The fact you have to ask means you should wait until YOU are completely ready. If he will not wait, he is not right for you.

I completely agree with Mike777...with you askiing this question your having doubts so thats a really BIG signal that your not ready. I would talk to him and tell him what you think and if he keeps trying to push you into it then hes DEFINATELY not right for you...

Someone talking from experience you should wait. I wish i would of waited because the longer you wait and you want it more the more you will like it and it should be with someone you might marry someday!

No matter where in the world you live it's almost certainly illegal for your boyfriend to have sex with you. In some parts of the US it's called statutory rape. A wrong word from either of you after you've done it and he could end up in prison and I'm sure you wouldn't want that to happen.

Sweetie, if he is really a friend and he likes you as much as you say, he will wait until you are at least 18 or so. Give it time, sex is not everything. It may seem like that now, but when you are older you will think back and be glad you waited.

Honey, I would not do this if I were you. First of all your to young. I would encourage you to wait until marriage. This young boy may hurt your feelings, and go to the next. I don't believe young people your age know what true love is yet. I thought I knew, but think God I did not engage until I was 19, but still I wish I had waited until marriage. When I was in high school, their was kids that had sex, but I tell you, rumors were definitely going around. Virginity is the most precious gift you can give to your spouse. It's definetly something you will want all the time. So please save yourself for the one you'll spend your life with. Keep yourself motivated with your education. Take a few trip around the world. Make the best out of your youth and enjoy.

Thirteen? you are still a baby. Wish i knew your phone no. Your parents should know. Anyone told you about aids, pregnancy and herpes? Thirteen? consensual sex at your age is illegal.

Honestly, you need to wait. You are way too young and something like sex should not even be in your mind at an age like that. Take your time and enjoy what life has to offer, you will be thankful that you waited.

Yeah, seriously a bad idea to have sex at your age. If you did, it'd probably be the biggest mistake you ever made. You haven't lived long enough to see how much sex screws up most relationships - And a 15-year-old who's had sex should be in therapy, not dating 13-year-olds.

if you love him then don't...he can go to jail for many many years if he is found to have had sex with a minor and I am sorry but your are a minor in the eyes of the law ... so again if you like him then don't

this is about as friendly as i can be about this: you are nowhere near ready for sex. i know you think you are, but you are a child. and like many people have said already, it's illegal for him to have sex with you. also, you won't be with him forever despite what you may think now. do yourself a favor and be a kid.

You're so young, with so much life ahead of you. Sex isn't all it's cracked up to be... Save it, and just have fun being with eachother.

wow your 13... i wouldn't give it up yet so to speak... i lost mine when i was 13 and i regret it to this day i would wait i know you love him and if he really loves you then i think he will wait for you to be ready... if you are asking this question then you are NOT ready so please don't make a mistake... be carful what you do cause its not something you can take back!

your decision making part of the brain isnt fully developed untill you are 25 i know that seems like ages and you have a verry strong dessire for sex the longer you waite the better it will be and the less chance of you regretting your acctions if you want itthat bad though try masterbating i no it sounds gross but it helped me alot coz i was in the egsact same situation at your age loke realy the same 1

I really think you should wait until you are to young myself. Why not wait until you are at least you married or become married?

Please don't! Take it from someone who had sex at 14. It's not all it's cracked up to be. You're body isn't even mature enough to enjoy it, so it pretty much is boring and the only feeling you get is pain. If you accidently get pregnant, it could kill you, or you can get an STD that can affect you the rest of your life. Most of the people at school with treat you bad and call you names like slut and whore. You won't get much respect at all. Perverted guys will call your house at midnight asking for "favors." Try explaining that to your parents. And when your parents finally catch on to what you are doing, chances are you will no longer have a social life!!! Trust me, not worth it! It is much better if you wait til you are older. If he loves you as much as you love him he will wait for you. Trust me on that. If you make him wait you will see if he really cares or if he just wants to get laid.

There will always be the first time and hey he's done it before, make sure to pop the pill

if your no ready you should wait tell him how you feel and see what he has to say

Oh, honey, don't screw up your life at 13. Trust me, you are not ready yet.

It's AWSOME that you love him but, don't be like a stupid American and have sex early. You are both WAY TOO YOUNG, especially you, to be having sex; wait another 10 or so years or at least till your late teens or early 20s. The world don't need anther teen pregnancy or an abortion afterwords.

I think its a bad idea. The odds of you having a lasting relationship out of this are slim to none. If you have both been dating for an extended period of time consider it then. There's no rush, you only have a first time once, make sure its with someone special. Even if you don't wind up together you will still have memories of your first time, you don't want those memories to be of rushing into something you were not ready for. Think hard you can't take it back. If you do it anyway make sure you use protection, you don't need to be another teenage parent, especially at 13.

bad idea, but if you really want to try buttsex you wont get pregnant :)

being only 13 and 15 you NEED to wait. and being 13 im not sure how you know you love him and want to spend the rest of your life with him.

Listen to someone who know's about this from experiance hon... I know that you will make your own choices and do what you feel is right (even if its just because you were wrapped up in the moment), but at least listen to what myself and others have to say. I know there's the whole, "age doesn't matter when it comes to love" thing and that adults marry other adults with quite an age difference, but your quite a bit younger than he is, don't you think? Which means that your body isn't as developed as his is (a guy's sexually mature age: 18. A girl's: 21.). Please keep in mind that his hormones are far more powerful than your's are, so if he really wants it, he'll get it. Since he's apparently waiting for you to say its alright, I would say that he'll live without it. Also know that until your 18, its illegal to have sex- it would be considered rape. Plus, since he's done it before, he may have an STD which you can get from him. If you do have sex, please have "safe" sex. Chances are you can't get the pill yet, so have him use a condom. Also understand that condoms do not always work as they can break (and that you may be allergic to whats used to make it), and you could become pregnant. -I always say, unless you and your partner are both willing to raise a child in case you do become pregnant, don't have sex. Of course, sex usually hurts the first time or so, so you have to have a very strong trust built between the two of you so he'll listen to you and all when your doing it. I lost my virginity, and while my guy and I love each other and both get "excited" in that way, I really do wish that I had never done it. Even though I want to have sex and its hard to resist, I wish I had waited until I got married. Hope this helps you and whoever else may happen to read this.

Don't. I say wait. Its not good to have sex at 13. God. The guy will just have sex with you break up with you the next day and find another girl. Trust me i know. My step sister has been through this.

You're not ready. You are absolutely not ready. He wasn't ready at his age, either, even if the equipment is "ready" and "working". There's so much more to sex than the mechanics and the immature (to be honest) feelings that you bring now. You told me yourself that you aren't ready. When you say "I don't know if ..." it means "I AM NOT READY". You have a long life ahead of you. At 13 you can expect to live another 60 years, easily, and probably more. I'm not going to invalidate this feeling that you say you have of "wanting to be with him always", but if that's true, then what's another year or two ... or seven or eight? The thing to do now is to put him off for a while (the longer, the better, in my opinion) and test whether HE is willing to wait for YOU to "be with him forever". My bet is that he won't. He'll drop you quickly and find another girl who's willing to fall for whatever he says so he can get into her pants. Do you want to be with THAT guy? On the other hand, if he's willing to give you the time you need to mature and be REALLY ready -- and the space to let you grow up (because you have no idea what changes you'll go through in the next five to eight years), then maybe he's worth the wait.

First of all this whole letter was about what HE wants. And thats not how it goes. You already clearly stated that your not ready. And you said he has had sex already. So that makes it worse. What if he contracted some kinda of disease. AIDS is not curable, honey. But It doesn't matter how many times he has had sex. Don't you know boys at that age just want to make themselves happy. Im talking about sex here. Once they cum. They are finished. When boys at that age have sex they don't give a crap if you feel good in the process. So even if you did have sex there would NOTHING in it for you. Enless you just don't care about yourself, I would say wait. And when you say you "love" him, really think about that. I mean are you willing to die for him? Are you willing to stay with him through anything and everything, such as addictions, other girls, changes, and other unexpected things? You've got the rest of your life to have sex. Wait.

No no and no. You are only 13 and he is only 15 - that makes both of you minors and technically it is illegal for both of you to be having sex - even with another minor. Aside from the legalities, it is easy for a teenaged girl to believe she is in love especially when she becomes sexually active. Boys are easily able to separate love and sex. He might unintentionally break your heart by breaking up with you not long after you begin having sex because he likes someone else. Can you handle that? Finally - what if you get a disease or get pregnant? Birth control doesn't always work.

You're 13. You have plenty of time for sex. If you're not ready, wait, and your guy will respect that if he loves you. Whenever you do decide to go for it, please use a condom or get on the pill.

No matter how many people tell you to do it or not to it doesn't matter because at the end of the day it is still your choice to make. Instead of asking others you should ask yourself.

Considering the soft spot on your skull has only been closed for 10 or 11 years, maybe it wouldn't be such a bad idea to wait a little longer.

You REALLY shouldn't!!! Believe me, it may not seem like a big deal now to have sex (you're probably thinking, "So what? It's just sex") but it can affect your reputation FOREVER. And I know that you're probably sick of being called "little" too (take it from me, the youngest in my family) but biologically speaking, your brain isn't finished growing, and how you feel now about sex is almost garanteed to be different from the way you will feel about sex even a year from now. Finally, people will inevitably find out (if not from you, then from your boyfriend - guys WILL brag about "tapping" girls, no matter what they claim to say), and girls will brand you with labels like "slut" and "whore" that will follow you throughout the rest of high school. Finally, there's a high chance on STDs, pregnancy, and high emotional distress. Sorry for the long lecture, but please, please wait, and talk to a trusted loved one if you ever want to have sex as a teen.

If you really love him you could wait a few more years, when your trust is better, your more mature and older, and when your COMPLETELY sure of it.