does this happen every day? If it is only at certain times of the month perhaps you need some medical help.As for your boy friend does he cause any of these problems? Perhaps a heart to heart when you are both clamer could help.

No its not abuse thats stupit! I mean if you were like "You make me so sad I'm gonna kill myself." then that is. But your bf should try and make you feel better. +5

As long as you don't do it to manipulate him, it's not really abuse. However for some people it could be considered antagonizing. :S

Yeah, you simply have troubles. It's always been like that and it always in all likelihood will remain be that way, too

Sweetheart, you need to kick this guy to the curb. HE is being emotionally and verbally abusive to YOU, not the other way around. Please don't let a man treat you this way. It's NOT normal and it's NOT okay. You deserve so much better.

first of all, it is not abuse. to cry and express your feelings is a good thing. with that said, i grew up with a very sensitive mother who used to cry on my shoulder everytime my stepfather went drinking (which was almost every night). so, speaking from experience, there's nothing worse than someone who balls and cries about the same problems over and over and then proceeds to do absolutely nothing about it. at some point you have to do one of two things: 1. DO something about it, OR 2. let it go. but stop making my life a misery because you refuse to deal with your own problems in your own life. i am more than happy to help you and comfort you, but if you not willing to help yourself, then what must i do about it? i cannot live your life for you ... my advice is stop being so sensitive about everything. just realise that if someone is being an asshole, then they the asshole, NOT YOU! NEVER LET ANYONE STEAL YOUR JOY! can i tell you a secret about confidence? it doesn't exist. confidence is the illusion projected by people who act. but even those people have their fears and insecurities. forget all about what-if's and maybe's and fears and insecurities. just see reality and act. thats all there is to it.

Its not abuse. Rise above ur problems and he'll stop saying its abuse.

It is certainly NOT abuse. Some people cry more easily than others and your boyfriend needs to realize that this is part of your personality. If he still has problems with that, you can find a much better man that will understand you.

Maybe he's not using the correct words to describe his feelings. If the reason you're crying has something to do with him then he should try to fix whatever it is, but if you're crying over the same thing over and over again and he can't do anything about it, I'm sure it gets really frustrating to him. If it's something he can't fix then he may feel inadequate or useless. If the "things that normally boyfriends would do" are things that maybe just aren't part of his personality (i.e. romance, saying sweet things) he may feel like you are trying to change him and that never makes people feel good. Of course if it is along those lines, he should try to compromise, like maybe do something romantic once a month... my boyfriend and I had that issue in the beginning. Even if he's not a very romantic or considerate person, he should be willing to put in a little extra effort just because he knows it's what you want. If you're asking him to change then you probably just shouldn't be with him. Either you learn to accept it or he has to want to change on his own.

I am a firm believed in maintaining control and composure, but I acknowledge that ON OCCASION this can not be done. people usualy jump to condemn the insensitive evil man but this is not always the case, and it is often hard to identify when the woman is the abuser because they are more subtle... there is a espianage stories have more female lead roles than other genras. however "drama queen" is a trump card and trump cards are usualy used by those in the wrong... if he was the abusee he'd likely be trying to show you how to stop he'd tell you exactly what you were doing, not namecall.

nope, but it probably is very frustrating. It may depress him when you're so often depressed and cause him to feel as if he's doing something wrong.

No it's not. (Most) men don't know how to handle tears. Alot are taught it is a weakness, it's not that either. It is just a release of your emotions. Do you cry easily over happy things too?

no, not at all. He is trying to dismiss your feeling as "abuse" becasue then he wont have to face responsibilty for any wrong doing he has done against you. Also, this places him in the "victim" position, which he thinks will enable him more control. If he can convince you that you are abusing him, what can he have you do for him to make up for it?

Ask him to explain why he feels abused. Don't interrupt and don't cry. Tell him this must be addressed. Tell him you feel just as hurt as he does so why does he make you feel like the suffering is supposed to be all yours and he is so put upon. You both feel bad not just him. Tell him if he doesn't want to deal with deep emotions growing up, he can be alone most of is miserable life.

No. He probably just feels uncomfortable when you cry seemingly without justification to his way of thinking, and doesn't know how to express it, so he calls it "abuse."

Yes, with your extreme. For men this causes great stress and irritation. We are not wired the same way. In order for the two genders to get along well, each will benefit from understanding, recognizing and acting sensibly upon the differences.

i dont know how old you are? but, i used to be this way too...but then that got me INTO abusive relationships because you are putting a vulnerablitity stance forward. I agree with ladyshakespear that if he can play 'victim' then it means he has the upper hand. you are not abusing him so please dont believe that. HOWEVER you should try do something about it- go to a dr and maybe try anti depressants...it may be a chemical thing and is not actually 'you'. also, maybe try a psychologist? they can help you figure out why you are like this and what to do about it. you should try help yourself for your sake, your bfs sake and future relationships sake...i was the same but it calmed down after a while...and like i said it made me attract the wrong types of ppl.

leave that idiot. he is the abuser. if he is having trouble dealing with your crying then he is just nto worth your time. you are truly better off alone. he's no help to you- he probably just makes it worse. its time to go