"Our job (parents) is to show you basic right and wrong, but let you (the child) make the choices." What do you think?
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Lucybell
ANSWERS: 15
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our job is to prepare them from adulthood and raise them to know right from wrong and choose the right. we may fail or we may succeed, but an intelectual knowledge of right wrom wrong is worthless with out the moral fortitude to choose the right.
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The statement is alright, but for the fact that some choices require more maturity and experience than children have. As important as it is for children to learn how to make their own decisions, SOME things they'll have to take their parent's "word" for, or do "just because" their parents say so.
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natural consquence is a good teaching tool for parents. I think you have it about right, guidence is the best thing you have..
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The social role of parent is to prepare our offspring for our society. The reason this is needed is due to the stark contrast between our social rules of conduct and our natural instinct. Therefore, for the progeny to have a solid chance at navigating our society while repressing the natural instincts we deem unwelcome in our social order they must be behavior modified to conform to our social rules. If you honestly think about it everything you teach your child to do is indeed a coping mechanism for our society.
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Right to a point, but it would depend alot on the age of the child making the decisions.
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For the most part yes. As long as it isn't illegal, immoral, or if someone could get hurt, I think its ok. Its good for kids to make bad decisions sometimes. That is how they learn. They need to learn the consequences for decisions they make. As parents, we want to step in and protect them and prevent them from doing this, but sometimes we just have to step back. A perfect example; when my son was around 6, he wanted to play outside. It was a little cold, but he didn't want to wear his coat. About 5 minutes later he came back in the house complaining about how bad he was freezing. All I said to him was "What could you do to be warmer outside?" He said "wear my coat."
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You don't mention age. When children first start being able to make decisions they still need their parents' guidance.
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I do agree! I feel we as parents are there for our kids while they can't make decisions, but as we teach them right from wrong and as they grow older, we hope they listen to us. Sometimes kids need to learn right from wrong by making their own decisions. I am saying this "only" when they get old enough. I am not saying let them run wild, but trust and respect has to be given to kids as well.
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I think that is basically right, though as a parent, I would want to STEER and GUIDE my child from making poor choices, or bad choices that can potentially ruin his/her life forever. That extra step is better than just showing them what is right and wrong, and letting them do whatever they want.
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I think it is also important to let your child learn and recover from mistakes and bad choices (within reason) in a safe environment while balancing that with making sure that they are also responsible for the outcome of their decisions. That can be a tough thing to do but honestly, I think there is as much to be learned from the failure and it's consequences
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Yup!!! i Agree with you , parents need to guide them to right paths and let them decide and make the main decisions of there life:)
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I'd focus on slowly developing the understanding of the consequences of actions, independence, self-reliability and developing emotional intelligence, i.e. skills to understand Your emotions and those of others. . "Right" and "wrong" is too relative to teach it without being judgemental and being tempted to put unnecessary restrictions on the child, making the child an emotional criple later on in life. . And I don't agree with always giving the child a choice. Some things are too important and the child is not mature to predict the consequences to allow the child to make the choice. . Like asking the child to participate in the choice whether to divorce or not and whether to move to another place or not.
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Yes, your right. No, one can control anyone.
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thats awesome, if only kids were a little smarter at younger ages lol
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Oh? Well, two "children" chose to shoot up Columbine High School. Should their parents have been just a little more stern in their parental approach?
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