Much depends. I spent a lot of growing-up time alone and did not marry. Being alone is natural. I eat, travel, sleep, and live alone; all very comfortably. I often think of the things I would have missed had I gone the normal route of a domestic life with lots of background small-talk. Some people never were exposed to being alone as a positive thing, or were hardly exposed to it at all. They may have the more difficult adjustment. Some, also so lacking experience with being alone, may find themselves that way due to divorce or widowhood, only to find it suits them surprisingly well.

I was married 4 years the first time, but we were together 3 years before that. We were separated for 30 days before I filed for divorce, then it took 90 days to be finalized by the court. I don't recall how long it took to get used to being alone, but I didn't date again for a good 2 years. The 2nd time marriage we were together for 1 years, married for 2 years and I filed immediately, and was divorced 90 days later. This time I was seeing someone before I left him, so I bounced right back, but after I moved into my own place, I wanted to be alone, so I ended that relationship too. I have dated off and on, but for the most part, I'm realizing that being alone is just where I need to be right now. I really need to figure out who I am and accept myself just as I am before I can expect someone else to do the same. Being alone is not so bad. Especially if you are a woman. We get trapped in this mode of thinking that we need a man to take care of us and it's simply not true. I feel like a stronger person when I am taking care of myself. The last marriage broke me and left my credit in ruins. So my focus right now is fixing all of that and getting my life back on track. I'm going back to school for ME. I'm making MY own friends. Life is about me right now and someday, maybe I will be ready to share my life with someone. But I'm in no rush.

i got used to being alone right away since my ex hubby was always away for work anyways ... and we dated for 7 yrs and were married for 2 yrs .

In my 20 years of working with fathers, and divorced men in general, I find they frequently can go through years of depression, often making stupid choices as a result. One of those is a suicide rate 7 times higher than women as a result of a breakup.

1. A very, very short time. 2. 29 years.