We are writing our own wedding vows. Is it tacky to read them off a piece of paper. I know I'm not going to remember them. I will be to busy being emotional.
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hottkoko
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No that's not tacky. A lot of people do that. Hey look at it this way, at least your partner knows your not just pulling those words out of your ass at the moment. They actually came from your heart.
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what's tackier: you reading them off a piece of paper or repeating what the minister is reading off a piece of paper? ... we did this and i wished i had written mine ... she did and it was lovely and succinct ... mine started out great until i started rambling on and she had to tell me to be quiet and get back to the point ... you don't have to scratch it down on a napkin, you could have it very nicely printed that could be framed later on, or included in your wedding album ... will come in handy down the road if a rough patch hits and you need a reminder of why you married the jerk in the first place
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Everything you said is okay with me. But watch out for her strong muscular brothers, assuming you are male. They might have a difference of opinion later.
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Two words: Cue Cards. Have the Best Man and Maid of Honor hold them. Start a trend!
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You know, there IS a solution here, in addition to practice, practice, practice! . If the location of your wedding is suitable, and your eye sight is good enough, you MIGHT consider a large poster which would be mounted on a wall behind the groom, but out of sight of the people attending. . This way you could recite your vows and if you get a little lost, you could casually flick just your eyes to the poster and then back to the groom. No head movements involved. Nobody would notice except your husband-to-be. . Just make sure to use large, plain, PRINT on a light colored (white/cream) poster, nothing fancy. You want it to be easily readable from wherever you stand. . Oh, and good luck and congratulations!
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how about NOT writing your vows? self written vows are tacky and none of your guests will remember them or care what they said one hour after the wedding. Just have the minister say something short and sweet and you won't have to memorize anything other than "I DO".
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I wouldn't think it was tacky at all. It'll make the wedding a lot more personal to have your own vows. Just don't forget your reading glasses, or cry so much that the ink runs and you can't read your notes! And congratulations!
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I see absolutely NOTHING wrong with reading them off a piece of paper; and I'm about as "pr-r-r-rim and propah" as they get when it comes to etiquette!
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Rent a teleprompter! It works great for the President.
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Read them, you've got enough on your plate already without worrying about forgetting them.
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I don't think it's tacky at all. Maybe see if you can find a nice billfold or something to put the piece of paper in and read from that.
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Get the minister to read them, say I do, kiss then cry :-)
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Put them on a beautiful piece of really NICE paper...card stock or something like that.....take deep, slow, relaxing breaths and read away... You can also slip your paper into some sort of decorative book to hold too.... I hope your day is as special and beautiful as you may have dreamed it would be!
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If you cant remember them get a earpiece (mobile phone) and have someone read them to you! Its very descreate and will make you feel more comforatable
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My wife and I wrote our own wows. WE read them off paper and we both cried like babies...We even got the JP crying.
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