Can anyone give me advice, and tell me if im a jerk? Read my answer for the story,
Thanks in advance
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ANSWERS: 16
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I'll give it a shot, what do you need advice on? Okay just read it. Are you a jerk, I don't think so but you made a pretty foolish promise. You should at least text her to let her know that she lied to you and that if she were your best friend she would have been honest. That clears up her questions as to why you no longer want to be "best friends"
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Sure, what did you do?
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Go ahead.
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I went out with a girl, and before that, I promised her I would not stop being friends with her, no matter what happened. (dumb move I know) Well she dumped me, saying she was too stressed for a boyfriend, and all that. 2 weeks later, she had a new boyfriend. She has still been trying to text me and stuff all the time, like we used to. But I took her off my myspace, havent replied to any of her texts. She even had her bestfriend ask me if I hated her. Im not really planning on talking to her again. Is it so bad that I dont want too?
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I don't understand how you expect me or anyone else to answer your ? without telling us 1st what you did to be a jerk! I"ll be happy to give you my opinion once I have the information, though.
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Your original promise to her was based on her being honest with you. I think that is just common sense. Dumping you the way she did violated that trust. In my opinion all bets are off and you are free to do as you choose.
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no, you're not a jerk and it's pretty hurtful that 2 weeks later she got a new boyfriend after that excuse she gave you.
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Promises made in the heat of romance are not always something we can live up to. You are NOT a jerk. You are hurt, and you are distancing yourself from that hurt. You are on the right path. Keep doing what you are doing.
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I wouldn't say you are a jerk, but hope there was a lesson learned regarding promises. Its tough to go back to the friend role after a break-up. I agree with an above answer. Let her know it was not your intention to break your promise and that you are struggling more than you had anticipated. Ask her for some time and space to get over and come to terms with things. Your feelings may change when things are not so fresh. Re-evaluate how you feel in a month or two. Maybe nothing will have changed and the friendship is gone for good, but some time may be all you need.
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No you are not a jerk First of all she is a jerk for not being honest...2 weeks after telling you she is too stress and now she is seeing someone else. Hey your feelings matter and woman will always play on men and keep them around as friends how convient!!! No honey you deserve more than that and she lost a good thing. A jerk Never! Find someone who is not too stress and can give you your time!
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You're not a jerk. That was a learning experience for you. It won't do you any good to hold grudges though. She lied to you yes, but maybe she was scared to tell you that it wasn't working with you. Just tell her directly that you need time and hopefully you and her will both learn something from this =)
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You based this promise on a trust you had for her. Once a trust is broken (the manner inwhich you were dumped by her) its pretty much null and void in my view. Don't beat yourself up over this. Ask yourself one question, will this matter 5 years from now?
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You need time....plain and simple tell/text her that, tell her that you will contact her when you're ready, and if you don't hate her, add that.
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Jerk? No. But you owe her an explanation. Avoiding her is childish, so tell her why you're upset. After re-connecting, then decide if you want to continue as you were before.
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You didn't do anything wrong. She is the one being the jerk...
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Umm I couldn't say? ...??
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