A guy in my class might have to drop out if his test results don't improve so I offered to help him with his studies. Personally I don't like him because of his attitude so can someone explain to me why I'm doing this?? Got alot on my own plate as it is..
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Fluffdragon
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You are a good person.
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B/C you'd want someone to do it for you. Good for you!
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Because you're a genuine, compassionate person with a good heart. No explanation needed for that at all! +++
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You are reaching past your opinions and trying to learn something about just helping out. That is noble. However, this guy does not seem to be particularly interested in working or learning so you are casting your efforts before someone who may not appreciate it. You will learn a valuable lesson here on what is important. Take care of yourself and if you offer and he acts like he doesn't appreciate the effort, don't waste your time. He is going to have to work twice as hard as you do for him to pass and I bet he is not willing to take up the load.
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I think it's a good sign you're asking this. I think what's more important isn't that you don't like the guy but that you have a lot on your plate as it is. Are you a sucker for self-torture? Why ARE you doing this? It's very kind and generous of you, and even self-sacrificing, to help this person out, so good for you, seriously! But you have to take care of yourself otherwise, eventually, you'll be so worn out you won't be able to help anyone, not even the people you love. Is this normal for you, or was it a fluke? Honestly, if this is normal, I think you might consider seeking a psychotherapist because to me this sounds like a self-destructive cycle that you ought to get out of. You need balance in your life: selfishness is not good but selflessness is not good either, IMO. It's like on air-planes, they say to put on your own oxygen mask before helping others put theirs on: it's because you can't help anyone if you don't help yourself first.
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You want others {us, less than perferct strangers] to explain to you, whom we don't know, why you are doing something with or for another person unknown to us - is that the question? My first guess is you would, should and or do know a heck a lot more about your reason{s} than anyone else. Yep - that should get me some demerits. +5 to you.
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I used to be a good person out of habit -- let me help you so we can all evolve, flag down the mothership and get the feck off this planet. I've had to learn the hard way that life doesn't work this way. What makes me especially suspicious is that you're saying that you don't even like this person, and that you don't have the resources to help ("a lot on my plate") either. This doesn't bode well. Helping is essentially a deal between two people -- unspoken, maybe, but it's a deal. Make sure that you're getting your share, too -- and even if it's just a bit of respect and gratefulness. If you're interpreting your behaviour as essentially destructive, here's your analysis: you're good, but the world is a festering can of worms -- analysis complete. Now go change your behaviour.
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