find out other than themselves. What level do they hold themselves to is really the question. They can love you and cheat, excitment and selfesteem as well as society in alot of ways promotes the act but do they march to a different drum that requires them to uphold thier honor to themselves or are they content with not living up to that value as long as it is never discovered by others and some aren't concerned if others know as long as you don't find out. Pick your partner wisely and require the standards you require before choosing that person. Everyone has great aspects but it's the one that has them all which makes them that special one for you.

I don't think so. In my opinion, once a cheater, always a cheater.

I believe that it is possible. I think all depends on the person. I read above someone wrote about if its out of their character. I believer that... someone else wrote that if they really are willing to change their live around... i believer that too. You see, I cheated and that is completely out of character for me. It was at the beginning of a 6 year relationship. Before him I was young, going through the "bar scene" age, and very promiscuous... when he found out, I was devastated that i hurt him so much and I completely did a 360 change and never considered cheated ever again. But, ironically, we just broke up because he cheated on me (after 6 years)... maybe he never dealt with me. But to be honest, I just think it was a combination of lots of things... I do strongly believe that someone will not cheat unless they are lacking something from their current relationship. That is not an excuse bc they should have decency to tell you and try to talk about it instead of cheating... however, this is fact of life. I read above about someone saying 60% of ppl cheat. If you were cheated on, they could be hope. I think you know the true answer deep within yourself. Listen to those instincts and dont let others influence your decision. you need to make it, you are the only one that knows your partner taht well. and if you do decide to work through it, i strongly suggest to try and determine what was lacking for the partner to cheat in first place... lots of talking and conselling could help. good luck! :)

Yes, especially if their significant other kills them right after. This seems a like a very harsh measure to make sure they don't cheat on you again though.

Hire a PI to really find out....it's expensive but it's the best way. Hopefully, it helps. Love can blind your logic and even though he or she may say that they love you and want to be with you, how do you really know? A PI....

I'm sure they can, yes, but how horrible would it be for someone to do that, and to use the excuse that it was just one time??? Pathetic.

I GUESS IT IS POSSIBLE BUT NOT LIKELY.

YES!

It's possible. It depends on the person.

Yes it is possible. Just not likely. It could happen if there was some extenuating circumstance but probably there will be another time like it soon enough.