I feel really ugly, I don't really like myself that much. I think I'm fat, and although I am trying to lose weight I still find myself unattractive. I am certainly not that hot chick that guys want. I know i'm only 14, but will a guy accept me someday?
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Your in that awkward growth stage right now. Many girls your age feel this way but always love yourself & think positive because so many girls that feel like an ugly duckling end up being so beautiful! I'll bet your pretty right now :) +5
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I used to feel exactly the same about myself at your age... I was abit chubby, my hair wasn't particualary nice and my skin was gross. Now I'm 19, healthy, happy and with the man of my dreams! All it takes is abit of confidence and self-beleif. But whatever you do, don't think your life will only be complete if you have a bf - most high school relationships tend to not last and you might regret them later... Look out for a boy that's different from the rest and will treat you like a lady! And if he doesn't come along for awhile, so what? You'll get there in the end, promise. I never thought I would but here I am!
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I think most of us felt awkward in our teens. Think about the positive qualities you have. If you are losing weight, do it for yourself, not for anyone else. If you are losing weight to impress a boy, that is the wrong reason. Losing weight should be done to make you more healthy. I wish you the best as you deserve the best. :-)
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Yes. Someone will fall madly in love with you someday. Just be patient. And remember, looks aren't everything (although you're probably much more attractive than you describe yourself). Be a happy, pleasant person to be around. Develop a good sense of humor. Learn to laugh, even when life kicks you. Guys are attracted to these traits as well.
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Most people are more attractive than they think they are. And many guys like girls who are not the ideal weight. Don't give up. You'll find someone when you least expect it.
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Awww honey ! You got many years ahead of you, so don't let this get you down ! I can honestly say I've always been in your position and you know what I learnt the hard way ! Sick and tired of always doing what guys want just to get that 5 sec of male attention, I learnt that REAL guys like girls that can hold their own ! Girls that are confident ! Girls that love themselves ! Girls that got a plan for their future and working towards it ! Sweety if you feel ugly i suggest you watch 'PHAT GIRLS', thats one movie that made me look at myself in a whole different way ! Look after yourself and better yourself ! One day you'll attract a guy who will love you as a REAL woman !
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Back in 1970 the Incredible String Band had a song called "maybe someday" You're not the first to wonder about this. Guys accept all kinds of women (you will be one one day) - not just model types or poster children for famine relief. It's all a matter of confidence. Of course I only have your word that you're fat, and you only say you think you're fat. The media seems to give the impression that anyone heavier than a beanpole is overweight, which is patent nonsense. Even the stars themselves cannot achieve the magazine-cover look - it's all done by electronic retouching. Seriously - they could take Roseanne and make her look as if she wore size 4 (not that I can think why anyone would want to). Of course, not all boys are jocks.
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I think everyone here is given alot of good advice, not much more to say but to be positive in your attitude as much as you can. I will also say that guys at your age have no clue what a real relationship is all about, they are only looking for 1 thing right now and thats sex, granted, that may eventually lead to a real relationship, but at this age i doubt it, be confident about yourself and try not to let them get you down too much. Women have it alot easier on this subject, a woman will always be able to find a man eventually, not all men find women.
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I don't see why not. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. There are men prefer a curvier type over a super skinny lady. Some of the most beautiful women that I've known have been plus sized. With that said, guys may be hesitant to approach you, because your mannerisms and body language will betray your low self-esteem. If you believe in your own attractiveness, people will be more likely to notice you in a positive way. After all, you know yourself better than anyone else, so if you give yourself a low rating, others will follow suit. You must learn to value your self. Don't base your self-worth on your ability to attract a man. As a person, you have more to offer the world (and yourself) besides just your looks. I suggest that you make a list of positive traits and review them whenever you are down on yourself.
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