What's "wrong," is to have a BF like the one you describe. He's much too controlling and dictatorial. You'd be much better off without him, I bet. +5

Yes, your boyfriend is controlling. However, dare to lie and say it doesn't feel good when other men stare.

What's wrong is that he seems to be under the impression that he owns you and you seem to think it's okay.

He is trying to control you. Maybe he is just worryed that you might go of with some else. You need to talk to him about it. The fact is girls love to look nice boyfriend or no boyfriend it is a girl thing. +5

Does it worry you that your boyfriend thinks you are his property? Its a big problem that he is making you think there is something wrong with you, not a good situation to be in.

Wear what you want. Get rid of that guy. He sounds like a muslim. You are free to do what you like. Only you can allow restrictions to be put on you and why the hell would you want that? Get a guy who likes you just the way you are.

It sounds as if he is trying to control yo. First it starts with how you dress then its where you can go and can't go. Who you can and can't talk to etc. Put your foot down now before it is too late. Once you let him have control over one aspect of your life he will take that as permission to control every aspect of your life. Also men who usually exhibit that sort of controlling behavior almost always end up at some points becoming physically violent as a means of exercising control over someone. The minute he shows this behavior get out and don't ever look back.

Just to clarify a few things.. the reason why i choose the clothes i do.. is because they make me feel more confident. I like to look nice, and its not necessarily because of other peoples reactions to the way i look, its because i feel good within myself.. a self confidence thing. If i think i look nice, i feel better about myself. My bf and i have been talking about it... and he finds it hard to believe that i dress that way for myself, because the way he sees it is that girls dress to impress, and im sure that some do.. but thats not the reason i do it. He is a very insercure person, and i can understand why it MIGHT make him feel that way. I have been asking him to try and see things from my perspective though. He has trouble accepting that i actually love him as much as i say i do. And dont get me wrong, i do, i just dont think i communicate it very well. So i am trying to help him get over his insercurities and this will make him feel more comfortable about what im wearing, and he is trying to see things from my perspective more. Do you think this is reasonable??? Im thinking i should give it a go and see if it gets any better. Im not going to change the way i look just because he asks me to, but i feel i should give him a chance to help him through some of these insercurities. What do you think??

Im also quite interested to get mens perspectives on this..

You say in your first sentence that your BF thinks you dress for attention in other words. Then you admit to wearing low-cut tops and dresses when you go out. I think that he might possibly be right and your in denial about your need for attention. Most men would consider wearing low-cut tops and dresses as advertising the merchandise. After all he remembers meeting you wearing the same types of things and what was going through his mind. It would be a small price to pay to make him happy. In the end would you rather be right than happy? Even though your intent is probably nothing... every guy that's looking at you is thinking something else. And your boyfriend and any man willing to tell the truth knows it too.

Wear whatever you want to wear and tell him to get over it.

If you're truly dressing to attract him only and not revealing *too* much then I'd say he sounds a bit insecure about his relationship with you and somewhat jealous.

no girl there is nothing wrong with you. my boyfriend is like that when ever i would where something that shows to much breast he tells me to cover up. he just doesnt want noone seeing what you got except him. boyfriends are like that

No there is nothing wrong with that. Just ask him if he would prefer to been seen with someone who is dressed sloppy and see what he says.

Not at all. The problem is that he's treating you like he's your parent and you're his child. He shouldn't be telling you how to dress. As other people have said, your boyfriend sounds very controlling. Soon, he will tell you that you can't go out because you might meet other men, then he won't want you to see friends, etc. The problem will only snowball from there. Secondly, he will begin to attack your character. It's not a far leap from saying you attract other men to saying that you are cheating on him. That's a big red flag. Maybe he's actually the one trying to attract other women. After all, a thief thinks everyone steals.

You dress anyway you want to, Know body is your keeper and I have never told my wife what to wear or not to wear because I have trust in her. If she feels good in something then giver gas hon you should feel good about yourself and the clothes you wear! If I was a girl this would be a red flag for me because what else would they control? who you hang out with? girls night out? live your own life.

"to see what's HIS"???? that is such a RED FLAG and WARNING SIGN that you need to dump this guy YESTERDAY!!!

I think he might be insecure. If you just tell him how important he is to you and that he really is the only one and also that you just like to look pretty, then maybe hell realise he should be proud of being with a woman who takes care of her appearance. Ive known some guys who really seemed to enjoy it lol I think if you show him the good sides he will understand. :)