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by evandad on November 11th, 2009
It would be a selfish act, that would result in more harm than good.
by Miss Anubis loves this season on November 11th, 2009
No, that's not a good idea, you're supposed to be their rock of security - let them keep that as their memories of you. Find a therapist.
by StarBright on November 11th, 2009
No as a general rule. There are exceptions I'm sure.
by Millenium - The Mysterious M. . . GONE! on November 11th, 2009
I wouldn't recommend it if the "baring" is showing a weakness! I think kids need to always see their parents as strong and invincible! But if those kids are now ADULTS, I don't see the "harm" in it!
by Jadey - Vive la difference on November 11th, 2009
I think that sometimes it is necessary.
My parents didn't do it as a rule, but on the one or two occasions when I was in big trouble and needed real help my parents bared their souls to me and helped me more than they otherwise could have.
by PrairieWind on November 28th, 2009
Only if the parents don't mind being blackmailed at the most inappropriate times
by Anonymous on November 28th, 2009
That depends on what is in the bare soul. If it involves sex with animals.... NO.
by Eileen on November 28th, 2009
No, however when asked by our children questions that need answering a parent needs to be and should be honest and truthful in their reply. Unlike some folks I know that have adult child that still to this day....lie to them!
by Tate on November 28th, 2009
I think there is a balance. If your children are teens, there is a lot you can share with them that would be beneficial @ specific stages of their lives. To bare all for the sake of baring ALL.....NOT COOL! Kids DO NOT need to carry your burden of insecurities, worries or problems. They have enough to carry of their own. Some things are better left unsaid.
by DaddysGLB on November 11th, 2009
ABSOLUTELY NOT!!! While you can share some things with your children, as some life experiences can be beneficial (speaking to a child who smokes about your bout with lung cancer) however, most things would not help, and would likely cause some sort of 'trauma' to the child as a result.
For example, I wouldn't tell my children about me being gang-raped as a child. I would expect that they would just end up having anxiety as a result, either that something would happen to them, or to me again.
My soul is to cloaked with injuries to bare it to anyone but my husband and my therapist...
So no...
but even if my soul weren't so broken, I still don't think I'd share everything with my children.
by LuLu on November 11th, 2009
Hell no, because if you made a whole lot of mistakes they will go out and make the same or worse mistakes. They will even throw in your face. My kids don't skip a beat and since I'm so hard on them they would be the first to throw it up in my face so that I can't tell them anything else anymore.
by Gingerminx on November 11th, 2009
Not as a general rule, but sometimes circumstances may require it. I think it depends on whether the baring of the soul is to help the child with an issue they have or merely to aid the parent.
by Sharona Life is a Tale Told by an Idiot on November 11th, 2009
My soul is perfect, I'll bare it to anyone.
by john pennington on November 28th, 2009
It depends on the family situation.
To me, the circumstances would have to be monumental in order for me to tell it all, to my children.
A family tragedy or upcoming death would only be just cause.
by CosmicWunderkind on November 28th, 2009
No.. becasue If they did it would be a first..unless they were in court under oath..it's anathema to being a parent
by Rollie on November 28th, 2009
No. Not as a general rule. However, if you wait until they are fully grown and emotionally mature you can share with them when they have problems that need some solving. Showing that they are not alone in these problems and insecurities and how you solved may be helpful.
by Ms.A on November 28th, 2009
No,just their teeth.
by Anonymous on November 28th, 2009
Yeah!
by Self Consuming Cannibal on November 28th, 2009
No, they should bare their souls to me, because I'm the devil, disguised as a cannibal!
MWHAHAHA!!!
>:o
by pandora on November 28th, 2009
Only in telling them how much they mean to you. Sometimes children can't look past our parenting and think we do and say things (rules) to torment them and miss out on the underline reasoning behind rules. Its not about making our life easier except to keep them safe. It good to remind them everyonce in while that as much as we wish to keep them smiling we desire their long term health and happiness more than our own.
Can my kids have some of your foods?
by XT on January 27th, 2012
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If parenting were easy/all kids turned out great there'd be no need for child psychologists or folks to blame when you screw up, right?
by RosieGHM Jetpacker on January 29th, 2012
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Why did my children become morons?
by John McCain on January 28th, 2012
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Have you ever had other parents be ridiculously judgmental about your parenting style?
by Amorphous Blob on February 2nd, 2012
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my son is marrying a russian how do i get them to divorce?
by motherxxx on February 2nd, 2012
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I totally agree
by Snooch on November 11th, 2009
Thanks Evandad.
by keithold is a prodigal bagger on November 28th, 2009